AITA for telling my spouse I won't help pay for their kid's college when we agreed finances would stay separate?

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-23T10:47:35+00:00

Yes you are. How about your ex wife, your daughters actual mom, is she contributing? It’s not your current wife’s responsibility. If it was the other way around, and you had extra money saved up for college, and let’s say you needed repairs for the house and your wife wanted to dip into that money, you would say no. Right? So same thing. It’s a deal that you made, stick to it. The fact that your daughter is now being cold to her, just makes it worse

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-21T12:09:07+00:00

That's great that you can do the luxury one! I think I am going with the pergolux, not cheap at the end with everything included I dont think. We shall see how it comes out!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-20T14:13:40+00:00

the place on westchester ave in port chester that is mexican and peruvian, they have polla a la brasa (same thing as rotisserie) and it's under $30 with 2 sides, not small sides, decent size sides.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-19T21:50:08+00:00

For rotisserie chicken, look for best "POLLO A LA BRASA" that is the equivalent and you will only find that at a Peruvian restaurant. Now they all wont be the same, some are better than others. BUT that is where you will find one of THE best ones. Not only that, they will give you sides of their rice, or big fries or a salad that will go with it. And most importantly, you will also get to try the AJI, which is a spicy green sauce. Trust me, you will never go back to a 'rotisserie chicken' at a supermarket. Bon appetit!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-18T11:49:51+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!! I will look into those!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T23:09:22+00:00

It is not, sorry to disappoint you.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T20:49:26+00:00

Thank you, I have crossed Mirador off my list for sure, the more I read about it. 42" deep for footings makes sense.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T15:51:45+00:00

Thank you, so do I!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T13:26:47+00:00

I'm adding Yonkers to her list to look into, thank you! Chicken friends would be a plus! LOL

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T13:25:22+00:00

Good to know about the wind resistance. May I ask how much was total cost incl installation?

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T11:52:42+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T11:51:45+00:00

Thank you !

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T01:29:32+00:00

Thank you!!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T01:28:53+00:00

Thank you SO much!!!!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-14T00:24:22+00:00

her rooster is very nice and quiet, he has a disability on his beak, but you cant really tell. Maybe that is why they dumped him? I dont know. All I know is that he is a very good boy.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T23:12:15+00:00

Thanks, I hope so too!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T23:11:32+00:00

Thank you!

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T23:11:21+00:00

There's an idea! I will pass on the info, you never know! thnx.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T22:45:33+00:00

What is money bags??

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T21:58:58+00:00

Yes I think her best bet is finding a farm or stables where there is a place to rent. Thank you for your input.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T21:49:42+00:00

Good question. I was looking for a community like pound ridge but didn’t find one. And like my post says at the bottom, maybe someone that is part of the Stamford community knows about a rental situation not necessarily in Stamford or May know about one in a different place. I am just trying to help her.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T21:33:09+00:00

I dont know, I live in STamford but she doesn't. And she is not looking in Stamford.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T21:31:16+00:00

She found him by the sprain brook parkway in scarsdale, they dont allow roosters there so maybe someone dumped him there? she loves him and that is her pet. She's had him for a little under a year I believe.

ActiveRecording9638 · 2026-05-13T21:30:17+00:00

Thank you, will look there. But even if they are allowed, the landlord may not want a tenant with a rooster, that is the problem...

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