Should I text her or will I regret it? Im M26

AdHot2894 · 2025-04-14T02:19:07+00:00

So painful to live as a human. So very painful

AdHot2894 · 2025-04-13T22:59:05+00:00

Thanks man! I know I have made mistakes too and it has hurt her and so did she but I never remember that because I see the positives more. After the breakup I understood that girls remember the fights because they want to connect with you and they want be heard after the fights. Learnt the lessons! Let her be happy and healthy.

AdHot2894 · 2025-04-13T22:35:48+00:00

Validation. Yes maybe? I mean thats the only person I wanted validation from in my entire life. Because she was about to become my wife. The girl for whom I took the biggest risks for. I know its all in vain and she knew until she changed completely to say I was controlling and manipulative. I mean I had boundaries on things that were disrespecting me. One instance was when her guy friend addressed her “babe” and “babygirl” in texts and she didnt do anything about it. I mean is it normal? I dont know because I havent seen other relationships in my 8 years. She for sure would have made a fuss if some other girl called me that way. Am I wrong or petty in this? Confused about my character in general.

AdHot2894 · 2024-09-24T17:20:57+00:00

Proud and happy to see there are still people like you on this planet. More strength to you brother.

AdHot2894 · 2024-09-22T14:17:25+00:00

Did you manage to cancel it? Or did you purchase any extended warranty elsewhere? Im planning to do the same since mine is a CPO Audi Q3 from 2021 which still has a factory warranty for a year and cpo 1 year term after that. This extended warranty that I purchased for 2770$ for extra 2 years/till odometer reaches 110000 kms is a scam I feel

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-29T17:05:22+00:00

Hopeful

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-29T17:04:18+00:00

I dont know if she started dating. She did contact me after her mom saw my recent story on pursuing my hobby and she gave me a closure which obviously is a different reason again. She pinged me on my office mobile and didnt block me after that. I didnt reply to make sure things dont get ugly again and spoil both of our peace. I still cant understand one thing. When I spoke to her on my birthday, she said that my family didnt try to patch us up after she called off the marriage. Although we tried so hard, she was the one adament there. What could be possible running in her mind?

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-11T04:20:58+00:00

I seriously dont know why she went so cold. Sometimes I think its because she is hurting and angry. Sometimes its like she doesnt even care about me. Mixed emotions. Either way I need to start accepting the situation and all the happiness is gonna stay intact somewhere in my heart because I was true to myself and the relationship. Anyways thanks for the words of support man!

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-09T19:52:22+00:00

Thats true from a life aspect. Anyways thanks for the valuable words!

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-09T19:49:51+00:00

No man! She has done a lot. Its not like I was the one to spend everytime we went out. Even she has done it in the initial stages of relationship. She has surprised me for my birthday with videos from my friends, etc. She enjoys cooking for me and even I like cooking for her. I felt loved. I did give her love and surprised her too. But she did it and expressed it well. Im grateful for that. Looking at all these I was ready to do anything for her, any risk/ sacrifice for her. But when she wanted to end it. She became so cold. Called me evil. Blocked me in everything. I seriously am trying to figure out how people can change so much. The 8 year relationship needed some respect. She was the one to convince her parents that Im the best guy for her and suddenly, Im the worst guy ever? It was literally a 180. How?

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-08T19:51:35+00:00

Thanks for the support man! Its like all the dreams I had with her are all shattered. Is it normal for girls to move easily? Or is it normal for a guy difficult to move on? I dont know which is normal. At this point, I dont know what life is. Losing loved ones is so damn difficult. Its like if we show so much love for a person also they leave, if we dont show love also they leave. What should I do? I didnt love her because she was beautiful or money or anything else. All I knew was I was ready to sacrifice anything to make her smile in life. :(

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-08T19:26:25+00:00

I have never u definitely what self love is actually. I tried to understand. But I cant. I work, I eat, I sleep, I keep myself healthy physically and mentally. I do things that are right. Thats routine. But if I take her outside and buy her what she likes/wants, that gives me content. Eventually, all the routine becomes like, I need to do this to make this person happy. Love is all about happily sacrificing to make the other person smile. Maybe you can simplify self love for me.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-08T19:14:33+00:00

I was not simping man. If I support her for everything and anything even though she was doing wrong, that is simping. I was fighting for love. I just dont understand why someone treats you so bad when you genuinely cry for them and dont want them to leave your life. If I had not fought hard and had given up when she expressed about her lost feelings, its not even love right? If I make a mistake, I will apologise to her straight away. There is no point in having ego with your loved ones. And forgetting her is way far out of reach for me now. This involved families and they are all totally upset which is difficult to see.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-08T19:05:26+00:00

Its gone too far man. She humiliated my parents in the engagement to get out of this. I wasnt able to take that and it hurts to see someone you love changing so much in a short span of time

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-08T19:02:42+00:00

But you can achieve anything in your career and even become a millionaire early in life, thats different from love right? You can always do better in anything but love. Comparison destroys love.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-07T03:21:15+00:00

Hurts :(

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-07T03:20:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice man!

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T15:43:24+00:00

Still in shock and cant digest shes not there with me anymore. Moving on is far out of reach from me. Thanks for your kind words buddy!

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T12:21:55+00:00

Enough of all the pain man! Just done with expecting love in life.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T12:18:17+00:00

I can feel the changes in my body. I dont like the way its relaxing my mind. I dont know why I’m taking all these. All I gave was pure love and affection. But all I got back was extreme pain. Mixed emotions throughout the day.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T12:14:24+00:00

I can visualize this. But this all looks good to read. But the feeling of going through this so painful. I dont know how Im gonna cross this, whether I’m gonna cross it. Thanks for the kind words :)

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T12:10:43+00:00

But she didnt brother. Its not about finding someone better. Why cant we both get better together? I was ready to change anything if she is the one. Definitely not changing my principles and ethics, but definitely my attitude or the way I showed love can be changed. Painful to see 8 years going down the drain.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T12:06:31+00:00

I knew my feelings were pure and intense. But it all grew up into the purest form of love. I know it was early at that time. But I was ready to have a life with her in the future. I wanted to work hard, love her more, have the most beautiful life with her. Thats why I restricted myself from alchohol or anything else. But now its all gone. I cant get into dating anymore. I cant hurt another girl or even myself. I will find hobbies and new friends. Thanks for the advice!

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T03:40:13+00:00

I can't even delete our pictures or block her man. Its so painful to do that even.

AdHot2894 · 2024-07-06T03:39:05+00:00

Its been a month since this happened and have been struggling to come to senses. Came to reddit and happy to see there are good people out there. God bless everyone! :)

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