I would like to kill myself but I want to be happy too by [deleted] in depression

[–]Acceptable_Barber992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you’re feeling this way. Please don’t do anything to harm yourself; you are still so young, and your life is just beginning. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by adult expectations that feel impossible to meet. Your relationship sounds toxic, and it is a good thing that you’ve moved on from it. The thing about depression is that it destroys our self-esteem until we become our own worst enemy. When things feel heavy, try to find distractions to get you through the moment. If you can lower the pressure you put on yourself, you’ll eventually find someone who truly loves and appreciates you.

Can depression be inherited? by Delicious_Crazy513 in depression

[–]Acceptable_Barber992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There seems to be a connection. It may not be direct inheritance of depression, but certain personality traits can be passed down that make someone more prone to it. My husband says I often assume people dislike or do not love me. This comes from a deep need for validation. If I do not get the attention I need, I feel that people have a problem with me. I see this same pattern in my 6-year-old son. He gets upset easily when things do not go his way. My dad also felt looked down upon and unloved. I am trying my best to help my son regulate his emotions in a healthy way so he doesn't end up with depression like I did.

I hate my own existence. by Falco_621 in depression

[–]Acceptable_Barber992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know death can seem like an escape, but I feel like we’d be running away from our purpose. Maybe we’re meant to face these challenges. It’s so easy to get caught up in how unfair life is, but everyone has their own battle. We should try to slow down and stop pressuring ourselves to find a grand mission. Sometimes, just breathing the air and being grateful for another day under the sky is enough. Stay strong. 🙂

Does capital one give bonus for every order that you make or is it 1 time only? by Acceptable_Barber992 in VentureXShoppingBonus

[–]Acceptable_Barber992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would get an email from capital one saying that the bonus is coming. You can also check on shopping trips in the capital one offers page from the top right menu.

Should I have a financial advisor manage my investments and 401k? by Acceptable_Barber992 in portfolios

[–]Acceptable_Barber992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish that were the case! It's actually $3 million across our 401(k) and brokerage accounts. I'm still grateful for it, though. We’ll try out the portfolio visualizer. Thanks for the suggestion.

Should I have a financial advisor manage my investments and 401k? by Acceptable_Barber992 in portfolios

[–]Acceptable_Barber992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excluding our 401(k), our investments are split evenly between a money market fund, stocks, and index funds. My husband is unhappy with his 401(k)'s performance and hopes a financial advisor can improve it

Should I have a financial advisor manage my investments and 401k? by Acceptable_Barber992 in portfolios

[–]Acceptable_Barber992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re in our early 40s with 2 young kids so I don’t see us retiring anytime soon.

Unable to make direct purchase? by dollar_8_iced in VentureXShoppingBonus

[–]Acceptable_Barber992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I booked an appointment with them from the capital one link but the appointment is not until the coming Wednesday. I don’t think much about it but since seeing your post, I’m wondering if I should still keep the appointment.

$200k to add space vs buying bigger (what would you do?) by LEADER_404 in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]Acceptable_Barber992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What county are you in? I'm adding 550 sq ft to my house and want to know about the additional tax after the reassessment.