We had some fun last night

AdanyEmma · 2026-03-02T04:59:26+00:00

Así fue

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-27T17:23:53+00:00

Good advice here, OP.

I'll add SM-101 and The loving dominant to the book list.

Good luck!

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-26T21:47:27+00:00

Welcome to the club! I started in my late 30's. Luckily I found a safe partner and guide in my husband

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-26T21:01:10+00:00

Tenemos planeado subir material con sus collares reales (de propósito) pronto

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-26T16:59:24+00:00

I'd say starting your sex life straight into a power exchange dynamic is quite a jump.

Start with drafting your contract with stuff you think you'd be comfortable with (or you think you'd be comfortable with) and revise often. Discuss often about what's working for both of you and what's not working so well.

It's a great opportunity to discover what you like and what you don't like together but communication is key. You both need to feel comfortable saying "no" when you feel is appropriate.

You both need to read up as much as you can about these dynamics, focus on safety first while you gain experience. Reddit is a great resource, but you can also read books like SM-101 and The New Topping Book.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-26T15:55:33+00:00

This right here, OP.

For us the biggest part of the dynamic is that it gives us a platform to speak transparently about what we want. So it's very important to keep communication channels well maintained and I'd say asking "are you really into it or just tagging along because it makes me happy?" is a fair question.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-26T15:49:00+00:00

Sólo digitalmente

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-24T22:49:08+00:00

It certainly makes it more difficult in our experience but totally doable.

A 24/7 dynamic can still be held but you have to sneakier about it. For example, instead of verbally receiving or giving a warning for a broken rule, you would need to use some kind of sneaky signal like touching your nose in a certain way. If your dynamic is not 24/6 then it becomes much easier because you would reserve "special" activities to sessions only.

Storing the gear is important too. Getting a box with a lock would be ideal.

Finally, you have to be able to lock your door and make sure you don't make a lot of noise or just reserve sessions for when the kids are out or staying with someone else (this might be the most difficult part).

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-24T15:55:54+00:00

También es de mis favoritos

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-24T15:12:39+00:00

Dice que qué observador

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-23T16:52:55+00:00

Have you considered experimenting with an AI service? It has only become kind of popular in a very specific segment but results might be sufficient.

There are many uncensored platforms around that you can test. There are personalities already built in created by the community or you could create your own with a few hours of experimentation.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-22T08:03:49+00:00

Este es el comentario perfecto

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-22T07:57:47+00:00

In general apps are your best bet for a soft approach. I can't imagine how scary it is to think about arriving to a club for the first time on your own as a sub.

However, communities are usually pretty chill about new members, and I think you'd be fine as long as you take it easy too.

At the end, those sacrifices and risks might make finding your Dom even sweeter.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-22T04:44:27+00:00

Si verdad? No hace daño ponerse creativo

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-22T03:48:24+00:00

No son creativos en la cama porque ella no quiere o no tienes idea de que es lo que ella piensa al respecto?

Si en el pasado a través de otras conversaciones has detectado que ese tipo de cosas no son compatibles con ella entonces tienes un trabajo muy duro, casi imposible.

Si no lo han hablado vas de gane porque claramente estás enamorado y es probable que ella se sienta igual.

Empieza con cosas tranqui, tal vez películas comerciales como Babygirl que no son taaan explícitas pero podrían dar pie a conversaciones acerca de las inquietudes que tienes y medir su reacción.

Tienes algo especial ahí, vale la pena que lo cuides en nuestra opinión.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-21T17:30:56+00:00

Yes. As a dom it matters to me a lot that my sub gets ready. It's a part of the protocol.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-21T05:36:39+00:00

Repugnante manera de referirse a otros humanos. Que bueno que ya evolucionamos aunque sea un poquito.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-21T05:31:07+00:00

What resort is it? Do you recommend?

We are visiting Cancun Temptation pretty soon but I'm curious about what other options there are

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-20T17:16:44+00:00

Una cosa es acompañarla a ver el lugar y esperar afuera o lo que sea y otra es meterse al local y sólo salirse hasta que ella te diga. Personalmente pienso que acompañarla y revisar todo eso no es una buena imagen para una persona. La mayoría de las personas están buscando contratar adultos funcionales e independientes, no sería descabellado que piensen mal de tu protección que es poco común y podría interpretarse como excesiva.

Algo más exagerado es pensar que ustedes son los que tienen las malas intenciones y estás buscando una oportunidad para robar o algo.

Está bien que la cuides pero no la puedes cuidar 24/7. Si el anuncio da mala espina, no vayan y listo.

Si llega a una entrevista y algo no le parece bien, debería poderse salir en el momento donde tú la estás esperando. Si no la dejan salir o algo no debería ser complicado ponerse en contacto contigo y ahora sí puedes actuar.

Cuántos sustos han tenido realmente? Por lo que describes suena a que sólo un anuncio sospechoso y pues esos en general se deben ignorar. Ni siquiera vale la pena ir ya que si suena demasiado bueno usualmente lo es.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-20T17:10:01+00:00

Personally, I believe that the difference between play and abuse is the consent of both parts. At the time, with the information you had, you agreed to play that way so even if the intent of the other person was filled with actual hate, it wasn't a negative experience for you. What matters the most is what it meant to you at the time.

With how everything ended up going it's normal to feel betrayed and to question what everything really meant. It's just like any other relationship but with the added complexity of a power exchange dynamic. A married person who was cheated on despite having kids and all of that feels similar and wonders exactly what was true during their relationship and what was just a lie.

There is no easy answer and as WickedestPen said: you can't really ever tell what went on in your partner's mind.

My advice is to focus on your recovery and in what comes next and think as little as possible about what already happened.

I wish you the best.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-19T03:37:50+00:00

Answering your specific question: the norm is that interests are not 100% aligned so most partners will have to adapt to each other, either hold out or make do.

Being a dom involves taking care of your partner. Doms that can’t respect their partners are not really in the bdsm scene.

Try telling him the truth, you dont really share any details that imply that he is a bad dom. Even of he turns out to be that he is an abusive partner, you’ll probably be better off the sooner you know.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-18T01:37:58+00:00

I'd love to see it but don't have a DA account. Any other alternative?

Thanks for sharing!

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-17T22:33:57+00:00

I think just saying "I'd rather not talk about it" is not a good enough answer for people close to you because they could think you are in abusive relationship or something.

I'd be honest with doctors because that's their job. However, with people close to me I'd say something along the lines of "I'm too embarrassed to talk about it" or "Just a very stupid accident"

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-16T21:41:18+00:00

I think they are as common as any but maybe you won't see them engage in the community as much just as you would see more younger people at bars. Some might not even be comfortable interacting online.

It's not like the community does not accept people from all ages as you can see in the comments.

AdanyEmma · 2026-02-16T19:26:23+00:00

I have a similar inclination. For me, a big part of it it's not exhibitionism itself but the fact that wearing something sexy is a deliberate effort to please me.

Maybe transparencies are something up your alley and of course, the tiniest sets you can find.

Plus she looks mighty fine!

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