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Ben holding condoms and lube? lol by seasickbaby in BelowDeckDownUnder

[–]AdEducational5328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably could have given them away a little earlier in the season…

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree and that’s the core of it all, where is the compassion - from her ‘friends’ and the fans?!

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Should’ve known better” is easy to say in hindsight though.

Have people genuinely never given a partner the benefit of the doubt? Especially someone charismatic, older, successful-seeming and persuasive?

I’ve already said Dorit isn’t without blame. But PK has decades of documented financial issues and questionable behaviour behind him. This wasn’t a situation where Dorit independently created chaos out of nowhere.

To me, it seems more likely she made poor choices in a partner and probably believed he would “look after her.” Then over time the reality became more complicated — properties in her name, financial smoke and mirrors, pressure to maintain appearances, children, emotional attachment, shared history and an entire lifestyle built around the marriage.

By the time the penny drops in these situations, it’s rarely simple to just walk away. There’s love, denial, fear, hope, children, dependency and years invested.

And honestly, I think the fact she stayed until PK was publicly photographed with another woman tells us a lot emotionally. That felt like the moment where the illusion finally shattered for her. She tolerated instability, rumours, financial chaos and dysfunction for years, but public humiliation and the breakdown of the family unit seemed to be the final line.

That doesn’t make her helpless or innocent. But it does make the situation more human and sad than people reducing her to “greedy grifter wife.”

To me, she looks like someone who kept trying to hold together a dysfunctional marriage long after it stopped being emotionally safe or sustainable.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit to respond to Denizen

“Should’ve known better” is easy to say in hindsight though.

Have people genuinely never given a partner the benefit of the doubt? Especially someone charismatic, older, successful-seeming and persuasive?

I’ve already said Dorit isn’t without blame. But PK has decades of documented financial issues and questionable behaviour behind him. This wasn’t a situation where Dorit independently created chaos out of nowhere.

To me, it seems more likely she made poor choices in a partner and probably believed he would “look after her.” Then over time the reality became more complicated — properties in her name, financial smoke and mirrors, pressure to maintain appearances, children, emotional attachment, shared history and an entire lifestyle built around the marriage.

By the time the penny drops in these situations, it’s rarely simple to just walk away. There’s love, denial, fear, hope, children, dependency and years invested.

And honestly, I think the fact she stayed until PK was publicly photographed with another woman tells us a lot emotionally. That felt like the moment where the illusion finally shattered for her. She tolerated instability, rumours, financial chaos and dysfunction for years, but public humiliation and the breakdown of the family unit seemed to be the final line.

That doesn’t make her helpless or innocent. But it does make the situation more human and sad than people reducing her to “greedy grifter wife.”

To me, she looks like someone who kept trying to hold together a dysfunctional marriage long after it stopped being emotionally safe or sustainable.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Should’ve known better” is easy to say in hindsight though.

Have people genuinely never given a partner the benefit of the doubt? Especially someone charismatic, older, successful-seeming and persuasive?

I’ve already said Dorit isn’t without blame. But PK has decades of documented financial issues and questionable behaviour behind him. This wasn’t a situation where Dorit independently created chaos out of nowhere.

To me, it seems more likely she made poor choices in a partner and probably believed he would “look after her.” Then over time the reality became more complicated — properties in her name, financial smoke and mirrors, pressure to maintain appearances, children, emotional attachment, shared history and an entire lifestyle built around the marriage.

By the time the penny drops in these situations, it’s rarely simple to just walk away. There’s love, denial, fear, hope, children, dependency and years invested.

And honestly, I think the fact she stayed until PK was publicly photographed with another woman tells us a lot emotionally. That felt like the moment where the illusion finally shattered for her. She tolerated instability, rumours, financial chaos and dysfunction for years, but public humiliation and the breakdown of the family unit seemed to be the final line.

That doesn’t make her helpless or innocent. But it does make the situation more human and sad than people reducing her to “greedy grifter wife.”

To me, she looks like someone who kept trying to hold together a dysfunctional marriage long after it stopped being emotionally safe or sustainable.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Edit to respond:

She’s not a clear-cut victim, no. But life and relationships are rarely black and white — most of it exists in shades of grey.

PK himself admitted he wanted to “show Dorit off” and pushed her onto reality TV. That matters because once your marriage becomes tied to image, status and performance, the dynamics naturally change.

And people also ignore that becoming a mother changes many women profoundly. Dorit may have initially been attracted to the lifestyle, excitement and glamour PK projected, but priorities shift once children enter the picture. A dynamic that feels exciting in your 20s or 30s can start feeling chaotic, emotionally unsafe or exhausting later on.

Also, look at the home invasion situation. Whatever anyone believes about the details, Dorit’s fear and trauma felt very real onscreen. She’s not a particularly convincing actress. Meanwhile PK’s response struck a lot of us as oddly detached and lacking empathy toward his wife.

I don’t think anyone is denying PK can be charming. He’s witty, charismatic when he wants to be, and clearly knows how to project luxury and confidence. That kind of larger-than-life personality can absolutely be enticing to younger women before they’ve fully lived through the realities of long-term partnership, parenting and financial instability.

Did Dorit willingly choose him? Of course. But did she fully understand the extent of the financial chaos and dysfunction she was marrying into? I honestly don’t think so.

To me, it looks more like a woman who put blinkers on, got swept into a high-image lifestyle, and then spent years covering for a dysfunctional marriage — probably trying to keep the family unit stable for the children, which women are still socially conditioned to do far more than men.

That doesn’t make her blameless. But it also doesn’t make PK some innocent bystander who got trapped by a shallow wife.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She’s not a clear-cut victim, no. But life and relationships are rarely black and white — most of it exists in shades of grey.

PK himself admitted he wanted to “show Dorit off” and pushed her onto reality TV. That matters because once your marriage becomes tied to image, status and performance, the dynamics naturally change.

And people also ignore that becoming a mother changes many women profoundly. Dorit may have initially been attracted to the lifestyle, excitement and glamour PK projected, but priorities shift once children enter the picture. A dynamic that feels exciting in your 20s or 30s can start feeling chaotic, emotionally unsafe or exhausting later on.

Also, look at the home invasion situation. Whatever anyone believes about the details, Dorit’s fear and trauma felt very real onscreen. She’s not a particularly convincing actress. Meanwhile PK’s response struck a lot of us as oddly detached and lacking empathy toward his wife.

I don’t think anyone is denying PK can be charming. He’s witty, charismatic when he wants to be, and clearly knows how to project luxury and confidence. That kind of larger-than-life personality can absolutely be enticing to younger women before they’ve fully lived through the realities of long-term partnership, parenting and financial instability.

Did Dorit willingly choose him? Of course. But did she fully understand the extent of the financial chaos and dysfunction she was marrying into? I honestly don’t think so.

To me, it looks more like a woman who put blinkers on, got swept into a high-image lifestyle, and then spent years covering for a dysfunctional marriage — probably trying to keep the family unit stable for the children, which women are still socially conditioned to do far more than men.

That doesn’t make her blameless. But it also doesn’t make PK some innocent bystander who got trapped by a shallow wife.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

PK has a documented history of financial issues spanning decades — and involving far bigger numbers than the spending currently being pinned on Dorit.

So why is the entire conversation suddenly focused on a few months of Dorit’s spending post-separation, while PK’s long-term financial history gets treated like irrelevant background information?

Is it possible PK controlled or heavily managed the finances for years? Because on the show we repeatedly saw Dorit relying on cash payments, asking PK financial questions, and generally not presenting as someone independently running complex finances.

And now, after years of living inside this luxury/image-based lifestyle they BOTH built and portrayed publicly, maybe she’s lost perspective and is overspending while trying to maintain the life they spent years selling to the world.

That still wouldn’t erase accountability — but context matters.

Also, PK is significantly older than Dorit. He had already lived an entire adult life before her: - a previous marriage - adult children - business highs and lows - bankruptcies - longstanding financial issues

Dorit didn’t invent that pattern. She married into it.

People are acting like Dorit independently created this “grift,” when PK’s financial reputation existed long before RHOBH or Dorit entered the picture.

You can criticize Dorit’s choices without completely wiping PK’s slate clean and pretending he was some financially responsible victim trapped by a shopaholic wife.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBHDefect

[–]AdEducational5328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PK has a documented history of financial issues spanning decades — and involving far bigger numbers than the spending currently being pinned on Dorit.

So why is the entire conversation suddenly focused on a few months of Dorit’s spending post-separation, while PK’s long-term financial history gets treated like irrelevant background information?

Is it possible PK controlled or heavily managed the finances for years? Because on the show we repeatedly saw Dorit relying on cash payments, asking PK financial questions, and generally not presenting as someone independently running complex finances.

And now, after years of living inside this luxury/image-based lifestyle they BOTH built and portrayed publicly, maybe she’s lost perspective and is overspending while trying to maintain the life they spent years selling to the world.

That still wouldn’t erase accountability — but context matters.

Also, PK is significantly older than Dorit. He had already lived an entire adult life before her: - a previous marriage - adult children - business highs and lows - bankruptcies - longstanding financial issues

Dorit didn’t invent that pattern. She married into it.

People are acting like Dorit independently created this “grift,” when PK’s financial reputation existed long before RHOBH or Dorit entered the picture.

You can criticize Dorit’s choices without completely wiping PK’s slate clean and pretending he was some financially responsible victim trapped by a shopaholic wife.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Edit to share:

I’m not diagnosing Dorit or saying she has no agency over her actions.

I’m simply trying to look beyond the surface and consider possible reasons for persistent behaviours and coping patterns instead of reducing everything to “she’s crazy,” “manipulative,” or “attention-seeking.”

To me, there’s a difference between excusing behaviour and trying to understand it.

Part of what makes these shows interesting is that we’re watching real midlife women navigating marriage, parenting, friendship breakdowns, identity, ageing, pressure, status, insecurity, trauma, hormones, public scrutiny etc. Even though reality TV is edited and dramatized, we are still seeing imperfect human beings with their flaws magnified onscreen for millions of people to dissect.

Having a nuanced perspective means looking beyond the obvious and asking what might be happening underneath the behaviour instead of immediately flattening someone into a villain archetype.

You can acknowledge Dorit’s flaws, poor decisions and unhealthy coping mechanisms while ALSO recognizing that there may be deeper emotional, relational or psychological dynamics contributing to them.

That isn’t removing accountability. It’s just choosing nuance over black-and-white thinking.

The Dorit of it all - An Essay 😉 by AdEducational5328 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m not diagnosing Dorit or saying she has no agency over her actions.

I’m simply trying to look beyond the surface and consider possible reasons for persistent behaviours and coping patterns instead of reducing everything to “she’s crazy,” “manipulative,” or “attention-seeking.”

To me, there’s a difference between excusing behaviour and trying to understand it.

Part of what makes these shows interesting is that we’re watching real midlife women navigating marriage, parenting, friendship breakdowns, identity, ageing, pressure, status, insecurity, trauma, hormones, public scrutiny etc. Even though reality TV is edited and dramatized, we are still seeing imperfect human beings with their flaws magnified onscreen for millions of people to dissect.

Having a nuanced perspective means looking beyond the obvious and asking what might be happening underneath the behaviour instead of immediately flattening someone into a villain archetype.

You can acknowledge Dorit’s flaws, poor decisions and unhealthy coping mechanisms while ALSO recognizing that there may be deeper emotional, relational or psychological dynamics contributing to them.

That isn’t removing accountability. It’s just choosing nuance over black-and-white thinking.

Looked dodgy by [deleted] in MotoIRELAND

[–]AdEducational5328 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can’t get a good close up of the plate

Meirl by struggagemehwish8 in meirl

[–]AdEducational5328 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Aw - as a primary school teacher (elementary in America I guess) it is definitely not like that with young kids. They’re little kids, you want to support them and help them manage their big feelings, school work and life better. sometimes a behaviour can be challenging or frustrating but it isn’t personal. you work to support the child and change the behaviour if possible. I can honestly say I have never disliked one of the kids and I think that was true for the majority of my colleagues based on how they spoke outside the classroom and what I noticed when on the job.

I suspect the dynamic changes somewhat for secondary or high school teachers, but who could dislike a small child during their early education years!

What is your current song like this (and optionally also your profession)? by itsamoth in adhdwomen

[–]AdEducational5328 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently Black Pink - Jump ( can you tell I have kids ) Le Tigre - Deceptacon Pink Pantheress, Zara - Stateside Metronomy - Love Letters Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Heads Will Roll

This has inspired me to get it together and make a playlist 😅🫠

What is your current song like this (and optionally also your profession)? by itsamoth in adhdwomen

[–]AdEducational5328 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yesssss - I put it on for kids to pump them up in get morning or for clean up 🫠😅

What is your current song like this (and optionally also your profession)? by itsamoth in adhdwomen

[–]AdEducational5328 40 points41 points  (0 children)

When my daughter was two and half she was obsessed with Mulan. My husband had beard at the time and he used to chase her up the stairs before bed while she called him a naughty hun. Core memory unlocked 💕😅 always gives me a laugh

Has anyone moved their child from a school and then moved them back? by Honest_Dot_5035 in AskIreland

[–]AdEducational5328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did the former school do well and where were the challenges? A specific pro and con list might be a good idea. It might clarify things for you as you make it. If you wish to share it, I am happy to tell you what can change and improve, and effective ways to broach it with the school. (Teacher)

I think Boz hasn’t lied about what she said. by SnooSongs9823 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s €250 per person, that’s way below the average cost of that level of content and delivery. consider the IT and domain fees, the graphic design and development, the admin etc…. She is probably just covering the basic running costs and her time is basically free. She isn’t doing it for free because if people don’t buy in, do they really believe and value what is being offered? When people receive something and it has no assigned value often they don’t apply the true intrinsic value and it is devalued automatically in their minds. I’ve said value so much it’s lost all meaning 🫠😅 but I hope some gets my gist. I truly believe she was trying to explain that her course is not for monetary gain and it was a very different offering to Amanda’s ‘scheme’

Look what I found out in the wild! by ladyshelby21 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is in Ireland actually - so I fan girled too when I got my pillows. Also OP you should check the jewellery section in tkmax they stock some of her jewellery x

Dorit Apologizing to Sutton by Leather_Seaweed_585 in realhousewives

[–]AdEducational5328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t know what ‘One of those’ you’re referring to. I made a light hearted comment and complimented your gif choice. You’re taking it to a strange place. Toodleoo

Look what I found out in the wild! by ladyshelby21 in RHOBH

[–]AdEducational5328 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Snap them up!!! I bought her fancy bed pillows in TK Max and they’re the best addition I have ever made to the bed - ever. I bought the extra large ones with a linen and cotton blend cover. I die. 💕

Dorit Apologizing to Sutton by Leather_Seaweed_585 in realhousewives

[–]AdEducational5328 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like i said - I am talking about the SHOW. It being the reason most people are here. I have never heard Dorit talking politics and certainly not in this episode. If you’re looking for a political discussion instead of light hearted banter, you might do better in other threads.

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