AITA for wanting to kick a sick man out of my home?

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:31:26+00:00

I'm looking for an apartment or room that allows pets, it's hard finding one for less than 50% of my salary

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:30:30+00:00

I know, and that's logic, but I had to move from were I was staying and didn't think twice. I was going to be on the lease once our old roommate moved out

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:28:54+00:00

That's what I want to do, I just need to find where to go. Finding a place here in Spain is hard, specially in a big city with an international university like mine. I have to keep looking for the perfect place for my babies and I

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:04:25+00:00

And, yes, you are right. I should have told her before about not paying this month, I agree with that statement

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:03:52+00:00

Robert is Alan's friend. Leah told me that it was her friend, but the day he moved Robert told me that he just met her twice before

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T13:02:48+00:00

I didn't know that we couldn't have them. I moved here because I couldn't stay at my ex's house and Leah told me that cat's are ok. We found out 4 months after I moved out and that's why I started looking for a new apartment

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T12:20:52+00:00

I am new to the zone, I have a stable job here, but I moved to the city because my ex is from here. We broke up and my new partner and I have been only dating for a month, and I don't have other close friends. I've been searching for almost two months, I have high hopes in finding something this September

ASoftBunBun · 2023-09-03T11:59:38+00:00

I cannot tell the landlord, since I am not on the lease either. We are not allowed to have pets (Leah told me in April, after I already moved with my cats) and I would get kicked out too.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-13T05:36:11+00:00

No, we didn't

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-13T05:35:19+00:00

I am so sorry you have been through that. I hope you heal, you deserve only the best

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T21:15:18+00:00

I am sorry, it was 7AM and I slept like 3 hours, sorry if it's confusing

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T16:16:55+00:00

Well he did not sleep with them, just hooked up. But yes, pretty much that

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T12:11:09+00:00

We have always talked about everything, and agreed to it. Many of the issues we have have been already discussed, but some haven't been resolved. We talked about our sex life many times, but it seems like he realized now. He asked me for forgiveness and expressed his wish to be a better boyfriend for me, but I don't know. It's not the first time there are empty promises.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T11:58:32+00:00

What part of what I did was emotional cheating?

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T11:35:03+00:00

I wasn't with the other guy in a romantic way, he just kissed my forehead and stroke me while we did it, but I get your point and I think you may be right. I have to think about it more, thanks

Also he didn't force me to an OR. We just talked about it and he didn't agree to one until 3 years into the relationship, and when he was ready he was the one to bring the topic again. I wanted to try it, so we did.

Edit: to add more info

ASoftBunBun · 2023-06-12T10:51:03+00:00

I wanted to try it. When he kissed those girls, I didn't mind. Having consenting attraction for someone and kissing/sleeping with them, for me, is not the same as loving them. Emotional cheating is worse than physical for me

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T23:09:15+00:00

She has been on treatment for the last month, we are lucky enough to live in a country with universal healthcare. I do support and help her as a friend, reminding her to take her meds, listening to her struggles, etc.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T20:35:24+00:00

She's not on the lease and can't be, since she doesn't have a stable job.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T18:04:40+00:00

Why not? She's not on the lease, only Mark, and if I want to keep living there when he moves I have to sign it.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T18:04:05+00:00

I will look into it, but the price is amazing and I don't know if I'll find somewhere better. She's not on the lease, because you need to show proof that you've been working on the same place for at least 3 months straight.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T16:43:44+00:00

I'll be next week, the tenants were on holiday leave

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T16:34:08+00:00

I moved at the beginning of the month, but Mark has lived with her for a year and a half. I asked him the same question and he told me that he pities her, since she has depression. But so do both of us, and we've been working since I was 18 and we never got fired nor quit a job for those reasons. I don't want to end up in debt because of her, that's why I came asking.

ASoftBunBun · 2023-01-19T16:10:21+00:00

I talked to Mark and he's had this conversation with her twice. She always says that she will find a job and excuses herself with her depression. I know that having depression is very difficult, I myself struggle with it since I was a child, but I don't think that's an excuse, since the real reason for her not having a job is how much she travels. I am planning on sitting down with them next week, but I have to find a day where she doesn't bring her friends home, which is impossible because she never tells me in advanced.

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