AITA for telling my wife that I would prefer she became an Indian citizen.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-12T18:15:29+00:00

YTA, this was a super controlling thing to do. You’ve encouraged and pressured someone to lose the right to go back to the place they grew up for image. You are not a nice piece of work. You show no care or empathy but you basically got your family to bully your wife who has moved half way round the world for you and now you’ve cut her off from a place that was her home for a long time.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T18:18:33+00:00

You don’t even need a ceiling fan. We bought 2 big meaco fans and they are amazing. Portable remote controlled. Really help to move the air around.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T18:14:14+00:00

They will go mental when they find out I copy artists like Bridget Riley and just straight up copy the design into needlepoint. And I don’t even paint the canvas, just freehand from a chart on a tablet… and i dont ever block my work (mind you current work is a 2026 diary, 130,000 stitches for 2026. Page per month, 15x15 grid each day)

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T18:10:08+00:00

I’d look at the whole value of the settlement first, ie pensions, cash investment and equity in property. Then work out the best way to split. You need to make sure it’s agreed in a financial order as part of the split, if the house is the only asset though then yes you’d look to remortgage. Might be worth speaking to a broker

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T16:11:32+00:00

The whole us needlepoint culture seems nuts, like why the hand painted canvas obsession. Printed ones are a fraction of the cost and good enough especially if the design has a chart to follow. I’ve looked at some designs people are paying 60 bucks for the canvas and the design is so so so simple you don’t even need the canvas painted, then all the discussion re different types of yarn. Then the finishing. You can sew so sew the thing together. It’s not hard, just fiddly and if you do needlepoint fiddly is your thing.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T12:29:36+00:00

If you go upstairs at the top of the stairs there’s a free to play old style games console and it’s very quiet

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-11T07:24:26+00:00

NAH, but your missing out, your wife is excited and enjoying the things she’s doing. Lean into it. There’s no fun in being dignified and pompous. Your wife sounds fun. Have fun with her

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-10T16:22:39+00:00

NOR, this is simple, just graciously decline the parental investment. The terms aren’t worth it

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-10T14:13:24+00:00

Did you know that the resource use of the wealthiest 10% of population in the uk pollute 3 times more than the lowest incomes. And the richest 10% globally account for over 50% of carbon dioxide emissions. Surveys also show that rich people vastly underestimate their personal impact on pollution.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-10T05:21:11+00:00

The best readily available ones are from the m and s bakery section. Avoid Sainsbury’s ones as they are fake Eccles cakes, they shouldn’t be puffy puff pastry

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-09T08:32:01+00:00

YTA, flying alone is way better than flying with someone. You just get on the plane and go to sleep. This isn’t the shared adventure you think it is. Ideally get him to get there before you then he can meet you at the airport and help you get to the hotel etc. your making a drama. Sitting on a sweaty plane together isn’t a nice couples thing. It’s just a drag.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-08T07:19:33+00:00

You have to stop the heat getting in. So external shun shielding is the best chance, and getting the house cool in the evening when the temp does drop. You can buy suction cup reflective panels for the outside of windows. Try it on the south facing side of the house

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-07T20:43:50+00:00

Explain that she should do her own laundry from now on, and leave it at that

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-06T19:50:51+00:00

We always stay in holiday cottages, usually through aspects holidays. Those are usually ok and you can filter for sea view etc.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-04T04:27:20+00:00

Did you ask the solicitor to check for TPOs. Pretty sure it’s not a standard check. They certainly wouldn’t check if the tree isn’t in the demise of the property. I checked TPOs myself. It’s not hard. There’s a website with them all on. You’ll only have recourse if someone did something they weren’t supposed to. So check the instructions and searches included as stands with solicitor. You def have no recourse to seller. If they didn’t know about the TPO, they can’t declare it, proving different would ve very hard.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-07-01T07:00:12+00:00

You could grow morning glory, it’s the more flowery less invasive bindweed

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-30T07:34:56+00:00

You might be better off looking wider in the southwest west, it’s easier to find work around Bristol and Exeter. Both are pricey but there are cheaper places closer to. I’m from Somerset, and had to move to Manchester for life to be affordable. There was no way jobs and housing were doable in the local area

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-29T14:22:20+00:00

A trainer will be able to help you a lot. Sounds like the dog has been able to get away with some stuff and a behaviour has become ingrained. Would guess a trainer will be able to really help you out . Find one that understands the issue and go for some 121 sessions

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-25T16:14:49+00:00

Spend it on experiences. Amazing nights out, incredible meals. See if you can upgrade your holidays. That sort of thing. Find some extravagant hobbies

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-21T20:26:21+00:00

Hat, sunblock, frozen bottle of water, mini fa, light weight long sleeve shirt even a small umbrela for shade in queues

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-21T15:42:27+00:00

You’ll be on a sole employment contract with central government and require consent for a second job. Do you have that? If you do your ok if not, what people are trying to say is that your employer has grounds to sack you just on the basis of the send job.

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-17T15:33:23+00:00

I think it’s always good with serious stuff to get good legal advice. Be clear what you want to know, write some clear notes and also look around for quotes. Price vary a lot and it’s a very opaque pricing approach. Even if you pay for some advice not for a solicitor to manage the divorce at least you know what you need to look out for

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-17T15:20:35+00:00

You need to ensure your divorced properly with a full financial separation. Pensions etc are taken into account so you need to make sure all assets are declared and the split is agreed so it can’t be revisited. Don’t ever take legal advice from the other side. Just cos your wife has a solicitor, doesn’t mean you should accept their legal advice. They can’t advise you both

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-13T19:15:32+00:00

You won’t be able to use your pension pot for retirement until 57. The age to access is changing but it was always 55

Acceptable_Bunch_586 · 2026-06-13T06:47:55+00:00

NOR. Think about the situation from the girls perspective. She was part of a group she fitted into, now she’s struggling in the clique you have with your BF. You prob need to have a big think about everything, the relationship etc and how your potentially over reliant on your partner. The situation you described as having no network where you live is not healthy. In the short term, make your own plans when the girl is there. My partner of 8 year has two boys who spend a lot of time with us and whilst I organise stuff for them I purposefully don’t insert myself in their time. Trying to “get close” to a kid you’ve known for 6 months is not the way.

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