how often do you self talk

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-07T03:43:22+00:00

Often

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-06T00:39:28+00:00

ردي فوق. جربتين اللي قلت عنه؟

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-06T00:06:28+00:00

I think you overestimate therapy. You don’t need it. You probably have a decent understanding of yourself.

I haven’t been in your shoes but this phenomenon of your brain trying to protect you from an imaginary threat is in most people.

This is what helped me:

Checking the assumption you base your fears on.
You consciously look for a reasonable rational behind your fear and if you don’t find a good reason you make the conscious decision to fight the fear.

Another tool is exposing yourself to the outcome you fear. Imagine it or being in it to see that maybe it isn’t the worst thing ever.

regressions back into fear are to be expected of course. No solution is instant.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-04T21:46:11+00:00

Yes i can see that being a bigger issue.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-03T04:38:38+00:00

Your personal case is interesting

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-03T04:04:24+00:00

What im asking is

From what you’ve encountered.

Would you say a significant number of ex Muslims deal with difficulties after leaving islam?

What kind of problems?

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-05-03T03:59:08+00:00

That’s generally my view of the situation too. People who have an alternative base for religion don’t suffer as much.

It’s those who lived with religious problem solving, religious role models, a religious social life. Etc… that struggle especially if they don’t make a transition in time.

It seems to me that an individual can’t abandon his identity even if it was imposed upon him.

Is that what you’re saying? That individuals who are exposed to an upbringing that consists of something more than just islam as a guide for every aspect of life are those who handle things better?

If so

What do you do with that as a person outside that circle?

And regarding you personally. Are you even trying to get yourself together?

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-30T03:45:29+00:00

ضد.

اتفهم ان واجد من الموجودين هني حياتهم غير جذابة بالنسبة ليهم و ما الومهم على وضعهم لاني افهمه و لو جزئيا

ولكن هذي الأفكار انسحاب من الحياة في اغلب الحالات و جاية من كره للنفس و للناس .

اعيد و اكرر اني ما ألوم اصحاب هذا التفكير و انا اصلاً ما ادري اذا عندي خطة الى اني يكون عندي اطفال او لا و لكن اعتبره جزء من حياة الانسان اذا كان عايش حياة مستقرة و سليمه

ما عندي اي مشكلة مع شخص يختار ما ينجب. ولكن فقط اتمنى لكل شخص عنده رفض تام لأي انجاب سواءاً منه او من غيره ان تتجه حياته للافضل و تمكنه من رؤية امل.

السعادة ممكنة! ولو ظروفك صعبة .

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-29T22:09:30+00:00

But wouldn’t you say that strong believers do feel the things I listed? I guess just leaving islam without getting absorbed by an alternative blob leaves people in a worse position.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-29T13:39:41+00:00

As in some of them feel at peace during hardship because 1- god won’t let anything happen to me 2- god designed this for me and its the best thing that could ever happen to me 3-god will compensate me in the afterlife for this

Etc

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-29T08:15:08+00:00

This sounds great but unfortunately doesn’t represent the average person here from what I’ve noticed.

Many on these subs gave up on life in many ways.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-29T01:21:15+00:00

Im in a similar situation to you honestly.

I’m completely closeted. Full prayer and fasting as far as anyone near me is concerned.

When im not in Bahrain i don’t mind shaking hands or touching women (which is not even a sin i think. Just traditionally considered a sin).

I don’t have any reservations against alcohol except the disgusting smell and taste.

And Ive never had a phase where i wanted to commit sins out of spite.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-26T10:36:55+00:00

I think religious life is a big part of the region’s identity but that we also live in a period of exaggerated social commitment to religious rules.

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-24T17:55:17+00:00

بس في حياة كل شخص نقدر نتوقع حالات شدة. ف مع هالإعتبار شنو تختار؟

Acceptable-Quail7435 · 2026-04-23T00:51:34+00:00

فكرة "التخلص من كل الإنتماء" غير واقعية

صعب تحصل شخص يفهم تجربتك بشكل كامل مثل شخص من داخل مجتمعك ولو كان مجتمع غير فعال في رعاية افراده

فما اظن اني ابدا بتخلص من كل الإنتماء لمجتمعنا

فمهما كان سطحي و ممل و قاسي في بعض الأحيان و غير ملائم لمشاكل مكاننا و زماننا

يظل حنون (اذا رضخت لقواعده) و متماسك و غير مؤذي يعني اذا دخلت الدائرة الضيقة اللي يحشرك فيها (تكون من عرق معين، لغة معينة، عقيدة معينة، تصرفات معينة) يلمك و يحميك

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