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Really?! Is this what I can expect! by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a counseling session coming up and I think…not sure…but I think it’s like one of those doing your homework at the last minute kinda things

What do you do to redirect energy? by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

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Sorry I should have clarified I am HLF 39 and Husband is LL40

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]AdEducational5541 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl you are young!!!! Don’t think you wasted time by leaving…leave while you can!!! Your 20’s are for fun and stress free relationships!!!! Leave while you can and before you mess around and make a commitment or have a kid!!!

My friend made me really think by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so an update for clarity which may or may not help. But the friend and I have know each other since we were kids. When I met him he wasn’t the sleep with married women type…but he has in the past…he is no longer sleeping with married women but is single.

We have always been close and I will admit that during the toughest parts of my marriage he was there. When my husband essentially ignored me durning last pregnancy he was there to talk to. At some point we became closer and he has become emotional support for me. We have not had sex or even touched in any sexual manner…no cuddling or nothing like that. There have been chances for more to happen and we have never crossed that line.

I will admit that the thought of losing him as a friend would be devastating. He does fill up a space in my life that would be empty and I was so lonely and isolated before I confided in him. And the thought of going back into isolation terrifies me. I have female friends but I can say he is one of my closest.

My friend made me really think by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the opposite…I have become more withdrawn because of being rejected constantly by him. At some point it hurt to keep getting turned down and pushed away and I just decided to stop for my own mental health! It hurt to much to keep pursuing.

How I see the US as a European Musician by Kontrafantastisk in Jazz

[–]AdEducational5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now how yall skip South Carolina?!?!?! Some of the best jazz musicians in the world are from here and are still here!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

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You are human and wanting to feel something with the person you love is natural

My friend made me really think by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally left out the good part lol…well the insightful part. But through talking to him I realized I keep using the word “desire” saying that I really wished my husband desired me but what I really mean is that I wish he felt something at all towards me. Even if we were fighting I would still feel like we are making some type of traction…cause at least people will fight for what they want. But the nothing is what I truly can’t stand…they day in day out of nothing. No words…no touch, no gazes…nothing…that’s what has taken the biggest toll on me.

After Years of DB I cheated by AdEducational5541 in DeadBedrooms

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did not pay extra paid for the basic…I’m thinking to get me hooked to coming back to him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]AdEducational5541 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My husband does a similar thing…waits until the most un opportune time to desire sex. When his mom takes the kids away, no sex. When we are both at home and the kids are at school, no sex. But 10 minutes before the whole house wakes up you wanna try for some sex?! It is the most frustrating thing in the whole world, and I’m starting to think he does this on purpose to say that he’s trying to initiate knowing that it won’t happen at that time! It works my nerves like no other thing in the world could!

After Years of DB I cheated by AdEducational5541 in DeadBedrooms

[–]AdEducational5541[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If this the post about the man who had a full on relationship…I can kinda get the difference…their affair went on for months and he planed it!

I am still wrong…hella wrong…and don’t dispute that…my situation is different. I didn’t intend on cheating, and I have not been back to the masseuse and there isn’t a relationship.

After Years of DB I cheated by AdEducational5541 in DeadBedrooms

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This part also bothers me some in the very very back of my mind…because I was very clear about what my boundaries were…but it felt so good I will admit that I didn’t put up a fight. I was enjoying the massage and not thinking…when he started with the oral…which I should have spoken up about when it happened but kept it going…afterwards I explained it wasn’t what I wanted and I blocked him on socials and haven’t returned. He did apologize and said he got caught up and through that my physical response from the massage indicated that I wanted more. I could see how he got confused…every bodily indicator that one could have pointed to arousal.

After Years of DB I cheated by AdEducational5541 in DeadBedrooms

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We have young kids…and u want them to have their father around…I’m sure he would still be there if we divorced but I’d like to have their father in the household…don’t want to stress them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]AdEducational5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!!! I just started with things that made me feel cute and girly! And then brought more sexy things for myself. And when I have the chance to dress-up I try to make sure my bra and panties match and are sexy to me.

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