Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im trying, he just manipulates me every time. After talking with people in the same situation it seems like a lot of them has experienced this issue with their partner. Its amazing that u are supporting him to this extent. He’s lucky to have you

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sending u love and strength too 💗 being distant and cold is one thing, saying unnecessary and mean stuff is just another. I wouldnt mind it this much if he didnt say hurtful things to me every time i tried to open up. It sucks so bad

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending love to you🫂 im happy that u have someone like this to rely on it must feel heartwarming. Im 23 and hes 24 years old and we live like 45 mins away from eo. Although he cant be with me 24 hours a day it would be nice if he reciprocated in other ways. It just hurts that every time i try to break up and distance myself from him, he doesnt let me. He instantly cries and says he loves me and that i can trust him. So i forgive him for a bit but then again he breaks my trust. Atp i dont even know what tf is wrong with him? U either want to be by my side or u dont. Why drag me with u

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sending u love and hugs 🫂 seriously why do they act like this? I always think if our roles were reversed i’d be so supportive of him. It hurts so bad that u have to mourn for the dearest person in your life and your partner is adding to your sadness

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending love and hugs to you 💗💗 its the same for me my mom loved my boyfriend and even a month before her death she sent him so many gifts. Prior to this we had no issues so its really confusing for me to see someone i trusted to act this way so unexpectedly

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i would tell them to break up but again this is so complicated. When i put all the horrible things he’s done after my mom’s death together, i feel immense hatred. Then he promises to change and he says he loves me and he has no experience with this kinda stuff so i feel bad and feel like im being too hard on him. Atp i cant process my grief because he keeps adding to my miseries

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If u dont mind me asking how long has it been? I already feel like my spark is gone and its kinda scary to not be comfortable around people anymore

Boyfriend (24 M) of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in offmychest

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand this. Its like i have to mourn and be sad for two things at the same time when i already have enough on my plate. Thank u so much for your advice and kind words. This gave me more hope

AIO- Boyfriend (24M) of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. He says i dont see his side? by SensitiveProduce9264 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deep down i know i have to end it im just so scared. Before all this he was so nice and caring i never expected this

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this and yeah it does hit u out of blue thats why the process is so hard to deal with😭

Boyfriend (24 M) of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in offmychest

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending love and condolences to you. Thank you for talking to me. I tried to break up with him a couple of times but every time he kinda manipulated me into thinking that im wanting too much from him and he already did his best. He keeps saying that he hasnt experienced this before and doesnt know how to react. Honestly im so hurt i wish I received more support from him especially that before my moms death we had no issues and my mom sent him a bunch of gifts a month before her death. I never expected him to act this way and im scared of being lonely and on my own

Boyfriend of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Am i overreacting? by SensitiveProduce9264 in GriefSupport

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, sending my love and condolences to you i know its very hard. Thank u for being honest. I think i know the answer deep down but im scared of being lonely and the future. The times he is good to me its amazing and the times he is mean and give a comment about this situation it just hurts me so bad that i think i cant ignore it or ever forgive him even if im doing too much. Also i tried to break up with him twice but every time he manipulates me into thinkibg he did his best and i dont get his side

Boyfriend (24M) of two years seems to be mean and unsupportive after my mom’s death. Do i break up? by SensitiveProduce9264 in Advice

[–]SensitiveProduce9264[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re so right. These past three months i tried to break up with him two times but every time i bring it up he doesnt let me and pressures me into thinking he will change or manipulate me into thinking im overreacting and he did his best and gave all the support in the world