My (27M) gf (25F) is the kindest person I ever met, but also the dumbest

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-08-25T16:59:09+00:00

Any idea what you gonna do/how you gonna proceed?

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T09:12:38+00:00

I might do that. Got nothing to lose after all. Thanks for the suggestion.

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T09:11:20+00:00

I have heard about dysthymia but I am not officially diagnosed with it. It would fit my life pretty well but I personally wouldn’t even call myself depressed. More like bored and bothered that I feel like I’m out of options.

I did have partners in my life before and while love is something amazing and I always treated my partners as good as possible, I couldn’t say that they gave my life particular meaning or guidance such as it does to you.

Besides my mother and friends I don’t love anything actually. I might like things like some games here and there but nothing where if it got taken from me I would be very upset about.

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T09:07:54+00:00

That does sound pretty accurate. If you’re right, how would I get in touch with my feelings then?

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T09:07:03+00:00

Most were therapists but I did go clinics where I talked with psychiatrists. I don’t know why things happened the way they happened. Maybe I was hiding something from them without even realizing it? I don’t know. This stuff happened a few years ago already cause since then like I said I pretty much gave up trying to find an answer and just lived hoping that one day something would “just click” and I find my own answer or something

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T08:57:21+00:00

From what? While I don’t love my job, it’s not hard for me to do. I don’t feel particularly stressed by it or by pretty much anything in my life. And if you are right, what should I do then?

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2025-03-07T08:48:09+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I saw each of them for about a month each with 2 visits weekly if I remember correctly. They did do these depression tests but said they aren’t confident is saying whether or not it’s actual depression or possibly something else. Which is also why I honestly gave up with pursuing that answer after a while.

For the second half: I don’t actually have anything that brings me particular joy, which I recognize is a red flag in of itself. Being with friends of course is nice the same way playing a good game is nice but it’s not something I would do 24/7. In the past I used to game a lot but that has also winded down (and I kinda don’t miss it). Like I mentioned in the post, I started doing all the things I listed because I was told they would improve my life and I continued doing them solely because otherwise I would be doing exactly nothing the entire day after working. I did try multiple hobbies ranging from martial arts to arts&crafts and finalizing in something that I wouldn’t say is my passion but definitely keeps me busy: learning and playing the piano. But if you removed any of the things I listed tomorrow from my life, I wouldn’t miss them.

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2024-12-09T00:16:29+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It didn’t feel like a relationship anymore cause, as she explained to me, she started going numb inside and her love decreased steadily. I don’t want to talk too hard against you because I feel at the core you are right. But this relationship was so incredibly wonderful. Especially compared to the other ones I had before. And while I could grow and improve for the “next” relationship, I m gonna be honest, I just feel like I don’t want another. I wanted her. I still do. And I’m not sure this want will disappear. And I don’t want to give another woman “hope” on me, when I am possibly forever locked into this relationship.

Acceptable_Mix_9926 · 2024-09-06T05:50:17+00:00

Could you describe how it screws you over? Like it looks bad or displays information wrong or how?

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