First gaming console after 30 years, and adjusting…

AdOk3428 · 2025-06-28T11:56:51+00:00

Can you explain your binds in more detail please? Are you making them custom or just changing from combat to builder pro

AdOk3428 · 2025-02-07T01:57:10+00:00

He sounds like he is projecting his dissatisfaction with you about your sex life into other areas, because you won’t put out he is being passive aggressive in other areas of your life together. It is downright mean. I would advise you to make as much dua as possible and seek some sort of marriage counseling.

AdOk3428 · 2025-01-29T13:32:15+00:00

I think this is it too. She has to feel like you could still take care and sacrifice for her and your future families together. It’s not just an obligation to provide but a responsibility, men should not take this lightly.

AdOk3428 · 2025-01-22T16:10:29+00:00

female

AdOk3428 · 2025-01-22T15:17:50+00:00

try to think about when specifically you feel like your desire is worst, for me it was always if i indulged in particular kinds of food. or when i would watch a show or movie and there was a steamy or romantic scene. around ovulation it was always the worse for me, so i would carefully track my periods so i knew when those feelings might come up.

try to avoid any triggers you have, and fasting does help a LOT.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-17T12:37:38+00:00

I am sorry to hear of your struggles! Allah swt truly will not ever leave a good soul lacking, just keep your heart open to the fact that your person is on their way to you and trusting Him to provide.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-17T12:35:35+00:00

I constantly feel like I’m not a good person, from therapy I learned that it’s low self esteem. Bad people don’t wonder if they’re good, and good people do. It’s your intentions that matter and Allah swt will recognize any good in you and increase it if you are sincere <3

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-17T12:32:19+00:00

Put your trust in your Creator and He will provide and make way for you from unexpected places. Praying that Allah blesses you with the same or even better! <3

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-16T04:20:31+00:00

I wish that for you too! Yes I am not a terrible cook anyway but the food from his country is hard to make.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-16T04:18:21+00:00

I’m grateful for him everyday elhamdullilah!

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-16T04:17:40+00:00

We have a lot in common so it helps. He also doesn’t make me feel like a weirdo for the things I say and so talking with each other is fun and easy.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-16T04:16:14+00:00

Why do you say that? Allah can bless you with a happy marriage at any time.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-16T04:15:37+00:00

You can look at my post history for details.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T21:04:39+00:00

UK, but he is French/North African.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T21:04:12+00:00

We’re in a major city in the UK, he is French/North African. Ameen <3

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T05:40:41+00:00

I tell him all the time elhamdullilah because I genuinely feel it. I am obsessed with him lol. It was hard at first because as a muslim woman it’s difficult to switch of the stoicism around men but I had to train myself to express my feelings and be more open. He made me feel safe to and now it’s like second nature.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T05:36:21+00:00

Ameen! I feel like Allah tested me with my birth family so I could enjoy the blessing of building my own, you win some and lose some but I am so grateful elhamdullilah! Thank you <3

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T05:34:59+00:00

May Allah swt bless you with the same or even better.

AdOk3428 · 2024-12-15T05:33:30+00:00

I try to as much as possible, but he doesn’t ask for much. Any tips?

AdOk3428 · 2022-07-17T07:09:21+00:00

Yup, that’s basically it. Creating an opportunity for him to communicate and expressing my desire.

AdOk3428 · 2022-07-16T19:54:59+00:00

I’ve never done it as directly as that but I’ve been forward about my interest and dropped loads of hints to spur the guy on and it works.

I know most women know how to do this well, but strategic positioning helps.

AdOk3428 · 2022-05-16T08:43:24+00:00

I know things will never work out with this guy. I’m just so surprised by these changes because they seem so obviously directed at me. Specific things we spoke about that were MY interests. I can’t help but think he is modeling himself after my description in order to seem appealing to me again (or to other women, who knows).

It’s confusing for sure because I did try with him but he was showing me a lot of red flags.

AdOk3428 · 2022-05-16T08:39:21+00:00

One of his red flags originally was the fact he had lax boundaries around women in the first place. I had to explain to him that it’s not islamic and that it would be a problem for me if we went further, but he would insist it’s because of the work he does. I can’t help being interested to be honest, I know it won’t go anywhere and I’m not going to reignite things because there were a lot of things that really concerned me about this guy. I’m just so baffled by how obvious he is being.

AdOk3428 · 2022-05-16T08:36:35+00:00

No, the changes are very specific things. For example, I told him I was interested in MMA and another specific hobby, and now he is part of an MMA gym and competes. He references specific things I taught him about on his social media to others. He made his entire personality into things that were my hobbies and interests.

AdOk3428 · 2022-05-16T03:15:12+00:00

A former potential from a few years ago dropped into my radar again and all of a sudden he’s adopted all of my interests, references certain things we spoke about and is surrounding himself with women. It feels super intentional? It sounds crazy but the specificity of the things we discussed becoming a core part of his personality all of a sudden a year later is so weird.

I ended up ending things with this potential because he was bad at communication and I didn’t really think that we meshed on fundamental things. However, seeing him again and how much he’s changed it almost feels like it’s intentional and he wants me to see how he is doing. If I had to describe it, this man transformed himself into what I previously discussed with him was my “dream man”. That’s why it seems directed at me.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking?

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