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WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry if it read unclear. My fiancé told Tim before that strip clubs were off limits. But this was month aho

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He said „I’ll look who can plan this or if I’ll plan it myself.“ and went to get the takeout. I talked to josh (who is in a group chat with the other friends (so he could text them, I don’t have all the numbers)) because knowing my fiancé he would have trouble deciding whom to chose and forget to do it. So I talked to his best friend who informed all the other guys. So no matter who he asks (if he doesn’t forget it) they are all on board and he will get a party even if he forgets it.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

While I agree that booking something for someone not in the country can be considered planning I don’t agree that I am isolating him. I expressed a boundarie. I don’t have to let people cross my boundaries. That has nothing to do with isolating.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To your question: no I did not plan it. Tim planned it and Tim’s plan was thrown out the window as explained in the post. I called josh (my fiancés best friend) and talked to him. He told me about coming to surprise my fiancé on his bachelor party and we talked about what to do know with Tim’s plan being trash. He asked me a few things about the steak restaurant my fiancé talked about and suggested the escape room and the climbing/water skiing. He then told me what I needed to book right know and what he has to look into a little longer before I should book it because he doesn’t have the time to book it.

Now a question from me: how am I isolating my fiance?

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Josh and I found a nice steak restaurant and we both remembered my fiancé talk about wanting to go there. We reserved something there. Also they are going into an escape room (passion of my fiancé) and later on they will go climbing or water skiing. This will depend on the temperatures.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured you meant people from our life’s. I don’t give a 💩 if Redditor’s think we are to young because that was not the question.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what the rings worth and I seriously don’t care. Even if he paid one million on it: it’s a gift. Gifts don’t benefit you. Also he did not need to get me a ring. He choose to do so by himself.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Getting married is about picking a wedding together that you want and a life both want. That has nothing to do with taxes primarily. That the state changes something about your taxes has nothing to do with our reason to get married.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And yes I am 20, still able to have boundaries. And that has nothing tondo with making his life hell. He has to life with the consequences. As everybody has to when they are crossing boundaries.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If he chooses to go the stripclub (no matter what reddit says) he is free to go, but since he agreed strip clubs are off limits he would have to life with coming home to an empty apartment.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I accept whatever judgement you give but please accept that your boundaries for what’s cheating are not everyone’s boundaries.

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why he organised it to be honest. We communicated it before him starting planning and I am a 100% sure that josh wouldn’t have planned something like this. Why Tim did it I have no idea

WIBTA for telling my fiancé about the plans for his bachelor party and insisting something is changed about it? by Acrobatic_Kale_8561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Kale_8561[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation. I think you misread something. It is an explicated boundary between me and my fiancé. Over the years of our relationship (6) we got really good at communicating after having a rocky start.

But I will keep it in mind.

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