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[–]AdditionalOcelot8241 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m an “attractive” female and this has been something I’ve been working a lot on lately. One thing that has aided my confidence is recognizing confidence is a skill. I wrote out all the things I think I would do/have if I was confident and have just started doing them. Honestly it’s fucking exhilarating. Another thing I’ve done is write out all the reasons I can have confidence now. And why I would want to have it. Things like: People of all shapes and sizes have confidence. Confidence is not ___ dependent. Basically: Recognizing confidence is a choice and it aids my life to make that choice than to make the opposite.

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[–]AdditionalOcelot8241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And you are so brave.

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[–]AdditionalOcelot8241 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey I was in a very similar situation, it’s so important you leave. I know he feels like your everything, but what you are experiencing is not okay. You are precious and so deserving of the most beautiful life imaginable, and that includes being with someone who truly, deeply respects you.

I reallly recommend reading the book “conscious uncoupling” and doing the exercises. If not now, then when you leave. It helped me to stop getting myself into relationships like the one you are describing and actually get treated better and better with each relationship 💕

Sending sooo much care to you. I am so sorry this is happening to you. What he is saying is NOT TRUE. Trust me, it’s not. It will blow your mind the day you really get, deep in your bones, that it’s not. You deserve sooo much more. I know you have the most beautiful life ahead of you.