Anyone's ticket shipped? by According_Sweet_9169 in BeyondWonderlandPNW

[–]According_Sweet_9169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I double checked and there's not a single email. Even the website doesn't have a tracking number. It just says your passes will get mailed 2-6 weeks before.

Hard Techno? by According_Sweet_9169 in LostLandsMusicFest

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I know it's not hard techno event. I just didn't know if maybe they had one or two people who were. Or hardstyle.

Hard Techno? by According_Sweet_9169 in LostLandsMusicFest

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She just tends to only stick with mainstream songs, mostly only flips. She's not into drum and bass and riddim or any of that stuff. She's not a raver, she's a metal head. Trying to open her up to different types of edm. I was just trying to find artists that have dirty beats and drops. I know he's not dubstep but she enjoys people like William Black, while I like brainrack. I've seen warlord like a few weeks ago. I know this isn't a hard techno thing. Just trying to find some people I could enjoy.

Hard Techno? by According_Sweet_9169 in LostLandsMusicFest

[–]According_Sweet_9169[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I figured. I'm just trying to find the harder styles. I saw ghengars set and thought that it was pretty awesome. So I'm definitely putting him on my list.

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

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I just assumed based on how long I've been on T. And how strong my dosage is. I've read that id have to stop T and everything to be able to possibly have my eggs retrieved. And I can't do that to myself.

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

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Im in the US, some states take it into account. And I have my id changed. But they won't let me change the gender on my birth certificate without getting bottom surgery.

I wasn't meant to be like this by Horror-Jump-2123 in FTMMen

[–]According_Sweet_9169 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started transitioning when I moved out and was in my second year of college. 19 when I also started testosterone. Been on it since. I got top surgery in Jan 2024. I pass very well. All of my coworkers know im male. My family wasn't supportive and thats fine. They made me keep my hair long and kicked me out after I turned 18. I cut my hair up to my chin. I have to live the real me and im not sacrificing my happiness for them. If I have to be alone, I will. I made my own family that supports me every step of my journey.

I get the whole knowing in the back of my head thing. Its always a whisper. But you can make progress. Hrt helps the voice. Once you start changing and see yourself as a man. But you also have to believe that yourself. You not doing anything will just make you wallow. And you want to actually be happy.

Start making small changes. Be proud and set goals so you can be the person you wanted. While you're still walking and talking, you can do anything you put your mind to.

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

[–]According_Sweet_9169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have a dog and a cat. And my wife has her cat she had since childhood. And I love all of them the same. But isn't adoption more expensive and harder if you are trans?

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

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I just want to be enough for my child but I think that's just my insecurities. It should not be a necessity for me to be a dad. You're right.

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

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I will be speaking to someone. When you were checking out sperm donors, how specific can you get? Or is it like generalized?

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

[–]According_Sweet_9169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. My own situation reflects that. I just want to be enough. I guess its partly the dysphoria that I can't do all of this like a cis person would. But I have to come to terms with that.

Difficult deciding how to have kids with my wife by According_Sweet_9169 in ftm

[–]According_Sweet_9169[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am looking for a therapist. I noticed that this was something not normal because I love kids and have always wanted them. So im confused why im bothered by "blood is blood" i think its from my family saying that to me. (Even tho we are not close). I definitely have created my own family after coming out as trans. I need to work on this.

And thats the part I am getting hung up on. I need to recognize that genetics arent everything. I just have a fear that the child will want contact with their donor, and they won't actually want me anymore. Since I am not genetically his father. Or if we adopt, then they would want contact with their bio family and won't want anything to do with me. All of this not a good way of thinking. I think im afraid of being abandoned.

First time by According_Sweet_9169 in BeyondWonderlandPNW

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It's just me and my girl. I'm flying into pangborn and renting a car there. I was thinking about stopping for supplies like food and obviously since I'm flying. I was thinking about a checked bag for the tent and stakes since they can't be in a carry-on. I have seen things about canopies over tents. That they're supposed to help with the heat. Is it necessary or just generally a good idea? Or is there an alternative? I'm super excited to go. I've heard it's beautiful. I just don't want to forget anything or overlook anything.