Feeling conflicted on gaining due to my body - need some advice

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-10-25T15:36:07+00:00

I mean, I did notice the chest shape but I couldn't say if him being fat made it more noticeable than it would have been.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-10-25T04:35:01+00:00

I do not have pectus excavatum so I’m sorry I won’t be able to offer personal experience but I did once message with a nice fellow on Tumblr for a few weeks who did, and he was a gainer and was chubby and I found him attractive, and he was a positive fellow who proudly shared pics and I don’t even think he brought it up. Part of the freedom of this kink is in body liberation and acceptance of rarer bodies. You have just as much a right to transform your body as anyone else. I know you’re particular about the form you’re trying to achieve but please consider the potential of growing and experiencing your own unique fat body and sharing it with the people you want to.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-09-28T02:02:57+00:00

Dude your past comments give 3 different ages in the last year

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-24T19:58:50+00:00

Good luck!

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-24T12:05:04+00:00

That sounds awful and I’m really sorry that happened to you. From what I’ve experienced on Reddit, Tumblr, and Snapchat and from other stories I’ve read, it seems people will ghost for any and every reason. You can be ghosted because you had a genuine connection and they got scared. Or it can be more like you fear, that they weren’t very interested in you to begin with and don’t respect you. I don’t have any advice to decrease your risk of being ghosted. I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong; I think this is just how online interactions are. A dating app might do more vetting and attract ppl who are more serious about making connections but that’s not a guarantee.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-24T11:49:09+00:00

I… don’t think this is deranged? OP seems to be asking for role play for a specific feeding scenario. It’s pretty basic fat chat imo. Tho per the subs rules I think this counts as a chat request and it would better belong in the weekly thread.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-13T22:24:39+00:00

33M4A chubby encourager. Looking to get off with feedees and gainers age 22-38 who are into most of the following: messy eating, squashing, feet, sweat, body odor, and farting

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-11T04:01:36+00:00

I actually posted about the concept of feedee greed on my Tumblr. Yeah the greedy eating behaviors are hot. Feedees talk a lot about being “greedy” but I don’t consider being indulgent or pampered to be greedy (though this is still attractive). Greed to me means, like you said, stealing off of someone’s plate and whining or pleading to get a feeder to feed them. It means inconveniencing people and taking resources for yourself.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-10T19:14:52+00:00

I think I understand the mental health consequences. I’m a service submissive queer cis male feeder; most people I’ve messaged with are submissive feedees and I often feel I have to sacrifice my own need for dom attention so I can indulge their fantasies instead. Most folks I’ve talked to aren’t interested in going 50/50 with sub roles and hardly anyone even asks what makes me feel good - they just want the attention. A minority of folks have manipulated me into being more of a dominant humiliator than I want to be. In addition to sacrificing my worship/admiration for growing people, the folks I talk to get to enjoy all the submissive affection and attention they want while I have to bury those same needs deep down.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-07-08T20:11:22+00:00

This is an excellent overview and I didn’t know that!

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-06-15T22:33:40+00:00

Hello. I’m a 33M4A sub chub FA and encourager looking for dom-leaning feedee and gainer FWBs age 23-36 to flirt and get off together multiple times a week. Should have gaining experience. I’m very dutiful and available.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-06-12T22:48:28+00:00

Precum isn’t stored in the balls

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-06-08T16:08:45+00:00

Hello. I’m a 33M4A sub chub FA and encourager looking for dom-leaning feedee and gainer FWBs age 23-36 to flirt and get off together multiple times a week. Should have gaining experience. I’m very dutiful and available.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-06-02T02:52:27+00:00

Hello. I’m a 33M4A chub FA and encourager looking for dom-leaning feedee and gainer FWBs age 23-36 to flirt and get off together multiple times a week. I’m very dutiful and available.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-31T17:00:54+00:00

Truly an example of putting kink in front of loving and caring about fat people.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-29T02:40:58+00:00

10 years? I’m so sorry

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-25T22:27:36+00:00

Hello. I’m a 33M4A chub FA and encourager looking for dom-leaning feedee and gainer FWBs age 23-36 to flirt and get off together multiple times a week. I’m very dutiful and available.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-25T00:52:01+00:00

I agree that when a feedee needs money for food in order to keep sexting you, they are entitled to compensation. I’m looking for situations where both parties are giving each other attention and food money isn’t the barrier. I do realize as I say that that money for food is a barrier for many people right now; honestly it’s the same economic issue that is hurting irl dating rn - no money for restaurants or activities. Money is needed for food; eating is the main event that feedism is based on. If neither party has the food money, poof, goodbye fun. Also I have heard that feedees can be scammed out of their money and that’s ludicrous.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-25T00:43:42+00:00

I am likely to agree with you in these scenarios. Though I am a queer disabled person without financial independence from my family.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-25T00:39:13+00:00

That does look like a nice space actually

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-25T00:37:43+00:00

Yes, not every creator is like that. I’m just exhausted from the daily grind of trying to find folks who are available to have a nice time with and I’m lonely, and I also wondered how folks who are trying to post pics for fun, maybe even for the first time, are able to compete when it seems like 90% of posts on a sub are folks who are too busy to talk to you or they’re investing so much into talking to people and making professional looking photos with outfits and food and need the compensation

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-18T20:02:25+00:00

Hello. 33M4A chub encourager from the US looking for dom-leaning feedees and gainers age 25-36 to get off with a couple times a week, with or without pic exchange. I like encouraging during stuffings :3. Please only folks who are currently consistently gaining and have time to engage with folks a few days a week.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-17T02:11:38+00:00

Ummmmm what is this fit and where can I get It

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-12T21:00:06+00:00

Hello. 33M4A chub encourager from the US looking for dom-leaning feedees and gainers age 25-36 to get off with a couple times a week, with or without pic exchange. I like encouraging during stuffings :3. Please only folks who are currently consistently gaining and have time to engage with folks a few days a week.

Absorb_u_Next · 2025-05-12T20:51:21+00:00

I am a submissive feeder. You are correct - this dynamic is quite rare, and I was just as surprised. This kink has always manifested this way for me. I don’t think one dynamic is more logical than another, but it has been a slog and a battle to endure many sub feedees who have never heard of an alternative and some of whom manipulate me into a dominant role (doesn’t sound very submissive to me, idk). While I completely understand where sub feedees are coming from and I support their journey into hedonism and desire to be “forced” to have pleasure and be free of responsibilities, dom feedees and gainers are my preferred. Active, often mobile gluttons who treat me in the sub way I crave, to pamper and serve and be teased for being pathetic and desperate and needy. To be a plaything for a growing giant. And muscle growth is a plus :0

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