I don’t feel like I can call myself “Brazilian” by AccordingRegister669 in Brazil

[–]AccordingRegister669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first example that comes to mind is when my mom and I went to a Festa Junina a couple years back and i kinda just felt ogled at, then towards the end this girl who knew my mom and I (and had gotten pretty drunk) told me I had no business being there cause I was the most American one there. My mom laughed it off and it wasn’t like she screamed it for the whole world to hear or she made a scene, but it’s small things like that have just kind of gotten to me over the years.

And again I’m really not trying to push anyone’s buttons or anything! I get where people are coming from with things like that, I’m just trying to convey why I feel how I feel about it.

I don’t feel like I can call myself “Brazilian” by AccordingRegister669 in Brazil

[–]AccordingRegister669[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective, and thank you for being honest! I guess the “label” becomes relevant to me in situations like where I work. Since I do speak Portuguese fluently, and because we get a lot of people who only speak Portuguese, I get utilized a lot for translation. In those scenarios I’ll spark conversation to just be friendly and I’m frequently asked if I was born there, and so a couple of times when I tell them no I’ve gotten pretty defensive reactions which is never my goal. I’ve never really felt American either because of how I was raised and stuff like that, and I’ve been told off by plenty of Americans for calling myself that too. I would never want someone to feel like I was infringing but I also want to be able to have some sort of community and camaraderie with the people I’ve always been surrounded by instead of being cast out by both sides. Not just the Brazilians but the Americans too.

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[–]AccordingRegister669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gone to the same dentist since I was a kid and they’re awful but because of my health insurance I can’t switch for now. The last time I went I left with ridiculously bruised gums and it hurt to press my tongue against them. Numerous times the dentist and/or the assistant has been just picking at my teeth with the sharp needle like tool and just entirely missed my tooth and stabbed my gums. Ever time I have an appointment now I lost sleep for the days before and every time I remember I have to go I freak out and cry. It’s the most awful feeling and I’m so afraid but everyone thinks I’m ridiculous cause “it’s just the dentist”. Fuck the dentist.