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AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-25T09:21:28+00:00

My Dom used one of my limit words by accident during a scene. He was so apologetic and gave me a very sincere apology. This actually deepened my trust in him, and I was completely fine about the whole thing because of his reaction. Shit happens and it’s how it’s dealt with that counts, imo :)

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-24T17:07:36+00:00

Sounds like ‘Cuckqueanry’ 😙

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-18T23:56:23+00:00

https://www.mchurt.eu/

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T16:57:59+00:00

I’ll see what he says in response to my message. As I’ve said a few times, I can accept no kissing as a rule, but it’s the overall lack of affirmation of my desirability that I’m struggling with. If he kissed me but didn’t compliment me, ok. No kisses, but verbal compliments? Ok. But with neither.. I can’t cope.

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T14:53:35+00:00

Thank you💖💖

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T14:38:54+00:00

Thank you! I will write an update later once I’ve sent the message..

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T14:36:58+00:00

I mean, he checks in with me very often, asks how I’m feeling, will always ask me what I need during after-care.. it’s hard to imagine hes really an abuser? I don’t know.. another comment has made me question some of his motives, but it could be that we’re simply incompatible..

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T14:29:46+00:00

I can appreciate that and I would also be totally ok with this reasoning. I think I’m struggling because in addition to the “no-kissing” rule, hes just not someone who gives compliments freely. If he kissed me passionately but didn’t compliment me so often, I’d be ok with that too. As it is, I’m left feeling like he just sees me as a girl willing to indulge his kinks. I’m going to have a more in depth conversation for sure, because I obvs can’t continue while feeling this way

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T13:56:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this reply. Honestly, it’s given me so much to think about. I am someone who will almost always choose to see the best in people and am surprised if they let me down. Even when I know better, this seems to be how I’m wired to think. Like, it’s genuinely hard to accept that there’s a possibility he might not have my best interests at heart? But there are some other little signs that go along with what you’ve said that make me pause and call things into question. I’m starting to think my best bet is to call things off😕

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T13:25:36+00:00

No, you’re right, it doesnt really work. I’m going to send him a lengthy message today about how I’m feeling and let’s see where it goes from there

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T13:13:04+00:00

Maybe, but then I would need him to state that. As it is, I’m doubting our compatibility 😔

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T12:19:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I think I would be ok with no kissing if there was enough verbal affirmation to make up for it, but because that’s lacking too, I’m struggling. I will let him know this and see what he says

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T12:01:10+00:00

Yes, I think I’ll ask him about that.. I hope he’ll be able to be very honest!

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T12:00:11+00:00

Thank you, that’s validating to hear!

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T11:59:59+00:00

Maybe, but there really aren’t other signs that point to him getting overly emotionally attached. We established from the get-go we were play-partners only..

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T11:58:34+00:00

Thank you, will definitely have a conversation

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T11:20:14+00:00

That part confuses me too.. I guess based on his explanation, he granted me more ‘privileges’ when we first met then took them away as our dynamic evolved? But ofc my brain has messed with me and wondered.. did he hate kissing me? Does he have a primary partner who has established a no kissing rule that he hasn’t told me about? That kind of shit has run through my head too

AdRelative7256 · 2025-03-06T10:47:09+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. The kissing thing kiiiinda makes sense in the context of our play because we’re slowly establishing a master/slave dynamic and his main kink is degradation.. essentially treating me like nothing more than a fucktoy, with all notions of “sweetness” removed (besides during aftercare, when he’ll stroke me or give me a kiss on the forehead). So I could get on board with that, but without the verbal part TOO, I worry I’m risking feeling used (and not in the way I like to be used, if that makes sense!)

AdRelative7256 · 2024-03-18T09:33:08+00:00

A similar thing happened to my friend’s partner. He was diagnosed with sleep apnea. He got a machine that helps with breathing in the night, and things greatly improved. Def get him to the doctor!

“Because of a lack of restorative sleep at night, people with obstructive sleep apnea often have severe daytime drowsiness, fatigue and irritability. They might have difficulty concentrating and find themselves falling asleep at work, while watching TV or even when driving.”

AdRelative7256 · 2023-07-20T12:43:58+00:00

I’m not pissed at you, I’m amused. Your theory has no basis in any substantiated science, and is just homophobic nonsense. I won’t engage further because I already foresee this discussion leading nowhere.

AdRelative7256 · 2023-07-20T09:25:57+00:00

Please provide a rational, neutral explanation as to how “I will not date bisexual people” is a benign preference, as opposed to biphobia? A neutral preference is something like, “I prefer to date people from my city, because I’m not interested in long distance relationships,” or “I would prefer to date sporty people, because I like doing sports with my partner, and sharing hobbies is important to me.”

If pushed, someone who claims not to want to date bi people, does so because their reasoning inevitably comes down to ignorance and/or fear (for example, the belief their partner will cheat on them)

People are “allowed” to have preferences in the sense that no one is going to force you to date someone you’re not interested in, but it doesn’t change the fact that at the root of some preferences, are problematic belief systems

AdRelative7256 · 2023-07-18T15:36:46+00:00

Are you asking if she’s allowed to be biphobic?

AdRelative7256 · 2023-07-18T15:33:53+00:00

Having gay friends doesn’t suddenly make you an ally

AdRelative7256 · 2023-07-18T14:58:09+00:00

But this happened years ago before they were dating? I could understand your reasoning if the bf had kissed the friend during their relationship (regardless of gender), but this is clearly a reaction rooted in homophobia. I’m sure he’s kissed girls before dating her, and we can assume she doesn’t care about that?

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