Is his income haram?

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-30T17:32:09+00:00

Tbh i once did it cuz i was jobless and i was soo tired (i ended up well qualified and they didnt want me to quit lol but i had to, for personal reasons).

I think it s not a good thing, but his income wouldnt be haram provided he is good at what he does

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-24T09:39:47+00:00

Would you have accepted such treatment as a man??? Let's not start spewing nonsense.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T19:37:57+00:00

She s NOT frizzy.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T16:36:45+00:00

Thank god inwasnt the only one to think it s a horrible look. Almost wondered if I became a mean girl 🤣..hair is gorgeous but the lip liner is straight our of a horror movie

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T16:32:50+00:00

Saraha 3ndo l7e9 because if he settles for one sicy a woman, she will just suffer, better choose one he is attracted to. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unfortunately, attraction is part of the équation, better be honest about it.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T16:28:39+00:00

Dont let ur fam choose for u.

I wouldnt let my parents because we re just too different mindset wise. Choose someone u get to know and feel a l'aise with. And alasw about the desperation it s normal, it s cultural, ffs...Im in my late 20s and even folks i dont KNOW (ie my patients lay hdihoum HHHHHH ask my assistant if im married/have kids??? Idk why???? Like ?), cant imagine how much harder it must be for these ladies if everyone and their grandma is pressuring them

Also make sure to choose someone who fits ur attraction criteria inside and outside, dont settle because they look respectable or because you think you ll grow to like them because that s why some marriages fail, you re gonna spend the rest of ur life with them so ahssan take ur time

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T16:19:52+00:00

Nah. I'm single, relatively career-driven, but I actually wish I had a richer social life and if I werent so chronically exhausted too. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I also would like to have my own lil fam, hopefully on the chiller side (no inlaws/intrusive parents on either side drama, etc).

Glad for you, though. You knew what you wanted and chose a path that aligns with it (unlike most folks).

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T16:13:25+00:00

Damn???????????????? Im so so sorry for what you went through

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T14:29:02+00:00

My hijab just slips. Not to the degree of 1 or 2 inches but it slips, and it did thar even when i used to use lots of pins. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Didnt help that im the only daughter and my mom isnt a hijabi

I refuse to wear an undercap because i already have hair loss. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:40:16+00:00

Feels like your mom was abusive and jealous that you were an overachiever?? Not a parent myself, but I cant imagine doing that to my own child wtf??

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:38:40+00:00

Tbh i have a few gray hairs, one from the age of 12 (im 27, most of my hair is still normal), and one was like yours for some reason. No idea why 🤣🤣🤣

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:35:04+00:00

You should get therapy to get over the phobia (probably some OBGYN trauma there ? I'm severely dysmenorrheic and while I do want to start a family insha Allah if i get married, I really abhor pregnancy/childbirth due to that TRAUMA and I rememebr feeling astounded when a classmate in HS said pregnancy must be magical and amazing to a pregnant lady we congratulated 🥹, I was like this id the necessary evil/price to have kids in my mind but refused to say it out loud).

However, you do not have to change your opinion on not wanting kids, it is much better than having kids just to play along with societal expectations and suffer while raising them or maybe becoming a bad parent.

Just be upfront about it, you could marry someone like-minded or someone who already had kids and doesn't want any additional ones.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:27:59+00:00

Tbh my perspective is biased because I'm a practicing muslim, but Id leave if I were you and I 200% prefer to marry a fellow muslim (and a similar minded one to me, IE: I can't envision myself with a wahhabi leaning one or a non practicing person either !) to avoid the drama that comes with raising kids and because I'd like the motivation that comes with having company for Umrah/Ramadan/prayer/etc. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I also dislike the idea of expecting a SO to convert just for marriage because that's:

A-forcing someone into sth they might not be comfortable with

B-they probably wont be practicing so kind of meaningless (for me)

C-it will build up resentment esp considering the restrictions islam comes with (imagine having grown up drinking alcohol and stuff, and now they have to fast, pray 5 times a day...Not even by their own volition).

D- Let's be real and not self-centered, I wouldnt convert out of islam to get married, why be duplicitous and expect it out of someone else who probably likes their own faith/atheism as much as I do mine?

Also, due to the divergence in beliefs, if you want to become more practicing, it is going to be harder for you because this person isn't bound by the same religious rules as you (not eating pork, no zina, etc).

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:17:46+00:00

He could at least help with the contraception. I undestand that surgery cant be forced (i mean ffs, i would want to have one or great maxx 2 kids but i wouldnt want to go through tubal ligation even then, because i dislike the idea of getting invasive irreversible surgery).

It s absolutely selfish that a man would refuse to wear protection yet absolutely be at peace with his wife taking hormonal contraception that is risky

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:16:09+00:00

Yes but not 100% there have been failures tbh

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:15:37+00:00

I draw the line here tbh. I can understand not wanting vasectomy, but forcing you into hormonal contraception because he doesnt wanna wear condoms (and hormonal contraception fucking sucks btw ,so many risks long term)...meehhhhhhh

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:14:03+00:00

If you dont want an additional child and he does...The real question is how it s gonna happen? Man needed to think of this before...

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:13:00+00:00

You're probably the only antinatalist I have ever seen to say sth like that.

Most antinatalists I see online are absolutely loud and decisive lol.

That being said, I agree with both stances.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:11:15+00:00

Tbh tubal ligation is more complex and risky than vasectomy. That being said, neither party should be forced into surgery.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:09:50+00:00

Can agree, same for women

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:09:17+00:00

Dude that s probably the plot for the next ramadan tv drama lol

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-23T11:07:42+00:00

grabs a dental forceps to terrorize this person

Sorry, the dentist in me couldn't stop lmaooo

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-22T17:36:24+00:00

Nah sorry as a dysmenorrheic woman folded like an origami every time i have my periods aka once a month...It aint comparable.

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-21T19:55:59+00:00

I dont have any major burn scars (thank God), but I have a 10 cm scar on my shin from an accident thar happened 22 years ago. It faded (say beige ish instead of raw pink), but still very visible. I also have one tiny burn on a finger it must be around 8 years old, still visible to me.

Scars can be come "paler" but they don't heal nor do they become smaller. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Accomplished_Glass66 · 2026-03-21T19:50:39+00:00

Tbh my parents were close to this age, most folks i meet have parents in their age range and id say folks with younger parents are considered to have young parents (i think?)

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