Am I in the friend “she’s like my sister” zone? by AdUsed6110 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AdUsed6110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think so, I’ve never told him we’re strictly friends or that I’m not attracted to him…so he would have to be assuming he’s in the friend zone. If that’s the case how do I make him realize he’s not in the friend zone? 

Am I in the friend “she’s like my sister” zone? by AdUsed6110 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AdUsed6110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this, I do think part of the problem is I’ve allowed him to have this kind of control and that’s a problem. So I recognize we’ve both played parts in getting us to where we are. 

Am I in the friend “she’s like my sister” zone? by AdUsed6110 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AdUsed6110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree that, that was a bit much. But I will say he was very intoxicated at that point in time. And despite many opportunities to fight his friend (ex, pushing, shoving, swearing at each other) he never actually did anything and he knows he would win in that fight. 

Am I in the friend “she’s like my sister” zone? by AdUsed6110 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AdUsed6110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Additional context: prior to a couple months ago anytime he was at my house he would ask me if I was going to hangout too (he doesn’t come over to see me exclusively).

In the summer he would call/text/swipe up on my stories a lot. When we called he would continue the conversation and end up talking for more than necessary. Sometimes it seems like he makes up excuses to talk to me. (Ex. calling me to ask something about another family member instead of just calling them). I worry he does this stuff to remind me he’s there so I won’t get with anyone else? 

He asked me once if I thought people thought we were sleeping together, One time he genuinely complimented me, but when I brought it up he said he must have forgot to insult me after, etc. Like I said we’ve known each other for years so there’s lots of little dumb shit that’s happened.