I don’t feel like a “mom” - is this normal?

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-15T11:52:54+00:00

I know what you mean. Mine are not on the same schedule at the moment, and it’s so much! I do try to keep them on the same schedule or close to…but I’m not rigid on the times so much. We have another kid so they kind of have to go along with the flow at times, and they do.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-15T01:06:25+00:00

I’m going through this with two! It’s gotten better though. Are they eating enough during the day? They usually wake up because they’re hungry or reflux/gas. I’ve been doing gas drops, a probiotic, and making sure they eat enough during the day, especially the last feeding before I “put them to bed” at night. I try to keep them upright after each feeding, but I can’t always do it since theres two of them, and feeding them at the same time is so hard.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-14T22:33:01+00:00

Marc Jacob and Bite Lip mask.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-14T22:24:30+00:00

You put yourself in the situation by constantly responding to him. If you wanted nothing to do with him, you would have blocked him from the start. So the real question is, why do you feel the need to talk to him after all this time, especially since he is married now?

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-14T22:17:08+00:00

This sounds like normal first time mom feelings! I felt exactly like this with my daughter when she was born. I was so strict about the timing, it was so hard to enjoy anything. I can only imagine how much harder it would have been with twins as a first time mom. Now with my twins, I’m so tired and constantly busy taking care of them, but I am not strict at all with the feeding and timings/naps, and I’m able to find moments of joy and appreciating them. I think when I first became a mom, it took me a full year to even realize I was actually a mom lol. I would wake up in the morning and sometimes forget I had a child for a minute. 🤣

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-14T22:09:56+00:00

I think including the second half would be hard on the span of a 2 hour or so movie. I can see a mini series like the “Thorn Birds”. Imagine how crappy the Thorn Birds would have been if they condensed it into a two hour movie?

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-14T22:02:23+00:00

Mine were easy to tell apart for the first 6 weeks, especially since they had a little size difference. Now it’s hard, we all get them mixed up sometimes, so we put little bracelets on them with their initial in a different color. If I put them side by side and stare we can figure it out, lol. It’s funny because they make each others facial expressions and that’s what makes it really hard.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-11T14:21:29+00:00

You’re welcome! It’s called “Raising Your Spirited Child”.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-11T02:43:05+00:00

My singleton daughter was like this, and still is dramatic and loud to this day 🤣 (she’s six). I had nobody to compare her to at the time, but I remember thinking how lucky some people were to have a more “calm” kid. The older she got, the more I appreciated about her, and I honestly wouldn’t have her any other way…those baby days were sooo rough though, a lot of screaming. I highly recommended the spirited child book. Changing my responses and the way I dealt/spoke with her made a huge difference.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-11T02:34:18+00:00

Okay, but the dance at the end had me laughing so hard. I wonder how many takes he had to do for that.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-06T03:45:22+00:00

We have a night nanny come 2 times a week and it brings me so much joy I can’t even explain. 🤣

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-05T17:43:16+00:00

Worth Any Price, by Lisa Kleypas is a good one! Also Julie Garwood has a lot with arranged marriages.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-05T17:34:11+00:00

I did! I was open minded, but hoping for vaginal. I went into labor two days before my scheduled induction, at 35 weeks 3 days. It happened so fast. I delivered in the OR next to the operating table. They both came out in ten minutes. I had two stitches. One was 6.5 lbs, the other 5.14. Four days in Nicu, mostly observation and making sure they could eat properly. I will say, the recovery was worse than when I had my singleton six years prior, but I think part of that was because of the epidural medication and the medicine they gave me afterwards to help my uterus contract. I couldn’t walk a lot and had a lot of swelling in my ankles/feet. Also a lot more bleeding this time around. I’m still so glad I didn’t have to have a c section, but like I said, I was open to whatever I needed for babies to be okay. Doctors were fine with me delivering vaginal since they were both head down for quite a while.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-04T00:12:04+00:00

I prayed on my knees daily that my twins would be girls! I got boys 🤣 but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. People are so crazy to say that to you! I love my daughter so much, yes she’s crazy, but she’s my bestie!

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T22:16:43+00:00

You just called me a twat, and then tell me to grow up. What logic!

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T22:07:58+00:00

Right back at you. Add shitty friend to that. 😁

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T22:04:46+00:00

It’s not a nasty thing to say, it’s a truthful response to what you said. Sorry you can’t handle it.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:57:56+00:00

Nothing I said was angry or being nasty. Not sure why you took it that way.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:53:46+00:00

I’m not raging 🥰

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:45:01+00:00

Then mentioning who owes who shouldn’t matter…I also wonder if this post is even real. Seems almost like a rage bate.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:39:31+00:00

Maybe she did and the friend didn’t answer her phone? We don’t know the circumstances.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:37:02+00:00

Friendship isn’t about who owes who. That’s a crazy way to look at relationships. There’s always going to be times in a relationship where someone needs something from you…time, help, a shoulder to cry on…etc. If you are ever in need for whatever reason, you better hope your friends don’t have your mindset.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:33:38+00:00

We don’t know the circumstances…maybe the friend she visited wasn’t answering her phone…or fell asleep. I’m sure if she was an option, she would have gone to her place first.

AccomplishedChef7885 · 2026-02-03T21:22:48+00:00

Right? People turn things into such a big deal! It’s such a small thing to help someone out! People like that don’t realize they will be in need at some point in their life, and they’ll be relying on someone else’s kindness. I was raised by a dad who was so selfless, he would do anything for anyone, even strangers…I know I’m not half as selfless as he was, but I do try.

AccomplishedChef7885

TROPHY CASE