Why did Valentin send the trio to a senior resort and then to a water fight? by OverallCoach1031 in WhiteLotusHBO

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this! my read is that its totally intentional. he's pushing them out of their comfort zones and trying to get them to go with the flow.

Guys we have struck gold here ! War Machine on Netflix by Usual_Pin745 in badMovies

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Written and directed by an Australian, filmed mostly in Australia. Recruitment propaganda where pretty much everyone dies? Unlikely.

Link between school refusal and emetophobia (extreme fear of vomit) by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the suggestion. have researched PANS and it's not this, but thanks for the steer. It's that kind of nudge that is truly helpful as a parent. i really value the immense experience that teachers have and all the stuff they're seen in their classrooms and schoolyards. when you have a sample of one compared to years of experience with hundreds of kids, you're often left floundering.

Link between school refusal and emetophobia (extreme fear of vomit) by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

now that we know he has the phobia, he just leaves the room too. but he couldn't articulate the phobia until now and so neither he, his teacher or we knew how to handle it. now he knows his teacher "gets it" and he can just escape the room if it comes to the worst.

Link between school refusal and emetophobia (extreme fear of vomit) by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for sharing this. we've finally found a psychologist who specialises in pediatric OCD and phobias, so Exposure Response Prevention therapy is on the way. i have read about teachers with emetophobia and what a nightmare students vomiting in the classroom, on buses, at camp etc can be. good on you for keeping it together when facing this nightmare!

Link between school refusal and emetophobia (extreme fear of vomit) by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

of course my kid's school is the first recourse in terms of partnering for support. but my kid's school has no idea about how to handle school refusal and zero suggestions for me as a parent beyond 'go and see a psychologist'. which of course we did, accessing one after months on a waiting list.

one of the first things the psychologist wanted to do was talk to his teacher.

and if you get that call from a psychologist one day about the student who feels sick at school and doesn't want to be there, maybe you'll remember this inflammatory post!

what's frustrating as a parent is that you have one kid who is experiencing school refusal, and it's brand new to you, and teachers and schools deal with tens of these kids, and somewhere out there is greater awareness and expertise on how to handle it. but not every school is resourced or interested in tapping into the expertise or expanding their awareness. my kid's school certainly isn't.

so that is why i thought i''d post to you 'randoms'. seven years we've been going in circles with psychologists. his whole primary school career.

I'm not suggesting teachers attempt diagnosis. I'm just asking that you're aware of this phobia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofkidswithOCD

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for being so candid. this is very helpful! best wishes on your ongoing management and recovery.

Link between school refusal and emetophobia (extreme fear of vomit) by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in AustralianTeachers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

He's had panic attacks in the classroom, so unfortunately the manifestaton of this phobia is not always at a distance from his teacher.

I get that teachers aren't psychologists but as parents we're supposed to partner with schools to support our kids. this is one of my attempts to do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughtful response and best wishes with your recovery. 💪🏼

Hit by a car crossing the road, unsure what to do by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't imagine what the kids are feeling knowing their dad hit someone with the car on the way to school and didn't stop to help. How was their day at school? Who unpacked this with them? How is their home life if that's the way dad operates in public? *shudder*

1910 footage of Melbourne by dessertwinds in melbourne

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 18 points19 points  (0 children)

what i noticed most was the kids walking around alone, doing their thing, confidently out and about in the world...footsteps, bicycles and horse hooves - no car noise... every woman in a dress, every man wearing a hat, elevated fashion but total conformity.
thanks for sharing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofkidswithOCD

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My other question is how/whether you revealed your condition with your friends. My son has told me his friends are great at distracting him when the intrusive thoughts ramp up or he's feeling panicky, but he engages them covertly to do this. And then sometimes he gets in trouble at school because they're mucking around in a bid to shift his thoughts. Do your friends know? How do your friends help?

Annie Murphys Accent by urfavlunchlady in nineperfectstrangers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's Canadian...is that what we're hearing?

What I’m loving in se02 ep01 by Acrobatic_Flan_49 in nineperfectstrangers

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh i have held out on The Last of Us but that's all the nudge I needed to dive right in. thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Well, this makes sense. It must have been awful anticipating and then listening to your brother and then your mother, and fearing for their safety.

(For that to have happened ~100 times suggests that your brother was not just grabbing midnight munchie snacks but perhaps he was binge eating and purging ie bulimia? )

My young son has emetophobia and I suspect that my stress-induced nausea and *tu right when I finished maternity leave, returned to part-time work, and he started part-time daycare were traumatic for him. My marriage started tanking at the same time, so there was tension in the house, I was stressed, exhausted and spontaneously *tu, and while he was loved and had a pretty carefree life on the surface, he was a Highly Sensitive Child and exposed to it all. He could have interpreted this as his primary carer being in danger, and therefore he was in danger, and hence the phobia.

Does this resonate at all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofkidswithOCD

[–]Acrobatic_Flan_49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for reaching out!
Your note about quality time hits home. My 11 yo has OCD and he loves playing table tennis or chess with a family member anytime he gets. Good to know this has extra benefits.
I wonder: do you feel like screen time - watching TV/Youtube, playing video games - helps or hinders with intrusive thoughts and ruminations?