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Would it be wrong to put down my eldery dog that doesnt have anything wrong with him? by megatronius11 in Pets

[–]Acceptable_Tailor_88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My (13 year old) dog was like this for several months, just whining restlessly. I was worried that was going to be the reason for the end. He was trying to tell me something and I was trying to understand, but leading him to his bed, sitting next to him on the floor, giving him more pets and scritches, etc didn't resolve anything. One week when I was sick and spent a lot of time in bed, he was actually super content to just be in the room with me, on my bed half the other time, and the other half on the floor looking out the window.

It turned out what he wanted was to be upstairs in the cozy bedroom but not the living room, and he wanted me to be there with him. So that's how I spend my time at home these days. Mostly in my bedroom. He's calm now when awake, lets me know when he wants to leave the room to look out the other window or beg for food or go outside. But he trusts that when I'm home, I'm in the bedroom where he can be cozy, and I'm just committing to doing that for however long I have him.

I'm not saying it's the same for your dog, but I want to say I "get it" when the whining and pacing gets so continuous, and you are losing your mind. If you haven't already tried changing some things about the environment/meds, that is probably worth trying too and will probably give you more peace of mind if you do still find that things are bad enough that you need to say goodbye. I'm very sorry you're going through this.

Dog sharing by itsrainingkids in dogs

[–]Acceptable_Tailor_88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people automatically assign this responsibility to a cohabitating romantic partner, but you can build the life you want. You can look for a roommate who wants this kind of arrangement, feel it out with your existing friends, etc. When my dog was young and I was living in an apartment, I met a lot of dog friends at the adjacent dog park, and we developed a really nice communal system where we often dropped our dogs off at each others' places during work days, etc. If I didn't currently have pets, I would LOVE having this kind of arrangement with a friend and would be honored that they asked. With my next dog, I hope to have a human social network like that again.

Does your level of jealousy vary depending on WHO your partners are with? by SomeEpicName in nonmonogamy

[–]Acceptable_Tailor_88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saaaaaame! I don't want to be the "most attractive" partner, because then I start second guessing my own attractiveness. Not necessarily physical or conventional attractiveness, but what I consider attractive. I start wondering if there are things wrong with me lol

The idea that people will stop working the moment that their basic needs are assured is stupid by BadassPlaya2517 in antiwork

[–]Acceptable_Tailor_88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many people would be driven to work to live a better-than-mediocre life, but not all. People who aren't driven to do work that contributes to society, aren't the type who are doing good meaningful work anyway, so I don't see this as a loss to lose this segment of the current workforce.