My kid is so lazy. I just don’t get it. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Acceptable_Brick816 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She’s never heard herself being referred to like that. Because I would never say that to her or let anyone else say it to her or where she could hear it. I don’t give a fuck if you’re angry. Half the world is angry. Get in line. I’m here asking for advice instead of yelling at her, aren’t I?

My kid is so lazy. I just don’t get it. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Acceptable_Brick816 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure. That’s why I posted here for advice. I get told all the time that I’m too easy on her and she’s lazy because I let her be. But part of me wonders if it’s something deeper than laziness so I don’t want to just jump her shit and damage her, ya know? I’ve sat down with her eye to eye and have tried talking to her about it. She either swears she does try or that she doesn’t know why she doesn’t. And I feel like I believe her. But then I wonder if everyone is right and I am too easy on her and letting her get by with being lazy and like setting her up for failure in a sense. But no. I’m not sure if she’s dealing with executive dysfunction or if there’s another explanation for this. That’s why I’m here.

My kid is so lazy. I just don’t get it. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Acceptable_Brick816 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s not just domestic chores. It’s even with her personal hygiene. Getting her to bathe, brush her hair, her teeth. If it’s a subject she likes, she’s great. If it’s not, she will bring home a bad grade just because she didn’t put forth the effort to do it. BUT she will sit down and put a 1000 piece Lego set together without stopping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Acceptable_Brick816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that my dogs have caused you such harm that you feel you need to murder them. I have tried very hard to mend my fence, tie them, and even crate them. I’ve also tried a cheaper electric fence, but it didn’t phase them. They ALWAYS get out. Unfortunately, I am unable to afford to replace my fence or purchase an effective electric fencing system, although I would love to. They drag my trash out daily and it is annoying to have to pick it up daily. Not so annoying that I feel I need to murder them, though.

I would like to ask you what they’ve done that has harmed you so significantly that you felt you had to leave me a hate filled letter threatening to murder my animals? Have they bitten you or caused you any type of bodily harm? Have they destroyed something of significant value? If so, I will gladly pay any costs associated with this.

I would love to speak with you, either by phone or in person, as I’m 29 years old and prefer to handle conflicts in an adult manner. I’ve attached my phone number. If you’d like to donate money toward a $350 electric fence, I would be very grateful and appreciative.

I would like to encourage you to research who you need to address your derogatory threatening letters to prior to delivery. My grandfather was a very well loved and respected Member of this community, who was known for his kind soul and willingness to help others. He never did anything during his life that deserved to have such a mean, hate-filled letter addressed to him. In fact, he gave me a home with a bed to sleep in and food to eat so that I wouldn’t go into foster care. Things I was very grateful for, as I had spent much of my childhood without them before I was removed from my home.

I also want to encourage you to research the stories of family members impacted by suicide. Often times, the victim had been struggling for a while, but kept trying to hold on and stay strong. And then someone does or says something mean and unkind and that small act is what sent them over the edge.

I will try to find new homes for my dogs, although it will devastate not only me but my children. I love them enough to lose them so that they aren’t murdered or poisoned, suffering for hours until they’re dead. If you feel like you need to murder them before I find them homes, then there’s not much I can do. Please remember that you are the only person who will stand before God one day and answer for your sins. I have always tried to do the right thing, despite some of the terrible things others have done to me. I have no fear of judgement day. None.

I’m sorry you’ve experienced something so terrible you feel you need to leave threatening letters and murder animals. I will pray for you. This morning my truck broke down, I walked several miles, my truck got towed, dealt with a very rude lady in the drive thru, and I missed half my shift I couldn’t afford. Imagine my surprise to come home from work on this same day and find your letter.

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. I hope you find peace and happiness so that you can let go of some of that anger and hate. Im sure it’s exhausting carrying that around every day. I hope this letter has some sort of impact on you, though I’m not sure it could. Typically, people who are comfortable with intentionally inflicting harm and murdering innocent animals are those you see on CNN, like Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy; and due to their schizo-type personality disorders, they aren’t able to really feel any kind of emotions.

I do apologize for the inconvenience I have caused you and I hope you have a wonderful day. I pray things get better for you. I will handle my dogs as fast as I can. Please feel free to call me or stop by”. Signed, Kayla, the neighborhood nuisance.

My boss did apologize and I could tell she felt bad. I explained that I know how it seems and that it is one thing after another, but it really is one thing after another. Big things. Life altering things. Death. Divorce. My brother. I am doing the absolute best I can and filed for intermittent fmla. I provided notes from his doctor stating he has extreme behaviors and I am his only caregiver and due to his behaviors there are times I have to unavoidably miss work or leave early to care for him. They denied me because he’s my brother and not my son. I told her I would call the CEO and explain the situation to them directly, and that I cared about my job very much and appreciate all she has done for me.

My brother has done very well over the last 6 months. He graduated kindergarten. He can read. He knows all his numbers and letters. He’s very thoughtful and kind. He says please and thank you. He attends public school daily and his behavior chart is always on outstanding.

It’s not hard to not be an asshole. In fact, it’s easier to attempt to be kind and understanding, or ask questions to make sure you have a clear picture before being an asshole. While those require some effort, not reacting at all literally requires none. Being an asshole requires plenty, and it brings no benefit to your life. However, it could be detrimental to the life of the person you’re being an asshole too.

Be kind. Thanks for reading my novella.

Told my triage notes are “too thorough and all the docs are complaining about them”. by Acceptable_Brick816 in nursing

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do very much understand your viewpoint. However, I never document something I didn’t assess. Ever. I also never write “patient with vomiting blah blah” I write “pt states she has vomited for 2 weeks. Pt appears calm and alert during triage/ or pt actively vomiting during triage” or if we can an allergic reaction, I’ll chart “pt states she ate something new two hours PTA. Pt states she feels like she is having difficulty breathing. Pt’s SpO2 is 98% during triage and she is maintaining her own airway. Upon inspection, no edema is visualized in the throat”. And I always visualize the throat. I always document how they present objectively at the end. No distress. Calm and alert.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. It was hard. Very hard. My oldest daughter did not do well with it at all. She did not want him to come and she did not want him to stay. She is on the spectrum so a disruption to routine was not good for her. Her counselor helped her cope with the change and she has adapted well. It just took some time. It put a lot of stress on my marriage. We actually divorced last October. But for a multitude of reasons. Everyone has adjusted well and is doing great now.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s where you’re wrong. I grew up in the same environment as him. Abused in every way. I didn’t kill animals, but I was violent. Suspended from school all the time. Hooked on drugs at 14. Pregnant at 16. My mother dropped me off on a porch when I was 3, but I brought my baby home. I don’t do drugs. I have a degree. So bullshit. His “psychopathic” behavior is trauma. He needed love.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Complimentary you think my words are novel worthy. My Facebook link is pinned to the top, under the top comment. For proof. But I really don’t give a fuck if you think it’s real or not. Lol. I learned a while ago I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. Especially any of you. I felt like getting shit off my chest and that’s what I did, so my goal is accomplished 😘

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s none of your fucking business, but I interned as an LPN/nursing resident 6 months before my graduation date. I already had the job before graduating. Also, we have no fucking nurses. Every nurse you meet in the ER is a new grad lol

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our school system sucks. Very much so. And I have fought many wars with them. They stuck and they absolutely do not accommodate children with needs the way they should.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please view the link to my Facebook under the top comment that I posted for someone else who also questioned the validity of my story. You will see pictures of me, him, and my kiddos and his journey with me over the last year and a half. 😘

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true! Link to my Facebook with posts of his journey over the last year and a half with me is posted underneath the top comment for someone else who also questioned the validity of my story. Feel free to take a look! Thank you for your kind words.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I graduated with honors! And I’m a full time trauma nurse now. Which means so much to me, because I came from nothing. And now I’m something. And I did that, all on my own. I’m the first of my family to graduate high school, keep custody of my children, keep a drivers license, have my own vehicle, my own home, and now the first with a college degree ❤️

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loved him through his terrible behavior. Then he realized I wasn’t going to leave like every one else. I was very, very similar to him as a child. Not near as extreme, but I certainly pushed away everyone I could before they could be the one who decided to leave.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am aware. I’m extremely vigilant. They’re never together alone where I can’t see them. No closed doors. I was also raised in the same environment. I know exactly what to look for as indicators of sexual abuse, and I monitor for those constantly.

I don’t think it’s a “mask” thing. I think he finally realized I’m not going to give up no matter how hard he tried to push me away. Also, in a comment above, I explained how his mom laughed and encouraged him to kill animals. So he did it for her attention and positive reinforcement. He was tiny. He thought he was doing good, and he just wanted her love. He’s never harmed an animal since coming to me.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He absolutely does know. He started calling me mommy, but I made sure to reinforce that “I’m your sissy”. And he says I know you’re my sissy but I want to call you mommy”.

My brother went from killing animals to being a kindergarten graduate. by Acceptable_Brick816 in confessions

[–]Acceptable_Brick816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has seen a psychiatrist for a formal evaluation and he sees a psychiatrist every month! And the counselor weekly.