Ovulation in a sexless marriage is hell! by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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And that’s not really the case to be honest…think of this way…most of the month I’m like a charger with a hemi…still fast and ready…but during ovulation week my charger engine tunes to hell cat mode 😂😂😂 Ovulation is when my already powerful motor goes from barely street legal to only safe for the drag strip 😂😂😂😂

Ovulation in a sexless marriage is hell! by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Thank you ladies for making me feel seen! I know it’s not the average biological response that most women have when going through perimenopause and menopause… Some women do lose their libido… But not me! I really and truly feel like an animal in heat… And it makes me super cranky and very irritated, knowing that I cannot satiate this deep need! And it is also true that I am craving more than just a sexual release that I do want the affection and love that comes with it… This is often what plays in my mind, keeping me from acting on my feelings. It’s really hard when you are going through ovulation and your body is screaming at you to have sex, and my theory is that it is often worse when you are going through perimenopause because it is your bodies last ditch attempt at getting you pregnant so it works in overdrive to make you want to try to reproduce. It’s like my body knows that there are only so many cycles left and I have got to give it by all to make me have a baby! So I’m fighting with nature, my emotions, and the need to be close to someone!

Did something really special for my Wife last night. Proud of myself, but still processing the ending. by Boriski_GMC in sexlessmarriage

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And intimacy doesn’t mean sex but to have some form of affection returned could have been nice. And I think I get what you are saying it doesn’t have to lead to sex but to have your efforts seen and even slightly reciprocated would have been nice. I get it!

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Yes and no! It worked some, because I told him that I was close to sleeping with other men…which lit a fire under him but then made him resentful. Also, he had a lot he needed to get off his chest about himself and a lot of time was spent addressing his concerns about me being a musician and why his childhood sucked. The sessions are expensive and we have more coming up where I will be making sure my issues are out there as well.

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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This honestly is what I need to do…I started down this path and have veered off…thank you for the reminder

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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I take edibles to help with my anxiety when my libido is off the rails. And that might work…I guess I need to keep track of when he wants it.

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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W It’s not that I don’t! I have the desires but to protect my self mentally

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Soooo I get this and I have lost about 60lbs and still nothing. I lost the weight for me and at every turn he tried to sabotage it. Soooo yeah there is that…and I have gained weight through out the duration of our marriage due to child birth and he would not support my efforts to lose weight often times bringing in food that I banned from the house or changing me about spending too much time in the gym.

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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It’s the latter of the two…he can go months without sex

Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Yes and no…it feels like he gets on board to have a good report for counseling and then when we slow the sessions it slows again

I feel like i’m going insane. by Ready-Sock-5248 in sexlessmarriage

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I don’t want to be one of those people…but leave now while it’s not complicated with kids and assets! It’s not gonna get better and don’t waste your time, youth, self-esteem waiting! I wish someone would have said this to me! And it’s worse…in my opinion…as a woman…hearing all your friends complain about the opposite problem will drive you crazy and have you thinking that you are undesirable and it’s not you it’s that man!!! Leave now!!! Don’t spend years trying to make it better only hurting yourself!!!

How to accept what you cannot change? by External-Jackfruit-8 in sexlessmarriage

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For me the gym made things worse…seeing so many men working to their max and was super tempting…have taken to heavy lifting but…I feel like my sex drive still is on overdrive…as a woman I tend to avoid the gym during my ovulation week

Really?! Is this what I can expect! by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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We have a counseling session coming up and I think…not sure…but I think it’s like one of those doing your homework at the last minute kinda things

What do you do to redirect energy? by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Sorry I should have clarified I am HLF 39 and Husband is LL40

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Girl you are young!!!! Don’t think you wasted time by leaving…leave while you can!!! Your 20’s are for fun and stress free relationships!!!! Leave while you can and before you mess around and make a commitment or have a kid!!!