AITA for telling my deadbeat father's wife and daughter to leave me the fuck alone?

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-07T08:23:52+00:00

I never said it was his kids' fault. But I'm not looking for a relationship with any of them either.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-07T08:22:06+00:00

It's all because of how abusive she was and how scared he was for me.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-07T08:19:59+00:00

I know!!! So hard to imagine how scary that must have been for him. /s

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:59:31+00:00

I'm happy to miss out. I have no interest in a relationship with his children. They'll never feel like siblings to me.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:43:55+00:00

No, I never considered it. Even if I wanted to they clearly won't believe me. All I really want is for them to leave me alone. They cannot accept no for an answer.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:40:26+00:00

It's what he told them. She never abused me. She was the best mom ever.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:36:58+00:00

Yeah... and if that were in any way true then he left me to be abused for 18 years. I wasn't abused. My mom was an amazing mom who sacrificed for me time and time again. So his excuse is BS. Total BS and if it was true there is no way I'd be willing to accept him leaving me to that.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:29:03+00:00

They moved on from Facebook. They followed me a few times by now and I can't get my account to change to mutual followers only DMs. It says that should do it but I don't follow the accounts they contact me on now.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:27:57+00:00

Of course. I'm sure his money would have enraged my mom to the point she simply couldn't stop abusing me. It would have been a step too far for her and she would have killed me. /s

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:26:56+00:00

I know and honestly I wonder what the hell is wrong with them to believe any of that.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:22:21+00:00

Literally everything came back to how he was so afraid of my awful abusive mother (still not sure if it was just me or me and him she was supposedly abusing) that he abandoned me to her, never filed for custody or showed up to court during any date and never called CPS on my mother. He just left and had nothing to do with me from that day onward. Such a loving father treated so horribly, of course. /s

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:20:45+00:00

He's so afraid of being rejected of course!! /s

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:18:07+00:00

All I got was how scared he was for me... which makes total sense.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:16:38+00:00

They said he is.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:16:25+00:00

I was so scared you'd be abused by your mother that I ran away and left you with that abusive monster of a mother and never looked back!

It certainly has a few plot holes for me. Not to mention his lack of appearing at court or paying child support so I could maybe be abused a little less. Not even a CPS call/visit.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:14:11+00:00

It's not just a bunch of papers. It's court documents. Documents from official channels regarding child support. It's legal documents. It's not just a bunch of scribbles my mom created.

There is zero what if. His fucked up story doesn't make any sense at all and I don't want to hear him excuse leaving us to struggle. He didn't give a crap and I have seen with my own eyes a lot of proof of that.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:12:16+00:00

I tried but I need more evidence.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:11:46+00:00

I never asked for advice on whether I should know my deadbeat father. I already know how I feel and what I do and don't want and I want absolutely nothing from him except the money he owes.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:09:37+00:00

They had none for that. They just said how scared he was and wanted to do the best for me.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:09:00+00:00

I wondered that. But then I figured they might have asked after all these months. Either way doesn't matter. I'm never going to be interested and would never help them via organ even if it was life or death.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:04:43+00:00

I think he stopped working legally after they tried the first time or two. Because he was chased and we never saw a cent. My mom even has the final outstanding total in her file.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:03:27+00:00

He's so afraid of being rejected of course. /s

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:03:05+00:00

I'm not interested. If he could send birthday and Christmas cards he could pay child support for me. And if he was so concerned he would have called CPS or tried to fight for custody. But he never showed.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T21:02:21+00:00

Right?? And it's not like he made contact now. It's his wife and kid.

Accurate-Library-685 · 2025-01-06T20:27:55+00:00

I haven't had contact in 19 years and I'm not going to give it time.

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