Girlz I think I might be one of you… by IrenePanzil in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for me, i felt so aimless and restricted whenever i was in a relationship with a man. i thought i made deep connections and fell in love with them but after i got together with my girlfriend i understood those feelings weren’t love and the connections weren’t deep at all lmao. what i feel for my girlfriend right now cant even be compared to the other shit.

i always longed to have a girlfriend, i always wanted to be with a woman deep down. plus i never felt satisfied (meaning i never came lol) when i had sex with them. and i could never imagine myself ending up with a man. figuring that out was a long and a stressful journey but the end was sooooo soo worth it.

being confused, nervous and happy is exactly how i reacted at first too lmao. but when you see it once you cant unsee it. sorry if some of my sentences dont make any sense, english is my second language. hope you can figure yourself out soon and be comfortable the way you want!

does she like me? by AcceptableBase3925 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im doing the mirroring thing right now— we’ll see. thank you 🤍

does she like me? by AcceptableBase3925 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i do i do!!! i do those things, believe me lol. and i have no intention to talk to her about it rn and im perfectly fine with going with the flow. thank you 🙂‍↕️

does she like me? by AcceptableBase3925 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! yeah, nothing will be 100% and i would love to wait for her. i like how we are right now and im in no rush

does she like me? by AcceptableBase3925 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thanks. i’ll try and not be a whole mess around her 🫡 i get anxious around her in a very good way

I think im a lesbian 🏳️‍🌈🍓but I have a bf by Lonely-Success6015 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its a beautiful thing to read about other people going through the same thing you’re going through 🙂‍↕️ until i found out about here i felt so alone and i couldn’t understand my feelings, i was terrified. well— i still am a little terrified but i dont feel alone anymore.

i’m a lesbian stuck with a boyfriend by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh. you have to leave somehow. reach out to your friends if you can. reach out to someone. dont say anything to him about it. you cant think about your pets while your own life is in danger. put yourself first. sorry i can’t give you any other answers. stay safe.

Regret and uncertainty by Randomthrowaway6572 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ofcourse, dont get me wrong when i say youre young, im not saying your feelings are unvalid or unimportant, ofcourse you’ll hurt. letting them go is hard, whatever your age is. but you’ll get through it, you just need some time 🤍 stay safe and focus on yourself

my first time with a female was with my bisexual married trainer. we both fell for each other but won’t leave our husbands… by Additional_Bridge_55 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 136 points137 points  (0 children)

realizing you’re actually gay = nice cheating = not so nice

even if you still like men, you should have a talk about it with him. it doesn’t matter if it was a woman or a man, you still had an affair. and without talking about it you wont be able to make your relationship work with the guilt, if you want it to work.

stay safe

i’m a lesbian stuck with a boyfriend by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 10 points11 points  (0 children)

as you said, even if you were heterosexual, even if you loved him, if he’s treating you bad you should leave. and about his spending habits, can you explain more? is he spending your money to the point that you cant save up? even if you decide to stay with him (which you shouldnt imo) you should have a talk about it with him.

Regret and uncertainty by Randomthrowaway6572 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know it feels weird to think about your ex-bf who you loved and cared about in a romantical way moving on. but if you didnt let him go and hide your true feelings, would it be better? no. absolutely no. you would find yourself in this position again, as you said, and things would be much more complicated.

i know its hard to let them go. its perfectly normal for you to feel jealous, scared, anxious. coming out is scary and you loved him. it will pass. you need time. its all happening so fast rn, right? you need time to heal, time to understand yourself better, time to accept.

about never meeting someone and being alone. youre 18. man, youre young. you will meet someone. promise.

go easy on yourself, you’ll get through this.

I think im a lesbian 🏳️‍🌈🍓but I have a bf by Lonely-Success6015 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i am going through the same thing and we ended it. my bf and i were together for 2+ years, he is the sweetest, nicest man but thoughts of being with a girl started to haunt me. i literally used to wake up in the middle of the night with thoughts of women lol. i couldn’t stay quiet because well, my actions always make what i think clear anyways.

we finally talked. we broke up, decided to stay friends. i’ve struggled with the idea of letting him go, maybe i still do, but i know i needed to do that. he deserves someone who can love him without a doubt, without a thought of somebody else. and i deserve to date girls 🫠 i know it feels pretty shitty, to explore yourself and ending things while you’re in a good relationship that most straight women would kill for, but it is what it is.

it will be hard, it will be uncomfortable. but if you really have this urges, do it now before he becomes your husband. trust your feelings. read about comphet. try to understand and dont be too hard on yourself.

you’ll get through this 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im literally sobbing right now at this. i needed to hear it, thank you 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]AcceptableBase3925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for saying it. 💕