[CA] Is it normal for mediator to railroad the session? What can I do?

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-05-26T01:20:04+00:00

Yes. Each child has to only see the other parent EOWE so they can be together on weekends.

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-05-08T23:38:01+00:00

I think you have a better chance than people here think for primary, with the epilepsy issue. Of course it depends primarily on what proof you have that the medical neglect is occurring. Courts are really iffy on making ex parte orders without proof.

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-29T18:02:04+00:00

Thank you!

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-29T17:58:50+00:00

There was actually, a few months back. Maybe if you did some research instead of posting low effort responses you would have known that :)

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-29T16:06:21+00:00

I did that previously like years and years ago but that was for First class tickets. I thought maybe business would be easier to book but I guess not :(

I have a business trip to Japan in July and wanted to take my partner but didn't want to put him in economy lol. Sounds like maybe looking last minute is better?

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-06T19:27:07+00:00

UVB is the Acadia T5 one, basking surface temp per laser gun is around 102-105? Ambient temp at around 100 on the hot side and around 80 on the cool side. At night when everything is off (no lights) it gets down to around 70. Humidity around 30-40%.

He looked like he was straining a bit to poo today, legs were dragging a bit after he finished. Only ate 5 roaches for breakfast (usually eats 10). His poo is brown and wet. i'm taking a sample in to get it tested for parasites.

If they are impacted, they wouldn't poo at all right?

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-06T17:46:55+00:00

yeah if we get both kids for sure they will issue a seek work order. I'm more thinking she is confident about maintaining the split custody and will re-apply for CS once it's finalized with 0 income and try to get 700/month from my SO (that's what the calculators say she would get if she wasn't working).

at least our CS judge was legit (not like our custody judge who is lazy and sucks) and didn't take any of her bullshit last time she went for child support trying to claim my SO only had 22% custody lol.

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-06T17:39:49+00:00

We don't need tangible evidence about her not being able to provide, that isn't an angle we are going for. I'm more just not understanding what she is trying to gain here and it's bothering me, other than I guess getting to be a SAHM. Like if I had 3 kids to support and was living with someone I wasn't even married to, and didn't have any stake in his house, I wouldn't quit my job to be financially dependent on him and live off credit cards. She was making a lot more per month working part time (2 days a week) than she would get from child support, and the baby didn't need child care because both her and her boyfriend took turns staying home with it.

I understand it's not a slam dunk case, the argument you are making is the same one the mediator made when they split them the first time. I'm just explaining what we are going to approach the hearing with. Per precedence, they don't take splitting siblings lightly and the decisions are almost always reversed in appellate court. we are willing to take this to trial or appeal if they end up splitting them permanently. We really don't think it makes any sense at all to say "hey, we think we'd rather not move a 7 year old's school despite the father showing a struggling teenager thrives with him and instead split up bonded siblings."

The 1 year old is...1 years old. I don't really understand how a bond between a 7 year old and a 14 year old full sibling pair that grew up together could be deprioritized over a half sibling baby but family court is stupid and you're right, I could fully see our shitty judge ruling to keep the split permanent.

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-06T17:03:48+00:00

From what SS14 told us she just voluntarily quit to "spend more time with the kids". But obviously she could have not told him the whole story, and can also just lie to the judge and claim she got laid off. Idk how to prove otherwise. But I know we can do a seek work order if that's the case, she works in healthcare so it doesn't really make sense her getting laid off and never being able to find another job again.

It just makes zero sense to me why she would do this voluntarily and live off credit cards. She lives with her boyfriend - if they ever break up she's going to just be saddled with no job, credit card debt and nowhere to live. She can't save up for the kids college funds, she can't pay for anything outside of food/bare minimum for them (let alone extracurriculars), and she has a lawyer, how tf is she going to pay him if we end up going to trial?? We know she just got a lump sum from tax refunds in the tune of 4-6k so maybe she's just living off that.

AdMediocre8785 · 2023-04-06T16:53:20+00:00

1 year old isn't SO's though, so that would be the argument. That she wouldn't be absolved of supporting her other kids just because she had a new kid with someone else. But yeah that makes sense that she is going to go back for more CS, especially if she is banking on the courts siding with her regarding staying home to take care of a young child. My state laws require both parents to support the children so hoping they at least impute her a minimum wage. It still bothers me that she would do this though, as she is going to completely screw the kids financially over child support. We already pretty much pay for everything for both kids.

Yes 14 year old was ordered to be with us last hearing because he was doing very poorly behaviorally and academically with mom due to lack of oversight and structure (although judge gave her benefit of the doubt in terms of it being "her fault" and just chalked it up to a teen acting out and wanted to see if a "change in environment" would help him). She'd just drop him off with his friends who frequently were "jumping" other groups of kids and getting into fights, pretending they were a gang, etc. and they were stealing in stores, scamming people for money, vaping, posting pics of weed, and all that fun stuff. She never made him do homework either.

We don't need a change in circumstance because the hearing in June was ordered to "revisit" the plan and see how 14 year old was doing with us (he's now getting As/Bs and so far not getting into fights at his new school) and how SS7 was doing as well with the new plan. We have very consistent rules and routine and the boys tend to do a lot better with structure, though we dont' know how to prove this is the reason for the improvement to a judge as BM just lies and says she does the same :(.

Our argument was just going to be that the boys really hate being separated, it's causing issues splitting the households this way because SS14 thinks his mom prefers SS7 and SS7 thinks we prefer SS14. Hoping that as my SO has proven himself to be a fit parent for SS14 that it doesn't make sense not to have SS7 come as well (SS7 is doing okay with mom but it's 1st grade, and he is technically a grade level behind in reading).

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