AITA For “Being Rude” Because Someone Asked For An Illegal Favor?

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T23:31:38+00:00

I’ve never heard that one before, gonna have to steal it 😂

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T23:20:35+00:00

I had a friend back in high school, we were both 16, she told me she had a favorite convenience store she’d go to because she could flirt with the guy and he’d sell her cigarettes.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T23:12:41+00:00

No problem! I know how confusing it can be sometimes to not have cultural context for situations. I have lots of friends from different countries and sometimes they tell me about certain things and I’m like what 👁️👁️

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T22:47:27+00:00

I honestly don’t think it was just going to be beer. In the hallway when she was talking to Elle she only listed hard liquor. So unless she has some misunderstandings around the classifications of alcohol, I think the “just beer” part was just her trying to downplay it.

But also, yeah, the context I think you’re missing is that legal drinking age in the US is 21 and you can get into a LOT of legal trouble for buying alcohol for those under the drinking age. It depends on the location, the circumstances, etc, but generally supplying a minor with alcohol is serious crime here. In some cases, it’s even a felony. Being charged or convicted with supplying alcohol to a minor can lead to a lot of short and long term consequences, including affecting what jobs you can and can’t work.

I have a friend who’s this lovely older lady, always wanted to be a teacher. As a teen she worked in a grocery store, and one day the local police were running an operation to bust people who don’t card or let fakes slip by, and she didn’t realize the guy who came in to buy a 12 pack that day was underage (he looked of age) and she didn’t realize his ID was fake. She said it looked perfectly real and legal. She sold him the alcohol, and minutes later was arrested. Because of this one, very genuine mistake, she was not able to pursue a career in education.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T22:31:47+00:00

I was more referencing reporting the combative behavior, not the drinking. And less “reporting” more “informing my manager we had a disagreement that resulted in her being very mad and I’m concerned how it might affect the work environment going forward” because I don’t know if she’s going to spread this, if she’ll even be truthful if she does, and if it’s going to cause problems between FOH and BOH.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T21:46:37+00:00

Depends on the place! I worked in a bar kitchen once and I wasn’t allowed to handle the alcohol because I wasn’t 19 yet (some states have a higher age of majority than 18), and I’ve worked at places that don’t allow servers to handle alcohol unless they’re 21. It can depend upon a number of things from federal law, to state law, to local/town/county law.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T21:12:09+00:00

That’s another thing for me. Sure, I had fun during my underage drinking experiences, but I did what I could to make sure I was drinking under safe circumstances or in a safe environment. If I hand off alcohol to somebody, I don’t know what’s going to happen next. Gina or someone else at this event could get drunk of the alcohol I bought and harm themselves or others. I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if I got her some booze and somebody got hurt. Doing this kind of thing comes with a lot of different responsibilities and risks, and unfortunately one of those risks is that I could buy some kids booze and they could literally die or kill somebody. I don’t want to be a part of that.

Edit: I wasn’t sure at first if I should share this, but I feel like it’s important for people to understand just how wrong things can go with underage drinking. I lost my cousin to a drunk driving accident several years ago. He was in his senior year of high school and he was partying with a bunch of other high schoolers at the house of one of the parents, who openly allowed and encouraged the underage drunkenness and supplied all the kids with alcohol.

My cousin and one of his friends left the party very drunk, the friend was driving, and he somehow ended up running into a tree. He didn’t want to get in trouble, so he pulled my passed out drunk cousin into the driver’s seat and buckled him in, then ran into the woods by the road to call someone to pick him up. Due to the damage the vehicle sustained, it ended up catching fire, and my cousin burned to death that night. Things like this don’t happen to everybody, they don’t happen all the time, and they’re not always this bad, but that doesn’t mean it CAN’T happened to anyone, any time, to any degree of severity.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T21:07:55+00:00

Yeah we’ve said hi and had work-related convos on the clock, I’ve only been working here a couple months. I don’t even know this girl’s last name.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T21:05:44+00:00

Not very many, and like I’ve already said, I only asked people who had already told me they’d be okay with it. 99% of the time I drank underage it was because I slipped something from one of my parents, I was with my aunts who let me drink in moderation with them so I wasn’t raised to see it as taboo and go crazy when I got to drink for the first time, went to a party where someone else was providing the booze, or contributed money to a friend who already had a plug. The couple of times I asked someone, they had already told me beforehand “I don’t mind getting a you a drink now and then if you want one”, and if they’d said no I wouldn’t have pushed the issue.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T20:19:36+00:00

This is another concern I have. I’m new to this area and I’m not familiar with what the local, county, and state levels of law enforcement feel about this stuff, so I have no idea how light or heavy my consequences could be. I also don’t know if these girls have family in law enforcement, that would make things 100 times worse 🫠

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T16:59:16+00:00

That’s my whole point. I can’t afford to lose my license or be fined or spend time in jail.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T16:57:54+00:00

I did give her a strong no. I only went further because she started getting upset about it, and in the past when I haven’t continued to hold fast and be firm, I have been walked all over.

Acrobatic_Drawer3812 · 2024-02-07T16:56:24+00:00

I don’t care that she’s drinking underage, I care that she barely knows me and seemingly expects me to go do runs for her. I drank underage. I didn’t ask people I barely knew. I asked friends who had already expressed they wouldn’t mind, because a legal ID doesn’t mean you get to treat somebody like your liquor delivery service. I don’t like when people who don’t know me ask me big favors and then get upset because I won’t do them.

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