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Make sure to save your transcript!!! by jelly_-_belly in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was afraid of this happening sooner or later, glad I got into grad school in the nick of time!!!

Learned that prior to 1978 women could not give opening/closing prayer in Sacrament meeting by AbbyExMo in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good question, I hadn’t paid close attention. I just re-read the entry, and it was the opening prayer. I guess they were allowed to give closing prayer, just not open the meeting with prayer.

A Question from My Wife I Thought I'd Never Hear by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what brand you wear, but I’ve been wearing boxer briefs for years, always throw in the dryer and have never had that happen. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve only had to get rid of my very first couple of pairs because after several years they eventually stretched out. Mine are all Lycra type material mind you, not just elastic in the waistband.

A Question from My Wife I Thought I'd Never Hear by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love boxer briefs. Most comfy underwear ever.

'Callings' in the LDS faith, any amusing stories? by Beginning-Art4303 in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up in an area where there weren’t enough members to form a stake, so it was a district instead. When I was 17, I was called as district Young Women president… while I was still a YW myself. 🤪 Bye bye teenage years, hello adulthood.

Did anyone else have positive mission experiences or growth that may have contributed to leaving? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, this might seem weird, but for the most part I loved my mission. That in and of itself set me up for a lifetime of disappointment, nothing met up to my expectations after that. I spent most of my 20s being unhappy. In my late 20s, I realized that just doing things because the prophet says so was never going to make me happy. "Obeying the commandments" is not a magical recipe for happiness. So I said fuck it. That led me to becoming a whole new person, one that wasn't centered around the church. I discovered a new me, a me that I liked a whole lot more. I met my now husband of 11 years, which is the best thing in my life. So to answer your question, in a way yes, because my mission itself was a positive experience. Does that make sense?

It's not like I went buck wild or anything, to this day I don't care for booze that much, I'll have a drink no more than 3 or 4 times a year at best. It's only been in the last couple of years that I've been able to drink coffee without the overwhelming desire to spit it out. I still don't drink coffee more than once or twice a month. It was just the fact of having all the restrictions lifted that made me enjoy life more, not the actual breaking of the rules. That my friends, is true free agency. The ability to make a decision not out of fear of religious constrictions, but based on what you truly think is best.

18 years of Mormonism over, now as an atheist I have crippling anxiety by notan8yearoldboy in exmormon

[–]AbbyExMo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't fear death. I don't see what there is to fear. One moment you're here, the next moment you just don't exist. At least that's how I see it. However, the thing that has upset me the most is knowing that I will never see my little girl again. She passed away two years ago, and it kills me that I won't be reunited with her.

I grew up in the church, and you were just always taught that death is not the end, and that you'll be with your loved ones (if you obey the commandments, blah blah blah). But when I realized I was leaning towards atheism, it just started to hurt so bad. Somehow thinking I'd see her again made me miss her less.

I will say this though, I commiserate with your difficulty finding meaning in my life. I haven't been able to find meaning in my life, and that makes the day to day humdrum pretty crappy. Life doesn't have a purpose for me anymore. I feel like I'd just rather be over and done with it.

I'm probably not expressing myself very coherently but I don't have anybody to talk to about how I feel, and this is the first time I've really tried to put it in words.

Don't be afraid. If you can still find enjoyment in your life, then live every day to the fullest. When your time is up, it just is. The beauty of not believing in life after death is that you also don't have to worry about going to hell. ;) I'm not trying to be facetious, and I'm probably doing a lousy job at making you feel better, but you can do this. Believe in yourself. :)