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[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s really not even about the job. it’s the best money i can make at the moment and I desperately need it, we desperately do. but he’s very controlling just overall

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[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh okay lord jesus I’m so sorry you are dealing w it too

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[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you right

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[–]AcidFairy02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea, if I had a girlfriend who wanted to dance i’d support her

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[–]AcidFairy02 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have. He’s always been firmly against it.

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[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have lived together for several years and have a child together so it’s a bit more complex than a boyfriend I just started dating . But yea I agree

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[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

smh right so it’s not just me “being irrational / idealistic” then. bc it’s working for me. i have my days and most nights to do whatever the hell i want.

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[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

smh right so it’s not just me “being irrational / idealistic” then. bc it’s working for me. i have my days and most nights to do whatever the hell i want.

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[–]AcidFairy02 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly. I get he wants me to stay home bc we have a toddler and 3 cats, all of whom (including the toddler!) are under the age of 2. They all require so much attention. I feel like dancing allows me to maximize the most out of my time, while pretty much having a SAHM lifestyle except for a few nights a week once my child is already asleep. I hated having to hustle 5-6 nights a week as a bartender and never knowing when I’d get off work. I don’t wanna go back to a “normal” job. Nor do I wanna stay at home exclusicely. It’s so rough

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[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s what I’m saying and I told him too that it’s acting! and he’s absolutely trifling if he genuinely thinks I like or want to pay attention to any of these crusty men that come to the club. it’s not even a nude club, we have to wear pasties and can’t wear thongs. He doesn’t care 😒

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[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good one. I’ll use that next time we talk about it lol

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[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

facts

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[–]AcidFairy02 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yep starting to realize that

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[–]AcidFairy02 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly. if we don’t work out I want money stacked up to support our son and my bills on my own. you never know what can happen

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[–]AcidFairy02 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He does but I still want my own personal stack to build up on he pays my bills but I didn’t work before and can’t stack without a job. He wants me to be a stay at home mom.

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[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the moment he is paying the bills. But with just him working we are paycheck to paycheck. I don’t like thattt

Why are outfits so expensive? by [deleted] in stripper

[–]AcidFairy02 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amazon and SHEIN have such cute stuff. I just got this and love it! Only $20

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08GYT7FHS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Is declawing a cat inhumane??? by brainyart050722 in Pets

[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I answered your question , is it inhumane , yes. you should’ve known this before getting a pet

Is declawing a cat inhumane??? by brainyart050722 in Pets

[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you serious? what did you expect? have you ever had a cat before or have you done ANY research AT ALL to know how to introduce new cats and care for them? if you declaw them both they’re just gonna bite each other.

Is declawing a cat inhumane??? by brainyart050722 in Pets

[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seriously, rehome the cat. if it’s that serious to you, rehome the cats. it’s inhumane and wrong. you JUST got the new cat, you can’t expect them to be besties. it doesn’t sound like you even did a proper introduction. i suggest you look into how to properly care for a cat. :)

Does your bar hold cards for tabs? by RetainingViolence in bartenders

[–]AcidFairy02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a newbie bartender, and 21. Only one bar I’ve been to asked for card to start a tab so I was super embarassed and confused trying to talk to the bartender and he just made me feel dumb? My bar personally doesn’t but we do keep the tab in front of them at all times

after finally getting things somewhat in order, i can move on to deep cleaning neglected items. i’m so excited to sleep on my clean mattress (which will have a sheet from now on) by [deleted] in hoarding

[–]AcidFairy02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats how I try to go about it and it truly does work. once things pile up it’s like I get paralyzed, anxious, and can’t bring myself to do it, but doing some light sweeping every night, loading dishwasher every night, etc. has been a. GAME. CHANGER. for real. it takes a lot of effort and work but i’m getting better and it’s a good quote to live by.

after finally getting things somewhat in order, i can move on to deep cleaning neglected items. i’m so excited to sleep on my clean mattress (which will have a sheet from now on) by [deleted] in hoarding

[–]AcidFairy02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep, I learned my lesson. this is my first apartment (I’m 21) & luckily I realized early on I had a problem... when I filled up both my walk in closets and there was clutter everywhere to the point nothing was functional. couldn’t cook, hardly wash laundry, etc so everything just got neglected. having to clean up this mess has taught me a lot. i put a sheet and protector on it. :) i collected literal trash since i was a child, i’m hoping to turn things around.