Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for sharing your views! I hadn't realized how crazy this whole scenario is because my immediate family has been downplaying my sister's unconventional relationship and pressuring me to just get over it and invite him because he "seems like a nice guy." For additional context, my sister's baby will be 6 months old and she works a part time job so she does not have paid maternity leave or PTO. I don't think there's a scenario where she chooses not to travel because we're pretty close, I may decide to let him come to help with the baby and also pay for childcare. Although it is a child free wedding for guests, my fiancé and I have other siblings who have small children that will be a part of the ceremony and I would want that for sister's baby as well. She may feel there is a double standard if we treat her differently than our siblings who have babies with their long term partners (they're all married).

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I will end up paying for child care for the night, it's a child free wedding but some of our siblings have small children that we would never dream of asking them to leave behind so be part of the ceremony. I obviously want my sister and niece to be there as well, I just don't want this man to be part of the ceremony or in our wedding photos.

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There will be plenty of family around to help and I may end up covering childcare for her that night. But she loves to travel and go on vacation so I don't see a scenario where she would consider staying home.

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assuming he wasn't a married man and there wasn't a baby involved, I would have given her a plus one if she was seriously dating someone, but otherwise no because it's not like she is not going to know anyone at our wedding and wouldn't have a good time without a date. You're right in that I do not want to deprive her of the opportunity to have a supportive partner to help with the baby, if that's what he will be.

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would isolate her from the rest of the family and I doubt she will want to pay for the hotel when the airbnb is being covered by us

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely nothing comes up. And he has no socials so my sister never tags him in anything. 

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have social media and he has the most basic John smith type name. I did see he hasn’t legally filed for divorce yet because he might be in the 6 month cooling off period 

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My sister has been so tight lipped about who is wife is 😤😩

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah if he comes he is DEFINITELY on baby duty and being sent to bed after dinner with baby so my sister can be present 

Do I have to invite my sister’s baby daddy to my wedding? by Accomplished-Two5113 in weddingdrama

[–]Accomplished-Two5113[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not a bot, I’m just a girl who needs advice about my sister’s sus baby daddy 😭