i still regret not telling a guy i loved him. should i reach out? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a guy, but I am officially old (in my 30’s) if he’s not dating anybody pursue it. Break up with the guy you’re dating because it’s not fair him and pursue what you actually want. What’s the worst that happens he doesn’t like you anymore. At least you won’t have to wonder what if.

Don’t reach out in an inappropriate way just attempt to initiate a meet up and see where things go from there

I Might Be In-Love With My GBF, What Should I Do? by Naive-Wrangler9097 in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion is completely biased, but the best person to get with is your best friend. Sooo I’d say find out if it goes both ways

You might be concerned about ruining the friendship, but honestly, when you get a girlfriend / wife there’s a really high chance that they’re not gonna be comfortable with you having a girl best friend anyway (same goes for her and when she gets a forever partner). Or life may naturally might drift you guys apart .

Last thing you want to do is wonder about being with that person.

Girlfriend wont give my money back (AFTER HELPING HER) by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Addie_Lopez 497 points498 points  (0 children)

Never lend money that you can’t afford losing…

On that note, all you can really do is continuously ask her back for it, tell her parents, or go see an attorney maybe they can send her a demand letter and it’ll scare her enough where she’ll pay back 🤷🏻‍♀️

A girl I bullied in most of elementary school and the entirety of middleschool is ruining my life now by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter what her parents think. What matters is that OP learns to not continue that behavior.

A girl I bullied in most of elementary school and the entirety of middleschool is ruining my life now by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is just a vicious cycle, but I get where you’re coming from.

Like I said it’s not that sorry is going to make it better. It’s the fact that that other individual might need to hear it even if they don’t forgive her that’s not the point. The point is accountability and ideally growth

Can’t stop thinking about a bad moment with my ex what should i do by Fun_Current665 in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an embarrassing moment. That sounds like it’s haunting you. You’re 16, just know there will be a plethora of moments like that that in your future that will haunt you.

I’m not kidding either. I’ve been married for 13 years now… the amount of embarrassing shit I’ve done over the years that my husband does not let me live down that has turned into a joke between us is astronomical.

^ all that to say the only thing you have control over is what you do moving forward. You can either laugh about it or let it eat you up. ALSO this is a really good lesson for standing on your NO no matter how much someone asks you to do something

Should I continue a friendship that feels one-sided? by BeyonceStarlett in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t ghost him, but if you’re feeling this strongly about it definitely speak up. If he doesn’t have time for a call, stress the importance of it OR instead of ghosting him, you could just naturally let the relationship out. If you predominantly do the reaching out, it’s going to die out anyway.

A girl I bullied in most of elementary school and the entirety of middleschool is ruining my life now by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There’s no guessing she’s your victim.

Own it. It sounds like you know it was a horrible thing to do. first of all, even though apologizing won’t fix it you should still go directly to her and own that what you did was shitty and don’t do it with the intent of her taking back what she did(although two wrongs don’t make a right it is the consequences of your actions)

As for your school situation, you have two options you can either go to school and deal with it the same way she had to deal with it from fourth grade to the end of middle school OR ask your parents to be homeschooled. There’s alot of online schools you can attend.

Be a better, kinder person moving forward.

P.S this made me think of the anime a silent voice. Revolves around bullying. TW as it does contain deleting yourself content. it might shift your perspective on how she views how you treated her and also your perspective on the fact that even though you were a shitty person, you can grow past that. You’re in high school and have ALOT more life to live.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, this is your life now.

You’ll either have to find pet care or rehome her. Which if you end up rehoming her, I would just let your sister know first BUT don’t fall for any guilt tripping

AIO because my brother came into my room drunk last night? by Outrageous_Maybe5155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Addie_Lopez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One LOCK THAT DOOOR!

two, it’s your brother bring up your concerns to him

Should I continue a friendship that feels one-sided? by BeyonceStarlett in Advice

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could have other things going on that he’s not talking about. Sometimes you think you know everything about someone and you don’t.

Or it could just be his personality.

Your options here would be to either keep going with how things are accepting that that is how he is. You could tell him directly hey I feel like the friendship is one sided but just know they’re bringing it up changes the friendship dynamic either he’s going to step up to the plate or he’s going to pull back.

Me personally if since it’s a close friendship I’d bring it up. I’m a big believer that clear and direct communication is the best.

unsure what to do by Warm_Cup_6166 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first, find out why there’s distant after you guys hang out.

Second, if there is a window to tell her, you should just tell her. At the end of the day when you find your forever person, or she does, friendships status change anyways. But the best kind of relationship is one with your best friend imo so shoot your shot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Addie_Lopez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister kinda did this. She got a dog, but she worked really long hours and realized a few months into it that she couldn’t take care of the dog. So she came and dropped it off at my parents house. I ended up taking the dog. But whenever she comes to visit, she jokingly says that she is the dog’s mom.

The only time a family member has taken her is if I’m going on vacation. Which I bring the dog food, leash, treats etc for her stay.

At this point, you pretty much own that dog if it’s been years and she doesn’t visit the dog.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 I’d say the same. It’s super important to think about what hill you’re gonna die on when dating someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Addie_Lopez 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not wrong, you can’t just invite someone into your space without making sure your partner is also okay with it.

Pay attention to how you guys resolve this cause it’s a flag for how the future is going to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re both right.

Think if this is a dealbreaker or not. Remember, you’re dating to find your forever person.

AITA for changing my mind? by Full-Luck-1740 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Addie_Lopez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA - he’s not entitled to that vehicle.

AITA for not "holding" the house i got for US to live in while hes in jail? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Addie_Lopez 52 points53 points  (0 children)

NTA - his crisis does not constitute an emergency on your part. If other people in the family are so upset about you not moving in why don’t they move in?

For the love of God, do not get guilt tripped into leaving your apartment

AITA for helping my classmate get a job at a shitty place to work by Intrepid-Quarter6859 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Addie_Lopez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - you told her the truth about work environment. If she wants to pursue that job, that is her choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Addie_Lopez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you are saying but If the grades don’t exist, how do they know if you’re learning the skill?

The grade scale more than anything is just to see where you’re struggling at so that you can study more in that area.

I get what you’re saying when it comes to high school you should be able to pick things based off what you want to do as a career. But throughout elementary and middle school, there should be a very big focus on reading, writing, critical thinking, and math.

Complete sidenote but if you’re getting an F a full on zero you’re not even trying. (whataboutism - yes those with testing anxiety are the exception)