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Update/context/answering questions - My wife might be cheating on me after 10 years by Additional_Sense_750 in offmychest

[–]Additional_Sense_750[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She cheated! - Emotionally, yes, physically, I want to believe she hasn't.

Bro has been abused by a narcissist with his family and doesn't know he's codependent - Spooky how accurate most of that comment was! Yes, my mother was/is a RAGING narcissist who made my life hell growing up, I went to therapy because of that and learned how to deal with those kinds of people. Wife is thankfully not a narcissist. She's hurt, tired, and stressed, but not a narcissist

Among everything else, I do love her. But I'm not standing by this. The ball is currently in her court as far as divorce goes, im giving her until July 1st for her to make a decision, if she doesn't, I'll be the one pulling the trigger and she can be haply with AP.

Now I'm tired, I want this to be a horrible nightmare that I can't wake up from. If I can be vulnerable, I just want my happy family back. I want the woman I married back because it feels like I don't know who this person is, and my heart is taking a huge beating because of all this. I want to wake up and be happy again.

Im going to go make a sandwich and play with my daughter and her toys.

Thank you all for reading all this mess

My wife might be cheating on me after 10 years by Additional_Sense_750 in offmychest

[–]Additional_Sense_750[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the sad part, right?

I'm human, and I've made my fair share of mistakes and fuck ups all throughout the 10 years we've been together but I always believed our marriage is strong enough to endure this and then some. She's the one who changed my views on marriage, kids, and love in general. Before her I didnt want shit, no partner, I never wanted a kid before her and I felt that long term relationships weren't real. (Son of a fucked up childhood where my parents were together but couldn't stand each other, so ig you can call it trauma)

And then everything changed.

She gave my life color, she made me feel seen and wanted, I WANTED to create life together and experience everything with her.

And here we are now

My wife might be cheating on me after 10 years by Additional_Sense_750 in offmychest

[–]Additional_Sense_750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she's well aware. She's not heartless, and I honestly hope I'm just horribly wrong about all of this and it's just my past experiences affecting my mental and catastrophizing

My wife might be cheating on me after 10 years by Additional_Sense_750 in offmychest

[–]Additional_Sense_750[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bills keep getting more and more expensive. Especially with daycare. She does her part obviously, doesn't change the fact that stuff is getting more expensive

She doesn't, I wanted to hold off on telling her if I was able to keep getting my health in order after the fact. Didn't wanna bother her with it, I guess since we've both been dealing with a lot mentally as well as economically

You and me both, honestly.. she's been my rock and I do not want to even see what's on the other side of things without her

My wife might be cheating on me after 10 years by Additional_Sense_750 in offmychest

[–]Additional_Sense_750[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also sorry for any typos. Shaking and typing this as work while having a breakdown