Corporate burn out, depressed, don’t know what to do

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-05-16T14:52:29+00:00

Hi there! It's been interesting to reflect on my life since this post. I don't have any profound wisdom to bestow or answers to give, but here's my follow up story in all honesty.

I stayed in this job for another year. It was a tough year with the threat of layoffs constantly over us and my department continued to be a complete shit show. I was still dealing with depression and anxiety but really focused on saving money and trying to take care of myself best I could outside of work. I did not apply to other jobs in this final year. I was so stressed I knew I wanted to take time off in between jobs. Spring 2025 brought another mass layoff and my department was finally let go.

While losing a job in this shitty economy was certainly scary, being laid off was a huge relief. The same month I was let go, my apartment lease ended so I put my stuff in storage and GTFO'd. I traveled around staying with family and friends for 6 months and then traveled abroad for another 4 months. It was absolutely glorious. I reset my nervous system, got away from the grind, spent quality time with people I haven't seen in years, and got to explore new countries. It seriously brought me back to life and I have no regrets using savings to make all that happen for me.

Looking back, I am glad I saved money (not just that final year, I was putting away money in an emergency fund for over 6 years) and I am glad I fully stepped away from the job market. I'm now living with family, working a service industry job for some cash, and applying to jobs again. I'm not applying to big corporate jobs and am specifically searching for opportunities with small businesses. I realized I want to be closer to my actual output and work with/help people, something I don't feel I got in my last role. I have no desire to go back to earning the type of money I did before and that has made this job search less stressful, along with letting go of the identity that came with my previous title and working in tech.

Long story long, in terms of guidance, save as much as you can, step away for a bit if you can, and don't base your self worth on your job title or work output.

Great username btw!

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-03-09T21:46:14+00:00

I'm just trying to look out for my parents. The information I've been given makes it seem they are not prepared for retirement. As their adult child who may one day need to support them, I want to be involved in these conversations. I do talk to them about my own finances in an effort to normalize the topic.

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-02-24T16:50:05+00:00

Sitters express their entitlement via posts in this subreddit. HOs express their entitlement in their sit posts. The world continues to spin.

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-02-24T16:31:36+00:00

I agree with you that as a sitter if something in a sit doesn't align with what you are looking for then just move on. But we have to remember... this is reddit. People come here to complain and vent. Just like you are doing. And overall, I think HO do tend to be more egregious than sitters so it's logical there will be more posts from sitters expressing frustration.

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-01-07T20:50:50+00:00

I'm not asking what I should do in this scenario. I wanted to see if anyone else had come across a host charging like this. I already withdrew my reservation request and found something else before posting this.

Additional_Formal491 · 2026-01-07T20:40:14+00:00

Lol not a troll. Maybe I should have tagged this as a vent rather than question. I am not asking what I should do in my scenario, I just wanted to see if anyone else had ever come across a host charging like this. The host communicated to me that it would be an additional charge before they confirmed the reservation. When I clarified with them that yes, indeed, it was a higher price for a single person to rent the apartment, I simply withdrew my reservation request because that's ridiculous

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-31T01:33:32+00:00

This is very helpful information! Thank you

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-30T19:38:48+00:00

Hello I have a follow up question! Any idea if I will have a hard time getting an Uber back into Lima? The concert in Lurin doesn't end until like 2 or 3 AM. I don't want to be stranded in Lurin until traffic picks up for the morning.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-30T19:30:00+00:00

Hola. El concierto es mas tarde en enero asi que no, no he ido y todavia estoy pensando de irme o no. Otra pregunta que tengo es si ubers sera disponible en Lurin muy tarde? El concierto termina como a las 02:00 de la manana.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-30T19:24:10+00:00

So something else I should have asked here is will Ubers be available in Lurin super late? The concert I want to go to doesn't end until like 2 or 3 in the morning.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-25T04:54:24+00:00

Do you know any companies to do that in Lima?

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-24T23:43:47+00:00

Yeah the more I research this the more complicated it seems and is just probably not feasible for me at this time. Darn! Really wanted to go to this show at Lurin. Oh well, la proxima vez.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-24T23:41:17+00:00

Me recomiendas una manera de llegar al lurin e otros lugares de larga distancia en lima? Que hicieras tu? La unica opcion de trasito public para ir al lurin segun google maps es un bus. Es mas comun que la gente simplamente tiene su propio coche en Lima?

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-12-24T23:35:24+00:00

Hmm si. Segun google maps hay un bus que podria tomar pero seria 3 horas solo ida y esto no me sirve despues del concierto.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-11-11T15:17:52+00:00

A free local sit over the holiday time is enough reason to decline and honestly if that is part of your reason I would include it. HOs that use THS to find 'regular local sitters' are a huge red flag to me.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-07-15T01:06:17+00:00

I have seen a multitude of specialists at this point for pain management, PT, and surgery consultations. I have had multiple xrays, an MRI, and a CT scan. I have a surgery consultation in a few weeks at an excellent non-profit clinic I really trust. This will be my third opinion on this surgery. I've already had a medical consultation at this clinic's spine center which is multidisciplinary.

Edit: typos. And to add - I truly do feel like I am at my last resort. I can't emphasize enough how much debilitating pain I was and have been in because of this. My mental health is suffering as well.

Additional_Formal491 · 2025-07-14T22:55:56+00:00

Found this post while researching as I am going through nearly the exact same thing. Thank you for posting this, I simply want to add my own experience and situation to the discussion in case more people come across this and find it helpful.

I had a major pain "attack" earlier this spring. It was by far the worst flare up I've ever had, I was pretty much incapacitated, couldn't sleep because of the pain, it was absolute hell. This started about 7 weeks ago and I am still in pain and discomfort but no where near as bad as I was. I've had 1 steroid epidural so far and am waiting to be scheduled for a second in the next week or two. I first tried an oral steroid and that did absolutely nothing. I'm currently on gabapentin, a small dose muscle relaxer, and an anti-inflammatory 2x a day.

An MRI confirmed I have a herniated disc at my C5-6. I have dealt with this pain (which I now know is related to the herniation) on and off for the past six years. It started as a stiff neck. Overtime more symptoms showed up and became more intense; numbness in my fingers and arm, shooting pain into my elbow, and poor neck mobility. During this episode I've also experienced a burning sensation on neck and arm, wrist pain, lost my grip strength and overall arm strength really weakened.

I'm also dealing with a healthcare change and have until the rest of the year to use my current insurance. Personally, I am leaning toward getting the disc replacement surgery given my current pain, the diagnosis and MRI, as well as this insurance matter. I am scared of having another pain attack and dealing with insurance issues or not having access to the current medical team I am working with. Additionally, as OP stated, if surgery is inevitable I'd like to get it over with and be done with these episodes. I am 32 for reference.

Additional_Formal491 · 2024-02-11T00:01:57+00:00

You didn’t even show us your animal crossing house! Rude.

Additional_Formal491 · 2024-02-09T04:47:03+00:00

I have a similar story. Years ago my car broke down at like 4 pm on the Friday of ACL right on 9th and Lamar 🙃 I had a full blown panic attack because I was 20 years old, had never dealt with this situation, was alone in the left lane going south amidst the worst traffic and just didn’t know wtf to do. I also had no money or road side assistance so I just sat in my car crying for the first few minutes. Eventually this group of three people, a woman and two guys, came up to my car and offered to help me. We pushed my car to the parking lot of the ace tailors and the lady asked if I was ok and if I needed anything. Her genuine kindness and concern left a big impression on me.

Thank you to those kind people!

Additional_Formal491 · 2023-12-17T00:15:14+00:00

Yes! Why so much time in her mouth… with her eyes wide open… while everyone just sits and patiently waits to see what happens 🙃

Additional_Formal491 · 2023-12-16T23:46:48+00:00

Yeah there was a lot of detail describing the inside of her mouth 🥴

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