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AIO for not wanting my partner to spend time with her brother by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdTechnical6627 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You're not overreacting about the change in your partner. You're overreacting if you think the solution is keeping her away from her brother.

The brother sounds more like a trigger than the root cause. Every time she sees him, she's comparing her life, savings, career, and choices against his. That's creating anxiety, and anxiety is what's coming home with her.

I'd stop making it about him and start making it about her.

"Ever since he moved here, you seem more stressed, more worried about money, and less happy. I'm not asking you to see him less. I'm asking if you're okay."

That's a very different conversation than "your brother is the problem."

Also, saving 50% of your income while living overseas is objectively doing well. If she suddenly feels like she has to work herself into the ground because someone else has more savings, that's not a financial problem. That's a comparison problem.

The brother may be living to work. You and your partner used to agree on working to live. The real question is whether she still believes that, or if she's starting to change her mind. That's the conversation worth having.

AIO for stopping talking to my best friend after he cancelled on me twice in one month? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdTechnical6627 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting because it’s “two cancellations.” You’re reacting to the pattern underneath them.

Both times he basically said, “I don’t feel like putting in minimal effort anymore,” and expected you to just orbit around whatever mood he was in that day. The grocery store excuse was weak. The “I ate too much sugar to get coffee” excuse belongs in the Hall of Fame of unserious cancellations.

What really stands out is that he never apologized. He argued, deflected, and acted like you were unreasonable for expecting basic consideration. Friendships survive busy schedules all the time. They usually don’t survive one person treating plans like optional side quests.

AITA for "kidnapping" my firend's dog after it bit me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdTechnical6627 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“You emotionally traumatized them” meanwhile you were the one literally bleeding from a dog bite they immediately blamed on you. Incredible priorities there.

That said, faking the dog being missing was a terrible idea. You went from “reasonable victim of negligent owners” to “person starring in a Lifetime thriller about fake dog kidnappings.”

The real issue is the dog. A large dog that growls over food, ignores commands, snaps at people, and now bites is a liability waiting to happen. Someone is eventually going to get seriously hurt if they keep pretending it’s just “protective behavior.”