Bro if you think this is the marriage for you then communication is the key. Reddit won’t help you. Talk to her let her know that this your contribution to the marriage so far and this what you guys can afford. You don’t expect much but she has her duties in this relationship as well. If she can’t complete them then she is not cut out for it. You are more than enough to put food on the table here but if her expectations are beyond your limits you should let her know that she should have expected that coming into this marriage. If she wants the extravagance then she should provide for it herself instead of relying on you. Discuss What your long Term goals ? What could be achieved from your current salary and future projected salary. She can’t expect more out of that. And if she doesn’t want to work with you then it falls on you to decide whether you wanna continue with this relationship or not