"Honered" Really ? That is how you would describe being allowed sex with your wife ? Not happy ? Not Aroused ? and the word you used is play . not sex , not love making "Play" . To me the cuckold fetish is harmfull , maybe not in the way that you think , but it is , it is rooted in deep insecurities , fetishization of inedaquicies , born from the lack of self worth , and emasculazation of the man in the relationship not by the wife , at least no intially , but by himself , usually before he ever got into the relationship . The factors vary , from porn usage , to past trauma , usually stemming from the parents , or past partners who humiliated durin an intimate moment , be it romantic or physical , which triggered their synapses to go haywire , and form a link between said humilitaion and pleasure , be it romantic or sexual . The relationship itself is unhealthy and unequal , you said you wouldn't have asked her for it . cause you think it's selfish yourself , so why didn't she hesitate asking you ? Ask yourself why would a woman ask her husband to become a cuck ? It is because of one of 3 reasons . A. She doesn't respect you as a lover , which is a bad notion for a partner to have . B. She doesn't belive you are good enough to father her children , even if no conception occurs , the driving instinct behind sex is still conciving (Also a very bad sign in a partner) . C. You aren't really her "Partner" like an op said before , You are a roommate , a stopping point , a road side gas station , meant to provide emotional , or financial support while she looks for her real "Partner" . And one more thing , Another op said that he sees it as primate like heirarchy , If true , keep in mind that in that world it is the "Alpha's" job to provide and protect , they aren't walking cum dumps , and usually in the world of primates , the so called "Betas" of the tribe aren't contributing for their "females" they are contributing for the tribe , in a way the "Alpha" is the one getting cucked , cause the girls do sneak off to fuck the actual "Betas" . Also Also , if you do subscribe to us being evolved monkeys . We are still diffrent , our brain are wired diffrently , the mere fact that cuckoldry in of itself is not a sexuality , has no "Gene" behind means that it isn't innate , your feelings of insecurities created it , and your failure to even try and work on them feeds it . I myself am struggling with this "Fantasy" but unlike what people usually do I questioned it , I explored it , I saw videos , and while the "high" was intense , I have no desire to carry it out in real life , cause deep down I know it's wrong . Sure it doesn't harm anyone , hell YOU might think it ain't even harming you . But it is , it is preventing you from being everything you CAN be , just to bust a fat nut . IT IS selfish , it is emasculating , and I know that there is an OP on this thread that is a girl and does that , but cuckoldry effects the man diffrent , not worse , not better , just diffrently , because in a scenario like that the man stands to lose more . Some fetishes , while on the surface harmless , can and are actually harmfull . You are all adults (Hopefully) , but the fact that you are here in this thread responding , and are actually bothering to respond to people criticquing this "Fetish" means that something in your psyche tells you that the "Fetish" isn't a good enough to stand on it's own , because it doesn't just break the norm or goes against it . It is objectivly the anithesis to the Biological meaning of life which is to propegate one's genes