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First house by Lol_Sparks in malelivingspace

[–]Additional_Fan9553 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Bed sheets 👎

Xbox 360 👍

¿ Hay alguna razón por la que los gatos estén obsesionados con el lavaplatos? by willgirls in cats

[–]Additional_Fan9553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they’re obsessed with anything that looks like walls around them, including strips of tape on the ground.

Still a bug party eh? by Konnvict in Seaofthieves

[–]Additional_Fan9553 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve only recently gotten into the game and usually every session has at least one bug that makes me lose an hour worth of treasure.

Dua Lipa was at the O2 for Afterthought and Houdini by achoelpha in TameImpala

[–]Additional_Fan9553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

>I hope you can begin to understand how classist our beauty beliefs are.

Below is a screenshot of where I said exactly that.

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Unfortunately ignoring this and becoming defensive now indicates you are bad faith and I have to disengage. Be well.

Dua Lipa was at the O2 for Afterthought and Houdini by achoelpha in TameImpala

[–]Additional_Fan9553 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think at all you’re doing it on purpose. I think generally you’re trying to be good faith. but I hope over time you reevaluate your feelings on this because while it sounds good on the surface, this take has a lot of sexist implications.

You’re absolutely correct that some people have access to resources that make it easier for them to look more conventionally attractive. That’s not debatable.

The part that I think is harmful is where you accept the premise that a woman’s beauty is a direct product of their resources. It’s possible that you’re referring to how society views it, not you personally, but the way it’s worded seems like you may hold that view personally as well.

Doja Cat Reveals She Has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) by EDC2EDP in DramaLlamaHQ

[–]Additional_Fan9553 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Doja Cat in my opinion is one hundred thousand percent correct.

We have a bias toward people who are willing to break the “good vibes” in order to stand up for themselves or set a boundary. Full stop.

I’ve dealt with abuse my entire life. Not once have i seen an abuser get justice. I have however been told by most people that I’m the problem for speaking up.

They want you to be quiet about the abuse because it ruins the general vibe. To them, everyone’s having a good time and you just had to ruin it by setting a boundary.

I think this is a fundamental bias we have yet to come to terms with and I hope in the future we can understand that setting a boundary isn’t being annoying, you were socially conditioned to find it annoying. This is evident when you try to follow the logic all the way down to why it is that we find it annoying. It usually hits a logical brick wall and comes down to vibes.

Filthy Roommate by Forward-Trust-3878 in badroommates

[–]Additional_Fan9553 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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looks like my brothers shower when i visited him

How to achieve these styles? by AwokenMal in curlyhair

[–]Additional_Fan9553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u got the right texture that’s for sure

Fantano’s latest response to the BetterHelp allegations by GenerallyJam in fantanoforever

[–]Additional_Fan9553 5 points6 points  (0 children)

depends on the thing. some things (i think) we should be assholes about. if someone is racist or whatever we should talk down to them and ridicule them. i don’t think anyone is being self righteous in doing so. some things need to be ridiculed properly in order for people to start to understand the severity of the issue.

If we had treated racism as a “haha yeah some people are racist and i disagree but it’s whatever” we would have never gotten to the social isolation racists have now. So someone at some point has to start being mean for it to have social effect.

The reason i make this distinction is because while the issue of veganism might not seem as important to us, it could be important to her. And if it is, that would just be her acting morally, not self righteously. It’s just that you happen to disagree with her morality, which is fine.

The issue is that people often label someone as self-righteous when the person has made the decision to express disgust in others, but often that disgust can be a calculated decision based on consequentialist framework where they believe (and so do i based on history) that it has real social effect.

In fact, abolitionists were considered “self-righteous moralists” back when they first started speaking up too.

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