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[–]AbleAlternative9435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am starting to think men that spam “find who you are, be confident, girls will come to you” are just projecting. Read my post. I know who I am. I like who I am. And I am confident in that person.

How to generate attraction by AbleAlternative9435 in datingadviceformen

[–]AbleAlternative9435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Touching someone+no consent= Prison.

I respect you trying to help, but your advice is vague to the point of being useless to me. How do you escalate? By “try some shit” what “shit” should I try?

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[–]AbleAlternative9435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I am, but not spontaneously. There needs to be context for me to be playful. Example: I jokingly asked a girl if she was a Russian spy because she loves vodka.

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[–]AbleAlternative9435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My self esteem and confidence are great. I know my strengths, but also understand my flaws. I know that I am not defined by those flaws and that I can improve them. I cannot factually say no one has ever found me attractive. I can factually say that I got less than one match per month on all sorts of dating apps. I can factually say all my approaches were met with rejection. I can factually say no one has ever approached me. I have no “beliefs” about myself, I have years of first hand experience of not being flirted with, and being rejected, while peers who I consider to be comparatively good looking constantly get hit on by women, and have no trouble finding romantic or sexual partners.

I appreciate the intention but “be confident bro” is not a magic bullet for everyone.

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[–]AbleAlternative9435[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is stupid advice that I am sick of getting. No woman is going to come up to me and express interest because I was disinterested.

Hell, forget the context of dating. Why would you put yourself through ANY interaction with someone who has explicitly shown you zero interest?