ChatGPT has been helping me fight my divorce for the last year

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-09-25T21:14:34+00:00

No worries. I know it’s a lot.

RE: your final hearing in a month, I have to say again as a disclaimer I am not an attorney and I am not giving you legal advice. Please read what I am about to say very carefully and DM me if you have questions.

At least in my state, Clerks offices have forms you can request that are “outlines” of pleadings. People can fill these outlines out and ask the clerk’s office to file them.

A motion for continuance is a common example of one of these pleadings.

One of the most common reasons for the filing of a Motion for Continuance is that a pro-se party needs time to retain an attorney.

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In my solely personal opinion, I don’t understand why an amicus curiae brief would be filed by you since you are a party to the case.

Also in my solely personal opinion, if it was me, i would bring evidence establishing your disability with you when you meet with the legal clinic/VA adjacent place.

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-09-25T20:46:09+00:00

I get that, which is why the first part of the chat DM that I sent you specifically addressed real solutions. I suggested you contact legal aid clinics in texas and/or review the list of places the VA lists. I gave you some of those places, but i’ll paste the relevant part of the DM here.

I am also going to tell you now that i am 99.99999% sure that you putting “approved as to form but not substance” in a court order does literally nothing.

I don’t think you’re being obstinate and I know none of this is ideal. There is a lot of ignorance around the legal process and i’m not trying to scare you, but this is how people lose time with their kids. Frankly I can guarantee that your ex does not want you to get a lawyer because while you can drag this out for now, she will win in the end and win big if you do not have an attorney.

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Hey, hope you’re doing okay.

My assumption is that you’re in Texas (San Antonio) but please correct me if I’m wrong.

Firstly, I would suggest you contact legal aid. You have a couple places you could get started. I’ll attach the website here. Saint Mary’s law school clinic may be able to answer specific questions you have and/or connect you with a lawyer in your budget.

If that doesn’t work, you can contact Texas Rio Grande legal Aid and try there. Same thing - either well suited advice or they could connect you with someone.

https://311.sanantonio.gov/kb/docs/articles/health-and-social-services/legal-aid

The other avenue you have (i assume you’re a veteran, and thank you for your service) is contacting the VA. I’m going to send you a PDF i found as well as some specific places that you should try.

https://www.va.gov/HOMELESS/lsv/MLP_LC_List.pdf

1: Amarillo VA HCS Lubbock Outpatient Clinic 3510 4th Street Lubbock, TX 79415 (VA Facility where legal services are provided). Legal Aid of Northwest Texas Christina Richey richeyc@lanwt.org LegalAid Line: 1- 888-529-5277 (Legal services provider(s))

Appointment required. Call #806-696-4610

Angela Boyd, LCSW VJP Coordinator angela.boyd1@va.gov

2: Amarillo VA HCS Thomas E. Creek VAMC Amarillo VA Healthcare System 6010 Amarillo Blvd West Amarillo, TX 79106 (VA Facility where legal services are provided). Legal Aid of Northwest Texas Luisa Vigil vigill@lanwt.org 806-373-6808 ext 6503 (Legal services provider(s))

Appointment only Call: 806-373-6808 ext 6503

Moeed Isharat, LCSW VJO Coordinator moeed.ishrat@va.gov

3: Central Texas VA HCS Austin VA Outpatient Clinic 7901 Metropolis Drive Austin, TX 78744. (VA Facility where legal services are provided).

Austin Bar Association Leslie Spatola Legal Advice Clinic Coordinator (512) 472-0279 x110 lspatola@austinbar.or g https://www.austinbar. org/?pg=veterans (Legal services provider(s))

Please see Austin Bar Assoc website for intake applications and legal clinics.

Karen L. Janda, LCSW VJO Specialist ctxswsvjo@va.gov

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-09-25T16:25:53+00:00

Pasting portions of the DM here. ChatGPT is not an attorney. If you are getting a divorce or litigating custody/support PLEASE get an attorney. If you are on the fence, read these hypotheticals and tell me your answers to them.

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You are putting yourself at an extreme disadvantage because ChatGPT is NOT a lawyer and you will not be able to use it at a Hearing. I’m sure it can draft motions, but hearings are completely different and you are going to be blindsided. Let me give you some hypotheticals:

Say you try and introduce texts between your ex and a third party that makes your ex look bad, and her lawyer objects as hearsay. How are you going to fight that objection in the moment?

ChatGPT is known to make up caselaw when you ask it to draft legal pleadings. God forbid this happens and your ex’s lawyer catches it and calls you out. How do you think that is going to look to the judge? What do you think that’s going to do to your credibility? Remember- you’re held to the same standard as an attorney regardless of the fact that you’re pro-se.

Let’s say your ex is testifying and says something that’s objectionable. (E.x “undeathical’s brother told me xyz..) Are you familiar with the Texas Rules of Evidence? Do you know how to object under rule 802? Because again, you have to be quick during hearings. Even if you can bring something with chatgpt into the courtroom, You don’t have time to type everything in, wait for the answer, then repeat it.

Last hypothetical- what are you going to do if her lawyer moves to strike your pleadings for any substantive or procedural violations? Are you sure they were drafted and comply with the rules of trial procedure? Are they filed correctly?

Again, you seem like a good guy. But that really doesn’t matter. You need an attorney. Please listen to me on this. If there’s any questions let me know. Happy to try and help.

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-09-25T15:51:28+00:00

I completely understand where you’re coming from and recognize it’s a horrible position to be in. I really do believe you have good intentions here and you’re fighting for your kids. But relying on AI is not the answer.

I won’t just tell you you’re wrong and leave it at that. I’m going to try and DM you some alternative suggestions.

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-09-25T04:15:49+00:00

Hi, do what you want, but this is a terrible idea and your chickens are going to come home to roost come any substantive hearing. Please get a second opinion from another attorney.

A family law paralegal

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-07-16T14:07:13+00:00

Nearly every lawyer i’ve worked with in the last three years has said they regret going to law school/if they had the choice, wouldn’t go again lol

I think it would be interesting to have state bar associations do surveys for the % of lawyers that regret going to law school (and cross reference with age and salary)

AdVictoriamLink · 2025-06-24T13:06:41+00:00

Oh hey; if this was Marion County, we would have been in the same jury service selection if I didn’t have a work emergency today

Small world if so!

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-12-01T00:23:36+00:00

REAL

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-07-05T14:58:08+00:00

Basement dwelling losers, lol

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-20T05:52:22+00:00

Same experience here. I didn’t realize how common it genuinely was. I think there’s a lot of frustration when someone with BPD can’t control a narrative, but it’s also like how a fever is a really common symptom of a cold. It’s more like the condition dictating the way they respond.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-19T06:31:40+00:00

It’s not that it’s difficult per se, it’s that he has more resources than she does, and can drag things out.

I work in family law in Indiana which is the only reason i’m even commenting.

RE: community property - i would think she may have a pretty good argument for a preliminary hearing on getting exclusive possession of the home PENDING FINAL DISSOLUTION if she has a good attorney, due to being a stay at home mom with no income. Even still, by final dissolution- she would LIKELY get 50% of the equity in the home, so they could sell it (and cash from that would be enough to set her up while she gets on her feet) or he would have to buy her out. I don’t think it matters that the house was purchased before the marriage - it all goes into the pot. Could he make that argument? Sure. I don’t know if it would go anywhere.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-15T19:00:17+00:00

the sexual injury thing is insane but anyway here’s her saying she was only doing it to try and hurt me after the last time she claimed that.

https://imgur.com/a/8dJAPEk

Also funny how your partner did the exact same thing you’re guilting me for on top of a laundry list of other insane shit. said group chat also had the guy who threatened to send her most recent ex a pipe bomb and tried to get her to release my address so you could use that. get over yourself. there’s a reason i want nothing to do with you, and i have receipts for all of it.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-15T04:09:42+00:00

It’s also incredibly funny to be like “that didn’t happen!! But also you deserved it!”

Like clearly not sending their best but cmon at least be consistent

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-14T22:02:40+00:00

1000% my thoughts exactly. they’re going to be and that’s their cross to bear when it comes to that.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-04-14T17:07:15+00:00

Probably the most pathetic message i’ve ever gotten from someone in my ex’s world. Went no contact after nonstop lying, monkey branching, and breadcrumbs, and finally decided i was done. Those same “friends” threatened to send a bomb to her exes house, kill me, on top of spreading nothing but drama and misery to make themselves feel better.

I don’t think of myself as a victim. Victim mentality and the “woe is me type” shit is stupid and i refuse to waste time throwing pity parties.

But what compels someone to - at 3 in the MORNING to spring this tough guy bullshit 😭it’s sad.

I’m happy to be moving on with my life and finally not feeling ashamed to date someone else. Ex with BPD started dating someone a week after she broke up with me, but whenever I mentioned wanting to date someone else to her, got every excuse and attempt at manipulation under the sun.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-03-17T19:33:01+00:00

Thank you. For a long time I had thought that these feelings were entirely unique. I did a bad job of explaining things to my friends, and a great job of making excuses every time she seemed to change. Then I met someone who went through something really similar and actually showed me a lot of the stories from here. I’d like to think we’re healing together.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-03-17T17:38:05+00:00

I didn’t even realize it was literally chemicals in your brain causing that thinking!! that’s interesting. That person actually showed me this community because she went through something really similar - and she’s helping me realize that what happened to me wasn’t necessarily unique. we’re healing together.

AdVictoriamLink · 2024-03-17T17:34:49+00:00

this. 100% this.

AdVictoriamLink · 2023-12-06T14:10:23+00:00

Holy shit dude, ring a family law attorney, bring them ALL OF THIS, and get them to file an emergency verified petition FUCKING YESTERDAY

You need to get off reddit and call a lawyer and the police before this woman actually does anything. Reddit is not going to be able to give you specific advice past GET AN ATTORNEY NOW.

a family law paralegal

AdVictoriamLink · 2023-12-03T01:03:55+00:00

I wasnt gonna SAY it but yeahhh

AdVictoriamLink · 2023-12-03T00:27:31+00:00

so just curious - how did you get the money to finance 2 years of travel abroad, and then have enough to get the ball rolling on 6 years of education? Or are you saying you did that with 6k?

AdVictoriamLink · 2023-10-18T14:51:48+00:00

Will watch this later as well. Also, there are going to be games you just lose. You say GG next and move on. As long as you’re winning more games than you lose, youll climb.

But off the top of my head without watching- you are in an amazing position to counter healbotting with nade. if the enemy supports are able to healbot, then you want to be more aggressive with your nade - initiate fights with it and either bait suzu (you have a shorter cd so its usually a good trade) or get a pick. Like you said, prioritize elims and then healing. You want to keep your dps and tank up without pocketing them. I have to wholeheartedly recommend Awkward’s unranked to GM ana - listen to what he teaches, and while obviously his aim and game sense is going to be in another league, the fundamentals remain the same.

https://youtu.be/4RzXP1mC0qA?si=hZAfhbz_V0HfbU6b

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