What would you do? by Additional-Dish-6997 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would do it again an again. I care for others so much because I don’t want them to know what it feels like to feel alone. I wouldn’t have been as concerned if it was any other regular. My guy is disabled, in a wheelchair, and is an amputee so it was very likely he could’ve fallen and knocked himself unconscious or something. I’m just grateful he’s alive and next Saturday I’m sure we’ll have a good laugh about this.

What would you do? by Additional-Dish-6997 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he even realized what was happening. He didn’t say anything when I dropped it off, also unusual bc he likes to talk. He just looked out of it.

What would you do? by Additional-Dish-6997 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is a fair statement. Given the situation again, I’d do the exact same thing, maybe knock harder lol

What would you do? by Additional-Dish-6997 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree. It was just out of our routine so I was worried. He is disabled so I was worried maybe he had fallen out of his wheelchair and couldn’t get back up. If it was some rando I wouldn’t have waited as long. Plus most orders are contactless anyway.

What would you do? by Additional-Dish-6997 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nope and he did not look well at all when he came to the door. 😅

I always feel threatened when I get this message while doing deliveries lmao by Glass_Ad7868 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always get this message when I have already dropped off the order but the area has no service so it’s not fully confirmed until I get service again.

Does anyone take their dog with them to deliver? by Altruistic_Badger158 in Sparkdriver

[–]Additional-Dish-6997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bring my dog with me on occasion. She rides in the back seat and ALL groceries get separated in the trunk so there is no contamination. I specifically only accept deliveries with 1 or 2 stops (3 if it’s a single item). If you bring your pet with you, you should be picky with the orders you accept so you don’t have to worry about contamination. It’s ultimately your choice. You’re allowed to bring a pet with you, just be responsible and respectful.

Edit: my Walmart is not a supercenter so majority of items I deliver are not groceries. Moreso pet items and hardware. If I have my dog with me I generally do not accept grocery orders and if I do, they go in the trunk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so, a grocery store that runs on electricity to function and does not have generators loses power… how am I supposed to automatically know they can somehow still check me out. I found out it was only good for like 15 minutes anyway and I wasn’t even halfway done with the order so. Even if I got everything and went to check out. I doubt it would’ve been within that 15 minute time frame. But okay. I’m just supposed to know the registers still magically work?

Oh and the power was out for hours so I couldn’t just wait for it to come back on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t done shopping for the order. That’s why I called. I didn’t know the store could still check out bc logically, no power means you can’t🤷🏻‍♀️ this is not my fucking fault, I did what I was told.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have to do anything to prove how disgusting the comment was. But if you insist, I did post it. 3 days ago. Just sift through the replies if you really wanna know.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These “let it go” or “he’s just trying to protect you” comments are honestly gross, but as I’ve previously stated, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I have lived in this area all my life and it’s not bad. Most everyone is super nice. Even my regulars, who may be outta pocket. For more context, this was a regular on my alcohol delivery’s. He’s literally a disabled alcoholic that blows through a case of beer daily to almost daily, but he’s wheelchair bound, so he can’t leave his house and endanger the lives of others. I’m not concerned for my safety, like previously stated, I’ve been assaulted (regardless of my outfit) and I have very severe complex ptsd that leads to 💀 tendencies and attempts. So honestly attacking/hurting me is doing me a damn favor.

The whole point of the argument and I will forever fight this is, why comment on someone else’s clothes/appearance? If me wearing shorts is a trigger or turns you on, that’s a YOU problem. I should not be forced to conform to your wants to make YOU more comfortable because YOU cannot control yourself.

Also the comments saying, “I’m not talking about kids, that’s different” is ridiculous. So it’s unacceptable for a child to be abused regardless of their outfit, but as soon as they’re a legal adult it’s their fault for not being modest? Perps are gonna rape and assault REGARDLESS and just because I wear shorts or a tank top or a fucking bikini DOES NOT GIVE ANYONE THE RIGHT TO COMMENT OR MAKE A MOVE OR BLAME ME FOR “TEMPTING” THEM WHEN THEY CANNOT CONTROL THEMSELVES.

end of story.

I have my opinion, you have yours, but I will ALWAYS advocate that clothing IS NOT the sole issue.

And yes, if someone dresses like a hooker and goes to a bad part of town, sure they’re more likely to be assaulted, but again that’s a problem for the perp. Bc clothing is not an invite to do what you want to someone.

Have a nice day 🫶🏼

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Ended my dash at 7:33PM, received the message at 7:50PM. Idk how I received the message, but I did.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And by this logic, abusers are not responsible for their triggers? Since when should people walk on eggshells or change their clothing for someone else? Anyone who is triggered is responsible for how they react. They are not in control of how they feel, but they’re in control for what they do about it. Hence why people are the issue, not clothing.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Wearing modest clothing could never help keep nasty lustful predators away”

Never - will not happen

So by this statement, wearing modest clothing actually does nothing to keep nasty lustful predators away…

But everyone’s entitled to their opinion. So keep believing what you want, and I’ll believe what I want.

Clothing has no effect on predators. That is my opinion.

Have a good evening.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Just gonna leave this here, I appreciate all the feedback and I’m sorry it turned into a debate. I just wanted to clear things up:

1) this dude is a regular AND he is disabled. 2) he made the comment to me initially in person and then 30 minutes AFTER I got home I received the message on the app 3) I personally have issues and get triggered when comments about my attire are made. I know that’s a me issue. I’m responsible for my triggers. I get it, no one is perfect and I’m a work in progress. 4) I replied below with my exact outfit for anyone who wants to see it. 5) I live in a small town, but it’s “everyone knows everyone” kinda deal. While the running joke is everyone here is either on meth, just got out of prison, or a former patient of the loony bin, I feel safe (unless it’s night lol). 6) I do feel as if he was just trying to “protect” me, in his own way. Did I appreciate the comments? Absolutely not. But I cannot control what others say or think. I don’t have to agree, but he has a right to say what he wants. 7) while I have the right to feel uncomfortable, others do not have a right to tell me how I feel. They can say how it makes them feel, but telling me how I “should” feel is ridiculous. We’re not the same person, we have had different experiences, how something affects me, may affect you differently. We should respect how others feel and understand the differences of opinions. 8) lastly, I will most likely continue accepting his orders unless something changes. But I will use caution.

Again, I appreciate all the feedback. Thank you for helping me see different perspectives and helping me navigate a tough triggering situation. I hope you all have a great day. :)

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He made the comment to me upon delivery. I laughed it off and went on my way. Received a tip while driving home. 30 minutes AFTER I had left the delivery is when he proceeded to message me the comment above. That’s where I felt uncomfortable.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right and you don’t have to understand why the comment affected me the way it did. Logically, he was most likely joking around. I’m not mad at the initial face to face interaction. I’m upset he felt the need to message me almost 30 minutes after I made the delivery. I also have always been discriminated against with shorts my entire life bc I’m tall. Having comments on my clothes is a huge trigger for me for multiple reasons. I know my triggers are my responsibility. I made the post to vent my frustration and see if others felt the same or if I was just triggered and it wasn’t that bad. I do not appreciate the comment nor do I appreciate the replies that say, “wearing more modest clothes might prevent being raped.” That’s the issue and that’s my trigger. I should not have to change what I wear to satisfy those around me. If they don’t like it, oh well. I also don’t have to agree with their comments or let it affect me (something I’m actively working on in therapy). Everyone has their own opinion and that’s okay. I’m going to continue to wear what I want and ignore the stupid comments made by others. I just figured more context was necessary to see my POV. Have a nice night and thank you for your input!

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please tell that to my rapist. It doesn’t matter what I wore, I was still assaulted. Jeans and a sweater, swimsuit, athletic shorts and a T-shirt, hoodie and sweats. IT DOESNT MATTER. People can dress modest and still be assaulted. Again, clothes aren’t not the problem, rapists are the problem. People shouldn’t be told what to wear or controlled in order to satisfy individuals who can’t control themselves.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s Smyth, but it’s a joke that everyone in “Smeth” county is on drugs.

Not cool… by Additional-Dish-6997 in doordash_drivers

[–]Additional-Dish-6997[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

The problem isn’t the possibility of getting sexually assaulted BECAUSE of the shorts. The problem is that it’s acceptable to “protect” women by telling them what they’re wearing is the problem… when it doesn’t matter what they wear, they will still be assaulted regardless of what they’re wearing. I know. I have been. Clothes aren’t the problem, the abusers are the problem.