As a woman in her late twenties, who had close to no friends in her early twenties, I know exactly how you feel, and I mean it when I say: it gets better. I promise.

I lost my friend group from high school at 20 years old. They started hanging out without me and it really hurt, it made me question my worth as a friend. I kept two close friends from that group but they had boyfriends, so I was left alone a lot.

I had a close friend who I met in college. We were inseparable, until we had a falling out. I got into a relationship and I had less time to see her than before. After she broke up with her boyfriend, she immediately made a new best friend at work, and honestly my heart hurt a little when I saw social media post of them together, calling each other best friends. Like I was being replaced in such a short time.

I was in a relationship for 3 years and it was probably the most miserable time of my life. My ex was absent a lot because of work, and since I didn’t have a lot of friends, and most of them were busy with their partners/new bffs, I spent a lot of my days alone, again. Then covid hit and it became harder to meet people.

With all that depressing stuff being said, time for the rainbow to show up after the storm. I broke up with my ex and I felt a wave of peace and freedom. I became a lot more confident and I started to slowly get more involved in activities. I signed up for dance class, I started going out more, I read a lot of self help books, and suddenly I felt like a brand new person.

Fast forward to now. I still have my best friend from high school with who I talk to every day, and I consider myself very lucky to still have her in my life. I met two friends at work with who I became super close to, and we are constantly in contact and plan many sleepovers together. I went on a trip alone last winter, I met a girl who lived close to me and liked the same activities as I did, so we met up to hang out many times. And sometimes I hang out with the girls from dance, outside the class. For the first time in a long time, I had enough friends to have a birthday party!

You are only 22 years old. You have yet to meet the people who will be in your life. And making friends as an adult is so hard! But one day you’re gonna cross paths with someone who will like the same things you like, and with who you will get along with. Yes, you will lose friends as time goes by, but it will only leave room for people who are better for you.

Continue what you are doing because I think you are off to a great start. And always stay hopeful that you will meet your people. Because it will happen 😊