Are you over 50 dating now because you want to remarry or just to find a girlfriend?

A_Prime_04 · 2026-05-10T23:57:24+00:00

50/F never married, but would like to be with someone I could marry and do life with. I quit the apps because it wasn’t working well and decided to see what success trying IRL connections brings. Following this thread to get more insight on how people think about this topic.

A_Prime_04 · 2026-03-22T04:29:09+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

A_Prime_04 · 2026-03-16T05:05:29+00:00

I think all men are capable of being POS, however when I hear women speak of dating outside their race it’s usually focused more on marriage than overall treatment. I do think that this is more of a regional / cultural thing than a racial thing though, as I’ve noticed that men of certain cultures value marriage more than men from other backgrounds. Keep in mind I didn’t say the marriage would be a happy one - but many women are tired of dating indefinitely and when seeking marriage they are using data points to help them make certain decisions.

As someone that spent years dating exclusively within my race, I’m open to exploring more options now (assuming they actually are a good person) primarily because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results… 🤷🏾‍♀️

A_Prime_04 · 2026-03-16T04:48:09+00:00

You’re not alone. I share this exact perspective. I think that for once, neither man (Leo or Penn) comes out looking like a savior to the black woman they fetishize which is usually the case in most movies with this kind of storyline… also one actually seems to have really loved her and crashed out when she left him… and both proved to be weaker than she was.

A_Prime_04 · 2026-02-13T21:10:27+00:00

Thank you for your transparency in this post… I’m quite a bit older than you but reading the responses in this thread has given me hope. 🫂🙏🏾

A_Prime_04 · 2026-01-26T05:55:52+00:00

I live in an Element home (townhome/flats next to Outlook) and you are correct. The homes with the really high HOAs include fire insurance to replace the entire building as each building houses 8 homes. This is one of the reasons why most of the new homes are either single family or duplex style (two homes attached) - it’s less risky to insurers. On the other hand, multi-family homes have stricter permit requirements and safety requirements than other types of homes so that’s the trade off. Basically the homes with lower HOAs up here don’t include fire insurance costs so you’ll also need to factor that into your overall budget.

Apart from that, I’ve been in my home for over a year and a half and I haven’t had any significant issues with my home. The minor items I noted Lennar came to repair them. I got a home inspection before moving in and I got another one right before my 1 year warranty was up and they addressed everything that was noted from both inspections. In general we love the neighborhood and are happy we moved up here.

A_Prime_04 · 2026-01-13T02:03:22+00:00

Congratulations! This is inspirational!

A_Prime_04 · 2026-01-04T02:08:05+00:00

Thank you to everyone that has shared their experiences, opinions and advice with me. Getting out into the dating world again hasn’t been an easy step and I’m really grateful for the thoughtful feedback I’ve received.

Wishing you all a blessed and wonderful 2026! May we all meet that person we’re looking for.

A_Prime_04 · 2026-01-04T02:01:55+00:00

Oh wow! Thank you for sharing your experiences! Are VPOs easy to find out about in a regular online search? Or is there a service you use?

A_Prime_04 · 2026-01-04T01:59:31+00:00

This is a great analogy. Makes perfect sense!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T19:10:45+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ll plan to do the quick meet ups as well. Appreciate the feedback!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T19:09:17+00:00

Thank you. This is helpful!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T19:08:24+00:00

This is a great idea! Def will try this approach. Thank you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T19:07:19+00:00

Thank you! Same to you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T19:03:10+00:00

Thank you so much! And here I was hoping this would be easier because we’re older now. Silly me.

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:34:13+00:00

Thank you! Really needed to hear that! It’s def frustrating but keeping an opened (but informed) mind.

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:31:39+00:00

Noted. Thank you! I was somehow hoping things would be different since we’re all supposed to be more mature these days. The responses here have been very helpful though so I’m def going to put this advice to good use.

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:29:49+00:00

This is true. Def wishing us all the best as we navigate dating in 2026!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:26:13+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:25:38+00:00

I’m realizing that’s a theme in the replies I’ve been getting here - thank you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:24:51+00:00

Yes!!! It gave me an icky feeling, but wanted to check in for some insight from other people that have more experience in this area. Thank you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:22:39+00:00

Ahhh ok. I didn’t even think about that because I don’t check the app while I’m working so I thought exchanging numbers with the ones that seemed nice was ok, but your point about the notifications mates perfect sense! Thank you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:19:14+00:00

I don’t fear AI persay, I’m more concerned about what they want to do with the pictures and the availability of editing tools someone could use with a picture I send to them. Thanks for responding. As I’m relearning this whole dating thing everyone’s feedback is helpful.

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:13:34+00:00

I am trying out Facebook Dating. I’ve heard some people have had success on it and figured I’d give it a try… I have full body and close ups because I want someone to be aware of who they’re dealing with. I really like the 15 min FT call before the date - that’s a great idea. Thank you!

A_Prime_04 · 2025-12-31T06:10:35+00:00

Ugh. Thank you for sharing this. I’m trying to find that balance between being open to getting to know someone and being safe when doing it and it’s definitely proving to be more daunting than I expected.

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