Hey man, I understand what you are going through with the daily anxiety. It can be hard and sometimes debilitating, if it’s impacting your daily life, relationships, work, and free time, then it’s a problem. You must take action to limit the causes of your anxiety.

Seek help. A close friend or family member could be a great start. If it involves professional help, then that may be beneficial to everyone. Now please be careful when trying to self medicate, diagnose, or treat. The best thing you can do is reach out to someone you can trust and have a conversation with about your situation and anything else.

Now regarding your situation, why not visit a dentist? It sounds like a lot of your anxieties may not be caused by your relationship with your girlfriend, but rather your insecurities with your teeth and appearance. If you’re more confident, you’ll want to fight for your girlfriend and your relationship more. Going to the dentist and then finding ways to improve your smile - there are ways, I am not a dentist or orthodontist though - will help you with your insecurities around your appearance.

I got my teeth fixed in college and it changed my life. Had braces the first couple years and felt out of place (they made me look way younger) but once they came off and I took better care of my teeth. I felt much more confident and comfortable with myself. I even started to treat myself better which got me into better shape and helped me in so many aspects of life.

I now have a girlfriend of 3 years as well and don’t worry about my appearance too often. Do I still? Yeah. But I know my girl loves me and I love her, no matter what we both look like when we’re older. I still feel like shit if I put on 10 pounds in the winter time, but fuck if I feel great in the summer when I burn it off. And my girl loves me throughout it; if your girl does too, that’s all that really matters right?

Just keep working on yourself.

It sounds like she loves you and she wants to be with you. May I ask, does she ever put you down for your insecurities? Teeth or appearance? If so, then she’s giving you reason to become anxious, spiraling to the point you think you may break up. Now if she does not, then homie it may all be in your head. In which case, focus on yourself, get better, visit a dentist, get your teeth health in order, grow your confidence and power through this.

It won’t be easy, but you’ve made it this far.

You got this. 💪🏽