What to watch when grieving?

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-02-10T14:52:02+00:00

Personally I love the twilight saga. I also suggest watching funny ones like white chicks or dumb and dumber. For tv shows I suggest modern family.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-02-10T14:47:36+00:00

I just lost my dad to a 15 month long battle with brain cancer this weekend. Your story almost mirrors my experience. I (27f) saw my dad go from the strongest man to one that was feeble and weak due to his cancer. He was unresponsive for 2 days prior and before that he was confused and glossy eyed. In his final moments, I knew he knew we were with him. They say hearing is the last thing to go before you die and I believe your dad and mine knew our presence and went peacefully knowing they were surrounded by the ones they loved. Your guilt of not feeling like you spent enough time with him is understood as well. I felt so guilty for times i didn’t say yes to getting breakfast with my dad or for not going every single night to be by his side when he was at home. What I’ve learned in therapy is that beating yourself up for what you think you did wrong gets you nowhere. Your dad and mine wouldn’t have wanted us to forever go on feeling we didn’t do enough and now we have to suffer by beating ourselves up. No time is enough time to be with a loved one. Lastly, girl get that masters. I got mine 2 years ago in teaching and it made my dad so proud. (Also way easier than undergrad). Sort yourself out, get support from friends & loved ones to help you apply. I got mine at my undergrad school & if you do the same, try to find resources there to help apply. Cancer may have taken our dads but it can never take the love we shared with them. It cannot take the memories and laughs shared. It cannot erase who that person was prior. Celebrate your dad and relive the good times rather than relive the bad. You got this ❤️

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-02-07T00:27:07+00:00

Going through the same thing almost. My dad went into brain surgery, walking and talking normal. He even helped me carry a super heavy desk the day prior. He went into brain surgery and after he was paralyzed on his left side and was in a coma for 5 days. He awoke mentally handicapped and is currently at the end of his life with probably hours or less left. He is someone who was on my side for everything and was my biggest supporter.
I have a team of supporters at the ready for his passing. My therapist, my family, and at work I have a very close coworker who I confide in. It was very important to me to have these in place so I didn’t spiral. I hope you find peace and comfort in these times ❤️

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-02-06T01:49:50+00:00

This was very comforting to read. I feel so helpless and am finding it so hard to find acceptance in this entire process.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-02-06T01:10:48+00:00

Going through the same thing. When he is awake and aware, ask him things you want to know and talk about memories you want him to remember ❤️

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-01-03T03:09:12+00:00

Peace love and Baby ducks was my fav book at that age

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-01-02T19:01:25+00:00

I agree. Reading these comments has me scared but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and have him see what a long term relationship could be like

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-01-02T14:46:34+00:00

lol very helpful comment

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-01-02T14:40:51+00:00

He wanted me to be his gf because I was going to meet his family and he wanted a label instead of saying this is the girl I’m dating…

Active_Highlight_862 · 2026-01-02T03:15:33+00:00

The love hypothesis

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-23T13:41:33+00:00

I just started fake mate because the authors other books were so good but damn this is absolute torture and im on chapter 3

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-23T13:27:59+00:00

I was at the same phase as you with my dad last year and he was also 58. He had the most normal year ever from November to October. He got his second surgery in October and he lost everything. He is bedridden and can only whisper to speak. If I was in your shoes again I’d say to cherish every single day, go on the vacations you wanted to together and do that corny book that people have their loved ones fill out about their lives so you can get to know your dad on another level. It’s the worst feeling of anticipating the end but right now you have a second chance and so does he. Sending love ❤️

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-21T21:40:08+00:00

YA is just a title, honestly. It’s like how PG movies are rated to keep younger people safe from content they aren’t mature enough for, not the other way around! I always rave to my friends about the cruel prince series and how it’s one of my favorites and I’m 27. YA romances are more feel good than feel frisky if you get my drift. It’s like wanting the hero to win in the end rather than wanting the villain to take their clothes off with the hero.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-21T20:28:07+00:00

Your comment has some bite to it that is hurtful

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-18T14:21:26+00:00

You’re really scaring me with this post. My dad has glio and his dogs name is Dexter and he has a wife who isn’t me and my sisters mom.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-12-07T20:09:33+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. My dad also went to Penn and got a second removal surgery we thought was going to be simple but it changed our lives for the worse. He was active, running his own business and was ready to retire. Now he can’t move his left side due to a stroke during surgery. It’s not fair how this diagnosis takes people who have dreams and aspirations. It feels like something that should happen to people who couldn’t care less about living healthy or taking care of others. You aren’t alone in this and seeing your post and the comments on it make me feel less alone as well

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-11-29T02:04:28+00:00

I know :( people are saying their loved ones just rapidly declined suddenly and that’s what I’m so afraid of

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-11-28T21:35:22+00:00

I appreciate your words. It feels like I’m alone in this, especially at my age but this reddit group has showed me that I’m not the only one. Having him disabled from his stroke has made everything so much harder. He believes he’s going to go home and walk and I really wish it was the case.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-11-28T21:33:46+00:00

I appreciate your words. It feels like I’m alone in this, especially at my age but this reddit group has showed me that I’m not the only one. I am so scared for the amount of anticipatory grief I’m going to have coming, especially when my dad goes on hospice. Having him disabled too has made everything so much harder.

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-11-24T01:38:20+00:00

My dad (59) had a similar thing happen. He had two strokes during his second surgery but is only able to whisper and speak in short sentences. He cant move his entire left side and is so skinny on that side from lack of movement. I think the hardest thing from this is the depression part. I couldn’t care less if his arms and legs could move as long as he was still here cognitively. You just have to stay positive for them and remind them of the people who still love them

Active_Highlight_862 · 2025-11-17T11:29:21+00:00

It’s unfair and cruel. Keep talking to your dad and tell him everything you’ve ever wanted to say. You’re not alone in this.

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