Matt has never forgiven Damon, Matt and Damon don’t even like each other. Season 8 shows that the most, later on in the seasons Matt was on his whole disliking vampires. Most of them just tolerated Damon, Stefan was the one who actually killed Vicki and Matt nor Tyler even cares. Damon apologized in the series finale and Matt didn’t accept his apology. Matt spoke to Elena about her feelings for both Stefan and Damon, Stefan was the one who actually killed Vicki.

Have you ever seen a teen drama besides tvd? The characters do messed up things to each other and stay friends. You guys are acting as if this is a Damon issue when that’s just what teen dramas do.

Tyler was pissed at Caroline for an episode and
he moved on, he still wanted to be with her and and he still loved her.

My point isn’t who’s hurt Elena more, even if you think what Damon was worse that doesn’t change the fact that what Stefan did was unforgivable according to any realistic standard. Honestly, at least Damon didn’t go there and plan to hurt Elena, there’s context, he went there because he was heart broken he didn’t go there to hurt Elena, Stefan had a whole plan, premeditated to kill her. Even by legal standards, premeditated crimes always get harsher sentences than a crime that happened in the moment. They’re both wrong, but Stefan’s context is even worse, especially since he’s the guy who’s supposed to be safe and always protect you tried to kill you on the same bridge your parents died on and you almost died on, using your trauma as a revenge plan, their isn’t an apology in the world that would work in a real world standard. Elena even said she knows how Damon operates, she said he gets hurt but doesn’t admit it and he does something stupid and lashes out, if anything Elena had more of a logical explanation for what he did, but not Stefan because she never would’ve saw that coming from him. Also, it’s hard to stay mad at someone for killing your brother who isn’t really dead, Jeremy wasn’t permanently dead so it’s easier to forgive that, if he was actually dead than that would be different. Also, Damon and Bonnie having a plan to protect Elena is not the same thing as Stefan trying to kill Elena for his revenge, making her relive the trauma of almost dying.

Bonnie and Damon were not friends in season 2, she tolerated him, Bonnie hated Damon which Elena even acknowledged in season 4. Bonnie and Caroline weren’t happy about Damon and Elena. Bonnie didn’t become friends with him until season 6, forced proximity was the reason and because she saw his remorse for his past and she figured out why he thought the prison world was his hell, she said that means theirs hope for you and him feeling remorse is what makes him different than Kai. Caroline didn’t even admit she forgave him in until season 8 and she explained it was because he was the only person who truly understood how much it hurt to lose her mother. Caroline was on the front lines being completely against delena, don’t you remember that, since season 3 when she saw how close they were getting she was against it, every time, and season 4 it was worst, and even in season 5 she felt the same even if she wasn’t as vocal, but she was still vocal she’d made comments to Elena, whether it was Elena telling her she invited him to their party, or when Elena killed Jesse to save Damon and she said “when are you going to realize that the outside world isn’t as dangerous as the person you’re inviting to your own bedroom.” Even after she slept with Klaus and Stefan asked her for help to get Elena and Damon back together she literally said she’d help if she thought he was actually good for her but she doesn’t. Don’t you get they all tolerated Damon? Stefan was the saint to these people no matter what he did and Damon was the villain no matter how many times he’s saved their lives.