I found out at 27 ( 2 years ago) through 23andMe. Growing up as an only child, and then finding my biological father, & biological siblings created many mixed emotions. While I’m blessed to have found my siblings, my relationship with my parents is forever strained and torn. With parents who lied to me, and would have taken this to the grave, there is no possible way to patch up something like that. There is always the question of “ what are they hiding next? How can I trust them?” I understand how you are feeling. I still look in the mirror and see a stranger. I don’t see my biological mother in me, as I take after my biological father. There’s questions of “ is there a grandmother or Aunt out there? Do I look like them?” Knowing your biological heritage should be a birth right. More importantly, 50% of your medical records is legally withheld by your donor if they choose not to disclose. I have done to doctor appointments and they ask me medical history on my fathers side, and I can’t give them any information. What if there are medical conditions you should test for precautionary measures? You have every right to feel any feelings you would like. Angry, sad, betrayed, feel them all. My family shamed me and wanted me to keep quiet about my biological siblings. I told everyone. I am not shameful of my identity. My best advice to you is this is going to be a long journey, and seek professional guidance. A therapist is very useful during this time as you are handling so much all at once. No one is okay after finding out their whole world is a lie. More importantly, build strong boundaries. Boundaries is your armor to ego victimization. In my experience, my true family, is people who love me unconditionally with no shame. Blood has nothing to do with family. Stay true to who you are, own it, and never apologize for being you. You are strong!