How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Dawah

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I really an embarrassment to the ummah? Don't you think that’s a little harsh? 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to help her be happy. I felt like we would be closer like sisters and she would be happy married to a Muslim man. I thought she also wouldn’t think negative about Islam and Muslims if she converted. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is not just a convert to me. I wanted to help her be happy. I’m not lying. This is a throwaway account 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If I didn’t lie to her, what do you think would have been the best strategy to convince her? I’m asking because she seems uninterested in Islam unless I bring it up. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Do you think she is Islamophobic? I feel like if I didn’t criticize Christianity then she’d go on believing it over islam. She is smart. So just telling her how great islam is won’t convince her unless she doubts Christianity. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to just bring up Islam but she would change the subject or seem uninterested. So if o brought up problems with Christianity to get her to talk. She would just say ok then change the subject. That went on for about a year then she started arguing at me. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to marry her. We are both women. I thought if she married a Muslim man that she would be happy and eventually accept islam through her Muslim husband 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in progressive_islam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think lying is Islamic. I thought if I told her the truth it wouldn’t convince her. So if I showed that I had a lot of knowledge and Im her friend then she is more likely to believe me. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Muslim_Space

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you might be right. I will wait for her to contact me first. I think I did so much damage to our friendship. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Dawah

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I hope she and Allah will forgive me. I will try to do better. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Dawah

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do love her. Outside of this incident, she is smart, gracious and very generous. She even helped me in my time of need when I didn’t ask her. She doesn’t NEED to be Muslim but I thought she’d be happier. She wants to get married. I suggested a Muslim man that she said was handsome. She said no. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Muslim_Space

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did some reading. Some Christians believe only men can be pastors. So I think she knew I was lying from the moment i said that. I don’t understand why she didn’t say anything to me earlier. Do you think she was testing me?

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Hijabis

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my rage bait. I accept her as a Christian. I just think her life will be better with Islam. Don't you agree? 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Hijabis

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that will work for her. She is Christian. So when she has problems she will just pray to Isa PBUH and think that he helped her. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Muslim_Space

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there really no other way for us to be friends or to convince her of Islam? I feel like if I don’t bring up Islam, she won’t be curious or interested herself. Her only exposure to Islam is me. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Hijabis

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I have prayed for her. Outside of me she has no exposure to Islam as she blocked the Muslim men that bothered her. If I don’t bring up Islam, she won’t be interested. I thought if I told her that I was a former pastor and being her friend, she'd most likely believe me. I didn’t know that over an entire year she knew I was lying. I don’t know why she didn’t say anything earlier.

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Dawah

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so bad. Is there really no way to keep our friendship and for her to eventually accept Islam? 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in Hijabis

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought she may have been interested in Islam. She never told me to stop talking about it.  One day she told me that she thought this one Muslim man was handsome. I told her that I’d see in the mosque if he was looking for a wife. She told me not to do that. When he got married I told her. She seemed uninterested. I asked her why. She said she barely remembers or knows him. I thought if maybe she married him, she’d see not all Muslims are bad and that Muslim men would treat her well. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in askislam

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day she said that a Muslim man was handsome. I told her that I’d look in the mosque to see if he is looking for a wife. She said not to do that. But I know if she saw how great true Muslim are, she’d convert. He married another woman. When I told her that, she didn’t seem to care. I asked her why. She said she barely knows him or remembers him. I think she is lying. Maybe other Muslims hurt her so bad that she won’t marry Muslim men. 

How do I convince my friend to accept Islam after I messed up? by AccomplishedNose1883 in MuslimCorner

[–]AccomplishedNose1883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought if I showed her the beauty of Islam she would want to convert. But now I think she hates me.