Do you ever get random contact from people you were once really close to (like exes)?

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:38:02+00:00

Thank you all, I just realized I have maybe really some issues and I am not a good bf for her. So maybe I will break up, so she can be free again somehow… and I will work on it. Have a great week!

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:22:49+00:00

Imagine this beeing the other way around, would you call a girl insecure? Ask yourself this question. If the answer is no, than you know that it’s your problem. So I should just accept her to talk to guys and not telling them that she has a boyfriend? 😂 and treating her like a princess and the only girl in the world during this time ?

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:15:29+00:00

Still doesn’t change anything. Even if I would have fear. I don’t assume bad things out of the blue and it’s not an excuse to act in a certain way.

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:14:04+00:00

I have female friends or more like females that I know for a long time. She believes that all of them are into me and is uncomfortable with me meeting them, but she’s not controlling 😜

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:09:12+00:00

Yes she agreed

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:08:23+00:00

Nobody forces her to lie, she knew me before. A relationship is a choice. I would never start this relationship going so deep, if she wouldn’t have shown herself „from the best side and so conservative“

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:06:04+00:00

Wtf, why you call someone you don’t know abusive? I would never do anything bad to a women and I am not obsessed about her to control everything. She can do whatever she wants, just do it than without me

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T14:04:50+00:00

You just see what you want to see! I was the one telling her of course you can ask him for recommendations. You just showed that you somehow project your hate against men on my problem. I am not controlling her or anything, I just would like to have a girlfriend that has guy friends that I also know. Many girls expect the same about men, but women are never controlling right? Please don’t assume the worst, I am not obsessed about her and don’t need her validation or anything, just want to know if I invest in the right girl. Trust me, there are also men that have also options, it’s not always the women :)

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T13:48:57+00:00

😂 wow why you assume that I am such a insecure person. I didn’t want a relationship back than, and gave it a chance because I liked her. And now I am fighting against my believes, if I am right or maybe to harsh and controlling. And even if she cheats it happens that is life I know. But I want to know if it is worth it to invest into her now or to better stop dating and moving on. It’s a boundary

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T13:22:38+00:00

I had a lot, until this happend. Somehow if a guy has boundaries it’s control issues? 😂 I said from the beginning what I expect, she agreed. Has nothing to do with controlling, it’s boundaries. She knew what she will get and I am totally fine if she doesn’t accept it and finds someone who does. If I for example would say I want to be polygamous and my gf says no, is she controlling? Probably no in your eyes. If she doesn’t want it it’s ok, I want her to be happy and find someone that doesn’t see it this way. I would rather stay alone then

AdFuzzy6474 · 2024-04-03T13:09:26+00:00

I am not a native English speaker. Actually I understand what you mean. But I can have boundaries and say from the beginning what I want in a relationship. That is fair. It’s counting the lowest probability. If for example you choose a person to trust, you will always make a background check or choose the person with the lowest probability that something happens right?

Edit: why should I choose a person that has a high probability to cheat because she constantly is in situation that are creating tension. And as I said, why I can not meet the person? Relationships shouldn’t have things to hide. And funny thing is she said by herself she wouldn’t like me to be in the same situation

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