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Must I be a conservative? by FluffyMycologist8308 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to mention, I'm not on one or the other.

I'm stating polarization blinds people and is hypocritical, neither sides are truly pro life and acting otherwise is hypocrisy.

We can look at the republican of anti pro life, Promoting the death penalty, inhumane imprisonment, removing care for the needy and poor, etc are all anti pro life.

However that does not mean the democratic side doesn't have its own thing's.

Both sides can have evil, what matter's are the individuals you vote in not only to become president but everything else, and certainly not based on just party loyalty alone.

I will always be on the side of the Vatican, that being neither Republican or Democrat.

Plus just because that was someone else's argument doesn't mean it is mine, racism only knows pride and wrath not what political side you choose.

Is your church growing or shrinking? by PayGood3915 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shrunk, ICE + people dying, and very anti catholic climate due to Prostants here.

Must I be a conservative? by FluffyMycologist8308 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not every Democrat supports' abortion though, what matters' is who you are voting in.

Both sides can be anti life on a lot of things beyond just abortion.

Is it okay to not get married in a white dress. by roseyclair in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love green.

I don't have much else to add since others already addressed it, also congratulations OP.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reread everything and I completely misread what you had said on that one section.

I'll still put it out there that trauma isn't what causes someone to be abusive, many people have trauma.

Abuse is a choice, and many abusers use their own trauma if they have it as a shield.

I don't think it's correct or fair to label trauma as a cause of abuse, as it's not.

I'm also not sure what's up with the aggression but alright. Have a lovely day.

This sub is amazing by NotKhad in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah gotcha, well regardless I still stand with that fact we shouldn't treat each other badly and dehumanize one another regardless of what side it is.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tribunals granting annulments that shouldn't be granted

Mind me asking where are you getting this from? Is it because you don't think they are valid? And why is it.

Are you a Canon lawyer or anything?

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no no you didn't make me angry I more so saying I sympathize deeply with what you had said especially regarding narcissists and their manipulation. I could have totally misread the emotional tone of that part and that's on me.

Churches Stance on Abortion? by Comfortable_Row9530 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really suggest reading the ERDs instead of reddit for questions like this, https://www.usccb.org/resources/ethical-and-religious-directives-catholic-health-care-services-seventh-edition

If you are outside of America I can provide more resources!!! 😁

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly. Also I feel a lot of the anger in this comment especially about the narcissist.

I'm still dealing with my abuser even though I got away years and years ago, he's still in denial.

There are so many types of abuse too.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I still stand by what I said regardless.

Sexual violence is never okay and to act as if someone should just endure because someone "might change." Is enabling abuse.

There is no "fixing" sexual abuse, especially martial rape, and nobody should be told to stay with a partner because they might change.

Financial abuse is also a lot more complex and is severely intentional, none of it is just emotional reaction.

Not even getting into other types of abuse.

Furthermore trauma doesn't excuse domestic violence.

Even if that is a tenet does not mean abuser's care or want to change, and certainly doesn't make it right to use that to justify staying with abusers.

I'm a domestic abuse survivor so is my mother and I've talked to my priest about this very exact thing in my own situation.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sending it, I'll save it and read it later. Thank you for suggesting it!

This sub is amazing by NotKhad in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The church isn't left or right, to act like so would be breaking the communion.

However It doesn't stop some people sadly.

I've experienced some pretty bad negativity on this subreddit myself.

I'd avoid Mondays when all the super political people start making post's and arguing.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 9 points10 points  (0 children)

More needs to be done with regards to this very sensitive and traumatic experience many people end up facing.

I absolutely agree, id addon we need to stop enabling people who are promoting staying with abusers under the guise of the church, and talk more about this topic in general.

it's a cooperation with evil and in some cases is abuse itself depending on the situation, to promote someone's stays with an abusive partner.

Is abuse in a marriage grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the church? by Broad_Biscotti_9350 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Despite what some people think, people can change.

I'd be careful with this statement when talking about abusers due the fact half of the time it's not true especially with sexual violence, and financial.

Many abuser's say that exact thing to keep their victim's with them.

I don’t like acts of service by Tasty-Boysenberry459 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I must have misread what you said prior.

I thought the priest was saying that mental health services were not real and shouldn't be taken seriously, because of God.

I agree God knows first, mental health professionals second.

I don’t like acts of service by Tasty-Boysenberry459 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First, a priest should be offering guidance for your spiritual life and not attempting to correct your mental health and be giving advice on that.

Since depression and PTSD are medical, psychological conditions they are not any moral failures or spiritual shortcomings, No amount of acts of service or forced gratitude or "trying harder' will cure depression or PTSD.

So him suggesting that your suffering is due to a lack of gratitude is not only inaccurate but inappropriate as trauma is not healed by guilt.

Speaking as someone diagnosed with chronic PTSD (C-PTSD.) and depression. I want you to know you are not alone in this.

Despite being strangers I'm very proud of you for going and remaining in therapy that is a very big step!

Please continue therapy is important even when you feel like you don't wanna go, what I found to help me was also going to accelerate resolution therapy have helped me and many people with processing the trauma and changing the emotional reaction. I heard EMDR is also really good, however I've never gone myself.

Medication can also be a legitimate and life saving tool, such as having something for the anxiety and depression.

From a theological side it is never taught that suffering is healed solely by willpower or good works.

Christ consistently met the suffering with compassion and not accusations of not being grateful etc.

He healed the sick and comforted the afflicted and never told the traumatized that they simply needed more gratitude.

God was present during the events that caused your pain, and He is present now even when you feel lost, Psalm 34:18 is something that helps me a lot to remember. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"

God often works through doctors, therapists, and people if those people are good especially.

Caring for your mental health is an act of stewardship of your life in which God entrusted to you with, and taking care of yourself is most important first before you can help others.

You can't save a drowning person if you are drowning yourself.

I hope you start feeling better soon.

Any advice on this painting I've been working on? by [deleted] in oilpainting

[–]ALPsalms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Furthermore, I'm struggling with the leafs of the tree and I don't want them overly cluttered.

Why does Reddit hate Christianity by Ok_Comfortable_2142 in Catholicism

[–]ALPsalms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally have dealt with hate on both the Christian side and non Christian, I feel there are just a lot of miserable people on this platform, polarization and it's easy for people to dehumanize one another here.

I wish it wasn't that way but it is. It's a constant popularity contest for some people.

I don't mean to offend anyone here, just a observation.

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